Don't you know me yet? Is this life, or death?

(formerly Someoneintheshadow456)

[emeraldmercury]

If you've been getting that banner in your dash regarding the "I accidentally reported you" scam: Know that the scammers updated it to "someone is pretending to be you and committing fraud, and I reported you instead of the fraud", and are using MS Teams to communicate instead of Discord.

Scammers update their methods very quickly, so for all I know, they would have changed their strategy even now.

[emeraldmercury]

I luckily have screencaps - so here's what the scam will look like:

The fact that their username has "lockedxx" in it, and mine also had "lockedxx" in it once I got my blog back, indicates that they were a hijacked user. Once you send a mail to that ID, the hijacked user will ask you to send screencaps of the convo they had to the email as well. Then you'll get an email that looks like it's from staff (they use quirky language indistinguishable from what's in the dash also), that will tell you they never use Discord to communicate (referencing the original scam which @staff sent a PSA regarding).

Once you click the button, it will take you to MS Teams. MS Teams will be more likely to have your real name and sensitive info than Discord will, which is why the scammers changed to this. They'll ask you to provide your URL, DOB, and the country where you made the account. Then, they'll tell you to change your mail ID to the one sent from Tumblr support (as shown above) and logout from all devices. After this, they'll ask you to pay $100 to restore your account and claim they'll "refund the money immediately."

I don't know what happens after that, because this was the point where I sent them a screencap of Tumblr's own support page saying they never ask for money, and they started giving me empty threats of reporting me to the FBI. Obviously I blocked them after that. This was also my cue to change all the passwords on anything connected to this email and send out a ticket to get my blog back.

In hindsight, the support email being a gmail.com address, me never getting an email, and the shit like "prove your innocence" should have tipped me off before the asking me for money did, but at least I blocked them before they could get to me and immediately sent a ticket to the real @staff.

[caintooth]

you have to love trans women more than you hate transmisogyny, you have to love jews more than you hate antisemitism, you have to love Black people more than you hate white supremacy, you have to love Indigenous people more than you hate colonialism, you have to love the disabled and mentally ill more than you hate ableism, you have to love. you have to love.

[holyfoal-moved-deactivated20230]

“middle aged women shouldn’t participate in fandom” and you think it’s teenagers that are writing those brilliant, incisive 100k fics of your favourite characters

[cinnamonest]

I think it’s worth adding although kids are parroting it, the roots of this stuff is less ageism in general and more misogyny. It’s never applied to men. In 2000s fan culture you still saw the same targeted exclusion of middle aged women participating in fandom, but instead of a 14 year old bakugo pfp with a half-mile DNI list it was coming from men of all ages.

Fan participation in men of all ages is praised and normalized, and at worst ignored, but never really shamed (with some exceptions like adult men into mlp), but for women being allowed in fan culture at all cuts off around mid 30s or so to these people. It’s ultimately that men get viscerally upset over women enjoying and enriching their lives for themselves rather than having kids/marrying, because in their minds that is the sole purpose of a woman of that age and her doing anything else with her life is borderline criminal in their heads. That’s why you only see this exclusion applied to women, why the same tweens saying this will turn around and foam at the mouth for 30+ y/o male gaming YouTubers and the like. These internalized and normalized sentiments are being parroted

Also “men do fanart/etc not fanfiction” notice fanfiction is the only form of fan contribution constantly assigned a sense of shame/“cringe” yet also the only form of fanwork dominated by women.

[rainbowloliofjustice]

Not wrong for the most part, but it isn’t as simple as men in fandoms being praised and at worst ignored.

Depending on the fandom, men who participated were nerdy, obsessive basement-dwelling weirdos at best and pedophiles/sexual predators at worst. Not to mention, women in fandom are by in large attacked by teens and other women whereas men in fandoms just tend to stay in their own lane and leave each other alone minus a mutual shit-throwing contest.

When it comes to how people foam at the mouth for guys like Markiplier or dudes who do Minecraft and other similar games, they aren’t looked at as fandom participants. They’re looked at as accessible, minor celebrities. There is an intense parasocial relationship there between them and their young(er) audience. Not to mention, it’s helped by the fact that the gaming YouTubers are in some way attractive or if they’re faceless, their fans fantasize about how attractive they are combined with the fact that they’re making content for the audience.

Whereas with fanart, fanfiction, etc. the parasocial relationship is lacking. They’ve been gaslit into thinking that fiction, fandoms, etc. are some form of political activism that you need to do “right” because of people who prey on teenage rebellion and desire for justice but not lacking the wisdom to know where evil originates from. It’s why they call people any kind of x-phobic over ships, fiction, etc.

And because the parasocial relationship of idol or celebrity status is missing, they target them thinking that they’re doing some moral good in the world. Not to mention, older people in fandom tend to make the content they, themselves, want to see and not what these tweens and teenagers want to see. Because they aren’t making content for tweens and teenagers, they’re deserving of criticism because they aren’t as accessible as the 30-year-old gaming YouTuber who makes content for them. They’re old enough to know what they want, but not wise enough to navigate the fact that not everything revolves around them and their personal tastes.

Factor in the fact that it’s usually other women participating in these attacks too and well it isn’t as simple as thinking women should only be having children. In my experience and casual observation, most men in fandom tend to just stay in their own lane. Of course, you have those who attack women for just participating because they’re misogynistic, but their attacks are distinctly different from it being pedophilic, x-phobic, fetishizing, etc. They just go straight for and stick to the misogyny. There are very few if any moral or social justifications behind it like “protecting MLM” or “protecting children”, etc.

In short, the 30-year-old gaming youtubers get a “pass” because they’re not looked at as fandom participants. They’re looked at as if they’re minor celebrities who make content for an audience whereas women in fandom who make for themselves are not as accessible and then you just combine that with being gaslit into thinking fandom participation is a form of activism.

[unhappy-opinions]

yeah, this kind of thing is never applied to men. which is why bronies were never targeted for harassment. why the steven universe fandom totally didn’t throw a shitfit when some bronies wanted to make a site similar to derpiboru. and why there totally aren’t still bullshit stories going around about molestia or sexual harassment of underage voice actors or anything else like that. yeah cuz this kind of thing never EVER gets applied to men.

edit: oh and don’t even fucking get me started on how men were/are treated for liking anime or for watching vtubers. “this never gets applied to men” yeah which is why there totally isn’t a multipart video essay on why watching gawr gura makes you a fucking pedophile.

[re-jet-irony]

“It’s never applied to men.” Then refers to men in fandom as basement dwelling weirdos and pedophiles.

When it comes to how people foam at the mouth for guys like Markiplier or dudes who do Minecraft and other similar games, they aren’t looked at as fandom participants.

In short, the 30-year-old gaming youtubers get a “pass” because they’re not looked at as fandom participants.

Because that’s not…really fandom…? Not in the way most people consider? There’s crossover, yes, but OP mentions fanfic, fanart is also easily the first thing thought of, there is also cosplay, cons, collecting, meetups…. Men write fanfic, men make fanart, men cosplay and go to cons and talk nerdy stupid lore shit, and nobody thinks well of them for it except other nerds. You had to bring up youtube gamers to make men in fandom look acceptable.

[partywithponies]

Strange racists and homophobes on the internet seem to have access to an alternate way cooler version of TV than me. "every white character on TV is in an interracial relationship" "every show has a gay couple in it" "main characters keep having to secretly be bisexual and nonbinary" "every show has gratuitous full frontal nudity" like damn promise?? What channel???

[urlocalpyshcopan]

as a black gay person real like where y'all be finding this stuff pass the name

[brainsforbabyjesus]

for real though, those DO NOT WATCH OR YOU'LL CORRUPT YOUR CHILDREN lists put out by conservative christian family groups is where I find all the stellar tv shows. Like, shit I didn't know half of those existed, thanks for finding them for me, gonna go watch 30 hours of gay tv now!

[infamousbrad]

I think I know how this works.

For personal context, before I went to the '98 Burning Man festival, one of the things I'd read from a couple different journalists was that "everybody" runs around naked. Which, fine by me, I'd already spent a lot of time in clothing-optional spaces, I'm not fanatic about it but it's nice.

So I got there early and set up a public shade structure on one of Black Rock City's main roads and spent most of each afternoon just watching the crowds go by. I don't remember seeing more than one actually naked person the whole week. I think a topless woman passed by my intersection maybe every half an hour, sometimes once an hour. So why in the hell were people, normally pretty smart and observant writers, coming away with the impression that everybody was naked?

Then I remembered an unrelated passage from Joel Garreau's great book about the history of the outer-ring suburbs, Edge City. Mall developers told him flat-out that they tried to keep the crowds in their malls less than 5% black. Not because they themselves were racist, but because they had determined, experimentally, that if more than 5% of the people in the mall are black, the median white shopper will wrongly describe the mall as at least half black, as mostly black. And not a few of them would describe it, at 6% black, as a mall where "only black people go." Why?

Because, emotionally, they were still upset over the last one when the next one came into view.

Same as the journalists describing Black Rock City as all naked. Same as the right-wing religious culture warriors describing television as entirely mixed-race and gender non-conforming. Not because it's even vaguely true, we know that, but because they haven't gotten over their discomfort over the last one by the time the next one comes along. The anger, not the stimulus, is the part that's continuous, so their mind lies to them that it's "all" the thing they can't get over.

[kagedtiger]

Similar effect for the presence/proportion of women in things, by the way: https://health.howstuffworks.com/mental-health/human-nature/perception/how-17-equals-496-the-amazing-multiplying-women.htm

[jayalaw]

What’s the solution then? Or if there’s no solution, should we make things even queerer and more diverse?

[writingdose]

insane to me how, to some people, this is not a common sense

[catchafalling-star]

reblogging twice because omfg

[eggsaladstain]

kpop demon hunters from the perspective of the fans is so fucking funny because what do you mean the biggest kpop girl group in korea is beefing with and wrote a devastating diss track about a brand new boy band that debuted like 4 weeks ago and only has one song out

[shaftking]

Super weird (read: telling) how radfems constantly talk about how aggressive they think men are but also are constantly trying to push men’s buttons in order to make them react. It’s almost like they are acting specifically in a way to confirm their bias about men being prone to violence and anger by intentionally provoking those normal human emotions to an extreme. Almost as if going out of your way to treat people like shit makes those people upset. They are literally using basic crybully techniques (read: methods of emotional abuse) to make people lash out and then frame themselves as the victim and the other person as evil when it happens.

[nansheonearth]

Everything really is male fantasies lol

[theradicalbutch]

Ah yes, men totally commit ~90% of non-sexual violent crimes and ~98% of sexual violence because women (and other men) “provoke” them to do so. Such a reasonable take; totally not victim-blamey at all.

[smth55555-deactivated20240919]

Where was that quote that was like men call womens words violence so when they kill them for it they can claim it is self defense

[frogburglar]

rules 1 and 4

[captainvhdvhd]

Also Rule 9

[shaftking]

Another radfem not beating the “dubious grip on reality” allegations.

Ah yes the typical moid behavior of telling you to consider not insulting people just to act like a victim about it when the person you insulted insults you. The typical moid behavior of saying to be be nice. Pleaseeee keep telling on yourselves lol.

I gotta wonder if a majority of radfems are just developmentally challenged the way y’all apparently have not learned basic human empathy or an understanding of the separation of fiction and reality. Most people figure these out by ages four and eleven respectively. I would hope most high school graduates would have the basic reading comprehension skills required to understand a short three sentence paragraph at least.

[bluebabysparrow]

"moid" trans guy confirmed male by a radfem? Wow, that moment when assuming that people that disagree with them are males™ actually works in their opponent's favor lollololol

[anti-radfem-deactivated20200528]

Stop excusing women who put their hands on their husbands and sons because women tend to be physically weaker than men. Abuse is abuse, and fuck you for minimizing the experiences of male victims.

[a-broader--sensibility]

Consider that many women are wary when a man claims that a woman is physically abusing them because abusive men frequently accuse their wives/girlfriends of being abusive as a way of deflecting blame and isolating their victim. Sometimes men who describe the physical abuse (like slapping/hitting/pushing) they have endured at the hands of a female partner neglect to mention that this happened in a context of her fighting back against his physical abuse. Also, yes, women physically abusing men is much less likely to involve serious physical harm and to end in murder, and male abuse victims of women are way less likely to be financially incapable of leaving the relationship. 

“I am often asked whether physical aggression by women toward men, such as a slap in the face, is abuse. The answer is: “It depends.” Men typically experience women’s shoves or slaps as annoying and infuriating rather than intimidating, so the long-term emotional effects are less damaging. It is rare to find a man who has gradually lost his freedom or self-esteem because of a woman’s aggressiveness.” ― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Child abuse is a separate issue from adult woman-on-man abuse and involves a completely different power dynamic. Please do not conflate the two.

[anti-radfem-deactivated20200528]

Stop excusing women who put their hands on their husbands and sons because women tend to be physically weaker than men. Abuse is abuse, and fuck you for minimizing the experiences of male victims.

@a-broader–sensibility is a cunt who not just makes excuses for the abuse men go through, but completely ignores the fact that it happens. Don’t tolerate cunts like this. They’re abuse apologists, they don’t have the capacity for the human sympathy most people deserve. I wouldn’t recommend wishing death upon them, but a good fuck you never hurt anybody. 

[slumberinggirl-deactivated20210]

Hey if you put your hands on your S/O without their permission with the intent to hurt them/do something they are uncomfortable with, then that’s fucking abuse.

A playful shove and a hip bump is one thing. But when a woman repeatedly slaps her SO, or hits them out of anger, or throws things at them, that’s FUCKING ABUSE

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

@a-broader–sensibility You’ve clearly never actually seen physical abuse done by women.

“Less likely to involve serious physical harm and to end in murder.”

You clearly know nothing about abusive women.

“Male abuse victims of women are way less likely to be financially incapable of leaving the relationship.”

Someone doesn’t know how abuse works.

[bizarrolord-deactivated20241123]

“Teehee, it’s just a slap!”

…Even a slap is too much. Stop apologizing for and downplaying this bullshit.

[stopmakingliberalslookbad]

As a woman, I feel the need to inform you all that we tend to fight dirty. It goes way beyond slapping. Scratching, biting, hair pulling (it sounds minor, but a huge yank can be disastrous), and the use of weapons.

[sacred-portal]

[tim-official]

that poll going around of the guy who thought "people only eat tofu as a bit because they're deranged vegans" or whatever really crystalizes something that i have never been able to precisely say - which is "a nonzero fraction of people who start picky-eater discourse just happen to precisely hate those foods which are not from north america and refuse to introspect on this whatsoever"

[tim-official]

In contrast some people say "there aren't any picky eaters in Asia 🙄" but this is laughably untrue. I have a cousin in India who refused until his 20s to eat anything in a sauce. as you can imagine in India this was difficult. he basically had to pick things out of curry and wipe them dry

[bobcat-pie]

[star-shard]

Sometimes, fanfiction is carefully plotted out stories, with plot points and call backs and themes that all tie it up in a meaningful and exciting way.

And sometimes fanfiction is, ‘Watch me do a fucking KICK FLIP off this cool sentence!! Also here's some sex'

Both are beautiful forms of writing.

[calllynx]

Does anyone else ever have a sort of phantom physical sense when there's something ready to paste in the clipboard. It feels like I've got something in my right hand and when I click ctrl-v I put it down.

[fullcravings]

Gluten-Free Strawberry Cream Cheese Pie

[emeraldmercury]

First time I’m celebrating pride month (more like the first time I’m able to) and damn they look good but are incredibly painful and idk when I’ll be able to comfortably use my hands again…

[susanoos-wife]

[pastel-prouvaire-deactivated201]

PSA: tumblr user littlefuckinmonster is stealing human bones from cemeteries in Louisiana. Please don’t let them get away with this and spread the word/signal boost!

[wdapteo]

this post is officially a decade old now

[mutantrenegade]

For anyone who wasnt around when this happened, this was real. Littlefuckinmonster was actually stealing bones from cemeteries. She is the bone stealing witch. She was specifically stealing bones from poor people. She was arrested for it.

[proustianrevelry]

Not only did the user in question get arrested, but 4 months later, the state legislature passed the Louisiana Human Remains Protection and Control Act, created specifically because people heard about this case and realized there weren’t any clear laws about who has what right to own human remains and who enforces those rights.

[arch-user]

I actually thought this was a joke until i scrolled down. holy shit i really shouldn’t have laughed.

[officialfoxsquadron]

audiences have no idea how to be uncomfortable anymore

[officialfoxsquadron]

watch movies that make you uncomfortable read books that make you uncomfortable go to plays that make you uncomfortable watch tv that makes you uncomfortable look at paintings and sculpture and artwork that makes you uncomfortable. it is spiritually and morally and ethically and artistically really really good for you. think about why you are uncomfortable. what biases do you bring to art? what biases does the art bring to you? how do you reconcile this? how does your worldview grow and expand and change? all this and more will be answered and available to you if you just engage with art that does not coddle you and treats you like an intelligent human being that can sit through discomfort