Crushed Cosmonaut 𐦍⋆

i will always succeed because i am insane

[wizardarchetypes]

as we see reprisals of Y2K skinny culture (as part of fascism) people are making a lot of posts like ‘if you’re too young to remember, it was so toxic. people shamed [skinny woman] for being fat!’ and perhaps it’s useful to bring up someone like kate winslet circa 1999 being fatshamed to express how truly dire the situation was/is but i find it increasingly frustrating that the response seems by and large to be ‘wow that’s awful! she wasn’t even fat!’ [so clearly that was wrong!] and not the real point: ‘so imagine how horrible it was for actual fat people, who also don’t deserve the far worse treatment they got/get.’

[wizardarchetypes]

tl:dr if your response to fatphobic bullying/harrassment is “but they’re not even fat,” you have not gotten to the core issue. you haven’t even considered the core issue.

[wizardarchetypes]

lots of people in the tags pointing out the same thing about transphobia and especially transmisogyny where instead of centering trans women in conversations about transmisogyny, it turns into defending cis women who are mistaken for trans women like “and she’s not even trans!” instead of saying “we shouldn’t treat trans women that way.” you’re not derailing you’re 100% correct

[angerydome]

Honestly the reason we can’t have a proper conversation about anything political is because there are too many people who are either pathologically obsessed with controlling what other people do, or never grew out of the teenager mentality of “you can’t make me!!!” even if what you’re trying to do is stop them from huffing asbestos and eating lead paint chips.

These aren’t analogues for left/right; these people exist all over the political spectrum. And we kind of need to stop letting them dominate and derail the conversation.

[myragewillendworlds]

The labels and pronouns that "non-binary" people promote have been used to discriminate against transgender, homosexual and gender non-conforming people for centuries. Labelling women as non-women and men as non-men based on superficial looks and behaviors is conservative sexism rebranded as a modern ideology. Normalizing these things has been increasing transphobia for the past decade, and has been detrimental to the minds of already confused young homosexual, gender non-conforming and actually transsexual teenagers.

It's time to move past it and embrace a mindset that respects women as fully woman and men as fully man regardless of how they enjoy presenting themselves, that takes being transgender seriously as something you're born as and not as something you can choose to (not) be, and that encourages a scientific, sensible approach to all things, not in the least to provide solid arguments for why transgender treatment options should be covered by insurance as medically necessary health care.

[crushedcosmonaut]

One thing about me is that even tho I pass, and I'm a transmed, which is a label used by people that look for stealthness, I'm usually pretty open about my transition

Is not that I don't think being stealth is convenient, as well as any kind of accommodation

I enjoy showing how I don't conform to normality simply because I know is a pain in the ass for insecure people that I don't feel ashamed, as they were told people who dare to be like me should

[januscorner]

Trans Penny Fitzgerald Stimboard

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Happy Trans Visibility Day!

[crushedcosmonaut]

Hell yeah

[trzpiotka]

in fact i'd like to know less about the US

[actuallytranssexual]

Genuine question: If there can be intersex-exclusive labels, why can't "transsexual" be one of the few terms exclusive to those with transsexualism/sex dysphoria?

[crushedcosmonaut]

No one is hearing me out on this, but transsexualism is inherently (or exceptionally correlated to) intersex. Unqualifying it only because "it's psychological" is not so far from saying it is unreal. The brain is a body part as well

[helelonearth]

“Transandrocunt” is on par with zipper tits and cunt boy. If you can’t meaningfully talk with your community without making transphobic, misogynistic references to what YOU believe their genitals are then maybe you don’t actually love your fellow trans people at all.

[crushedcosmonaut]

Never ever ever I want my dick to be referred to as a cunt from "my own community" again

[crushedcosmonaut]

Most "transtrenders" are people with no introspection

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As a former inclusionist, I got more pushed to the "medical side" of transness by inclusive people than by the transmed community itself.

When I started doing my research about transmedicalism, I found myself reading coherent, sourced, well redacted explanations that made sense not only at a personal or scientific, but also to a sociological level.

While interacting with anti exclus. people, on the other hand...

All I used to read trying to inform myself and "be more open-minded" was constant reassurance that words don't have a concrete meaning whatsoever, so there's no way that someone is not what they say they are.

No floor, no ceiling, no nothing other than blissful positivity, and the premise that it makes sense for the only requisite to fit a label to be "feeling that your experience fits it, with whatever meaning that has for you, and whoever disagrees is just trying to oppress you."

If you need to twist the meaning of words to feel comfortable with them, making no real changes other than the way you label yourself, you should make some introspection on why you want to run for certain boxes in the first place.

The premise that "not feeling identified with what society told you a woman is, means you're not one" is only a way to perpetuate harmful stereotypes.

That level of abstraction belongs to people who don't want to explore what social factors lead them to feel the way they feel. Why are most people into that women that already were alternative and "outcasts" in their lives in other ways,

and, most importantly, people who are too full of themselves to get some education about how trans people fought for their medical condition to be recognized for years, and ended up with an entirely different thing built above them.

[crushedcosmonaut]

Tons of money put on hrt to grow a cock just for its existence to be denied. Natal sex essentialism is going to end me sooner or later.

[myragewillendworlds]

The "gender identity" language really was the wrong approach for explaining transsexualism and gender dysphoria. While it seemed like a sensible and simple way to try to explain things, using "I was born as X, but I identify as Y" is what opened up the gates to all the transphobic and non-sensical "non-binary" language we see today. Saying "I identify as X" relies on people's tolerance, not on logic, and it doesn't distance itself from such things as "Well I identify as a goat" and "Oh, so I can just choose to identify as a gender, then?"

The approach should be a medical one; scientific, rational, neutral. Transsexualism is neurological, something a person is simply born with. The simplified version would be that everyone's brain naturally has a gender, that which makes you feel like a man or a woman, and in transgender people, that gender developed in the opposite direction of the body's physical sex. That's the story that makes people go "Oh, that makes sense, then" and helps them understand why transgender people feel the way they do, that they're born that way and aren't mentally ill, and that they neurologically really are the gender they say they are. It garners both understanding and respect, when it's about respecting something real, and not just a request to "be nice".

It's too late to turn back the clock now, but I do believe it'll still be helpful moving forward to explain transsexualism with simplified versions of the science behind it, like this. Every single person I have given this explanation to (in real life, to people who aren't terminally online) has responded with some version of "Oh, I didn't know that, now it makes sense." Not only does it help them understand transgender people better instantly, they immediately draw the conclusion themselves, without me even needing to explain it, that this is distinct from the "non-binary" trend. The latter in particular is also very important; it helps redirect misplaced frustration with identity politics away from regular transgender people and back onto the ideology that is responsible for it.

[mortalityplays]

we have to start expressing vocal disgust at 'ironic' homophobia again in a big way. if you can't explain to me how calling a guy a twinky little fruitcake valorises the terminology vs. reducing and demeaning him for perceived femininity I don't want to hear it. nobody is off the hook for this.

[ciarspear-deactivated20240705]

i could go on for a very long time about how gatekeeping isn't evil like mainstream trans spaces have made it out to be. and it baffles me how the nondysphoric/inclus crowd can go around and say with full-chested confidence that the only thing that makes you trans is identifying as such.

for literally any other identity or subculture, something is required for you to be said identity. gay? you must like other men. lesbian? you must like other women. metalhead? you must listen to metal. words mean things, and to adapt yourself to a word when you do not fit its criteria is, essentially, lying. is it gatekeeping to have hard boundaries on what fits the criteria of trans? yes. but lots of gates exist for important reasons.

[crushedcosmonaut]

Long life true transsexual scums