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u know what’s funny, that a lot of girls with adhd are misdiagnosed with bipolar or some other mood disorder first, before being diagnosed with adhd.

i’ve seen a lot of bipolar posts i used to reblog and im leaving them on here. I related/relate to certain aspects of it. & being misdiagnosed was part of the journey, so why erase it?

adhd friendly reading tipp: main points are bold

so recently i made a post critiquing the adhd community and how it is centered around relatability and not the issues ppl with adhd face, intersectionality & growth. I’d like to add on how the over saturation of relatable content is a bit dangerous.

ADHD awareness and #relatable #struggles are a good thing imo. They’re a good thing because people with adhd start to realize that certain patterns and behaviors that are adhd related shortly after being diagnosed or self diagnosed. Relatable content is necessary as it’s a part of the process to unlearn self hate and come to terms with certain behaviors that arent your fault. This is why this relatable adhd content IS important to many, as ppl are still in that stage or need a quick reminder.

I do have a two major issues with this type of content though:

1. #ADHD_STRUGGLES can be/ are being used to avoid accountability

It is easy to say “I did this because I have ADHD”. Yes, adhd can make it easier for us to make mistakes or behave in a certain manner. Yes, it might be very difficult for us to do/not do certain things or controll our impulses (in my case lol) even if we try. But that doesn’t change the fact that our actions or adhd induced behaviors can still hurt people. You still need to apologize and try to avoid doing it again. Even if it does’t work out its important that you try.

TIPP: Its helpful to explain to that person what you are doing to avoid doing something again and what might be challenging for you. Because that way they know u are trying and feel that their concern/hurt is being taken seriously.

I have seen a lot of influencers and tiktokers use their adhd as an excuse to avoid accountability. If they can’t recognize that people were hurt by their actions and thus it is up to them to work on the issue. Adhd shouldn’t be a “get out of jail free card”.

2. #ADHD_CULTURE isn’t a culture

Yes, a lot of people with adhd can share similar experiences, especially if they already have something else besides adhd in common (background, upbringing, gender, hobbies, etc.) But that does not mean the adhd experience is universal.

Getting diagnosed with adhd is a privilege and it is often seen as a white people thing, because they have easier access to this. Making adhd seem like a culture or a brand just further adds on to the alienation especially BIPOC and other marginalized ppl with adhd already feel.

That is why i’m not really into influencers who are known for something else using their platform to act like adhd is their quirky branding. You should not be the face of adhd. You can and should use your platform to talk about adhd struggles. But you should also use your platform to help the adhd community.

#living with adhd #adhd #adhd culture #adhd community #neurodiverse #neurodiversity #mental health #problems with the adhd community

i hate how most of the posts in the adhd community are about

#adhdstruggles

"neurotypicals am i right?"

"guys this isn't my fault it's my adhd"

explaining struggles to neurotypicals

or relatability in general

why is there no content on

the shame and guilt that comes with impulsivity

how adhd affects ur social skills and thus self perception

how adhd affects ur interpersonal relationships

loneliness of being neurodivergent

the fact that we're more likely to have an unhealthy relationship with sex and boundaries

side effects of medication

how doctors often fail to mention and educate you on how to manage those side effects

how bipoc and ethnic ppl are less likely to be diagnosed because they are seen as "loud, undisciplined and temperamental" by teachers and doctors and thus are not given the same opportunities

how different the adhd experience is for these ppl

how young girls, women, non binary and trans ppl are less likely to be diagnosed

i feel like most of the content is made to be relatable, or educational for neurotypicals but not for ppl with adhd to actually grow, heal and help ppl

also most of the "adhd tips" ppl give is literally the most obvious solution that obviously hasn't worked for ppl with adhd or inspirational organization things

#living with adhd #adhd #adhd culture #neurodiversity #neurodiverse #mental health #adhd community #problems with the adhd community

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