no more

[d3sertbaby]

I'm done. I cant handle any of the toxicity I see on this website anymore. It seems every turn I take theres somebody screaming that every transwoman is a rapist or every terf deserves the death penalty. Both sides are awful, I feel awful, I made a mistake by trying to support my opinions. I cant do this, I never should've tried, its left me feeling disgusting and I hate my body more than ever. I dont even wanna open my eyes or move or breathe. I'm done. Consider this my note.

To the people who are still fighting, or have interacted kindly towards me: Dont worry. This is for the best. You're great people and deserve the world. Please never stop what you're doing.

Goodbye.

[girlsmoonsandstars]

vaginas aren’t actually triggering, you’re just men appropriating the terms of sexual trauma to further manipulate women, and that’s the real tea

[d3sertbaby]

Came across this by total chance and I gotta say, even as someone who in a sense, really doesnt have much say in things besides trans issues, this is totally unfair. I personally am not upset by the word, nor the actual physical anatomy, but you have to remember that while some people use it as an excuse, there are men (and women!) who are legitimately upset by it.

Men are not the only ones capable of sexual abuse, and I understand that this is not what this post is probably about, however, it doesnt make it morally correct by any means. Women can rape and abuse, not just men. Thus, such actions can bring on legitimate trauma for anyone. I have a friend, who is indeed biologically female, but due to his trauma, is uncomfortable, and will actually panic when presented with genitals of any kind. Is this him trying to be misogynistic? Is this him actively being a twat? Nonono. This is what others made him into. It was not a choice. For any biological men who are triggered themself, it is likely not a choice.

You cannot choose your sexuality, nor can you choose what is upsetting and what is not.

(Please note! This blog is outdated, a lot of the stuff on here, primarily relating to sex and gender are no longer the case.)

[kimreesesdaughter]

Protecting Black girls is cool until it’s a Black girl you don’t like. It’s cool until she’s unattractive. It’s cool until she’s dark skinned or plus sized. Protecting Black girls is cool until she’s trans. Protecting Black girls is cool when their hair is curly and their eyes are light. That’s a missing poster worth reblogging, right? Okay, cool.

[guiltyidealist]

Warning to Nonbinary Siblings, regardless of stance on trans issues

The user @fuckallnbs/@fucknbs-2, previously @fucknbs (see my #fucknbs tag), does all of the following to nonbinary people/supporters:

- Harasses relentlessly - Bullies - Insults - Calls slurs - Suicide-baits

In addition, she:

- Does these things to people who are minding their own business, not people who are in discourse tags - Will not stop doing it - Cannot be reasoned with or changed - Comes back with a new URL whenever banned and harasses the same people from before - Tells (nonbinary) people to kill themselves

Please, please, PLEASE: reblog this, even if you are cis or binary!! Block and report this user! If you decide to look at their pages, which I don’t recommend, PLEASE take care and avoid interaction!

[guiltyidealist]

Found them. They’re now @fucknbs-3. Block, y’all! <3

@staff, an IP ban would be lovely. This is their fifth account for the same purpose without changing what they’re doing.

Please reblog regardless of stance on trans issues, friends.

[evilkaito]

i dont think whites understand how being white makes literally everything easier.

it effects everything.

being trans is easier when youre white.

being gay is easier when youre white.

being disabled is easier when youre white.

being a woman is easier when youre white.

being autistic is easier when youre white.

oppression is eased when you are white, as you get extra privileges, and your whiteness is seen as a positive characteristic that in some ways counter-balances your other forms of being a minority. whiteness controls everything.

you are automatically way more innocent in your own oppression as a gay, trans, disabled person because of your whiteness.

never forget this.

[larainbowmisfiiit-deactivated20]

Imma judge any white person who likes this but doesn’t reblog

[txmriddlx]

Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

[theerraticace]

Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.

Trying to make a point to my father.

[switchingtogeico]

hi an age gap of 25-30 is NOT the same as an age gap of 15-20 thank u for coming to my ted talk

[momworries]

And if you think it is… unfollow me, thanks

[d3sertbaby]

Don’t talk to people with autism like small children! Adults with autism are not toddlers! You are not that grown adult’s parent! Please stop!

[d3sertbaby]

You didnt choose to be dysphoric, but you chose to transition to temporarily relieve the symptoms of being dysphoric. Thats a choice. Plenty of dysphoric people dont transition, its not a requirement

I never transitioned?? I'm closeted, the only person who is aware is my boyfriend. I even said that in the post talking about how I didnt choose to be dysphoric lol

[guys-positivity]

Hotlines and Sources for Men in Abusive Relationships and Male Victims of Rape.

http://www.mensadviceline.org.uk/

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-men.htm

http://www.malesurvivor.org/

http://www.safeaustin.org/safeplace/

Call 800.656.HOPE (4763)

http://online.rainn.org/

https://hotline.rainn.org/1in6/terms-of-service.jsp

You are not less of a man. You are not worth less.

[furiosamedea]

repeating over and over again that “trans women are women” won’t make them women, nor will “trans men are men”, otherwise they wouldn’t be trans in the first place.

you have no rights to tell me that i don’t belong in the lgb community, because being a lesbian is what I AM, not what I CHOSE TO BE.

also, acknowledging that women and trans women are different, or that men and trans men are different, is not hate speech.

pull your head out of your asses.

[d3sertbaby]

I did not choose to be trans.

I did not choose to wake up and constantly be uncomfortable in my own skin. I did not choose to have a constant sense of wrong. I did not choose to feel awful whenever I'm called he, or referred to as him.

I did not just decide to be this way.

No trans person chose to be this way. I did not choose to like men, nor did I choose to feel disgusted at every moment by my male body.

You did not choose to be a lesbian, and I did not choose to be trans.

Pointing out biological difference may not be transphobic in your eyes, but it damn hurts for a trans person. I have a penis. I am closeted and will never get to transition. I do not have a "girl dick" I have genitalia that makes me sad, makes me angry, makes me hate myself.

Dysphoria is not a game. It is a reality you have to acknowledge, and otherwise your argument is immediately invalid to a majority of the trans community.

[yourlocalradfem]

Imagine being so privileged that words harm you! And imagine having thousands upon thousands of women dedicate their free time to uphold this notion. If that isn’t (male) privilege idk what is

Well done men, you cracked the libfem formula.

If you can’t be the oppressed, say you’re one of them and say you have it even worse than the oppressed - all the while being the oppressor.

I can’t believe women are dedicating so much time and effort to supporting you and hating on everyone who don’t follow this hype..

[d3sertbaby]

Flip this mindset around. Think about how many times words have hurt women in the past. (I’ll go by your definition here so, no, not me or other transwomen.) People saying women shouldn’t have rights is harmful, yes? People saying lesbians are sinful and disgusting or something is harmful, yes?

I know this is completely different from what you’re trying to say, but the whole “Words dont hurt” argument, in my opinion, has a lot of room to backfire. Theres so many scenarios where words do hurt people, and if you flip this around to anyone else, does it sound pleasant or nice? No. It sounds like being a dick.

Say you switched this around to the verbally abused, who were degraded and hurt over and over by guess what? Words! Say you switched this around to women. Say you switched this around to the LGB (Excluding trans because again, not talking about trans people here yet.) community. It would sound incredibly wrong.

So now is the point most people would ask, “So why do this to transwomen!?” buuut, that isn’t the point here. I’m a transwoman, but I also grew up with well, constant abuse. I’m not getting into it, I don’t want to, but point is, a lot of that was verbal.

Theres transwomen who have been degraded their entire lives, not even for being trans, just for being a person. So yes, I understand this doesnt correlate with what you’re saying, but words can hurt anyone. It doesnt matter if you’re cis, trans, gay, straight, white, or a PoC, words CAN hurt you. Words can hurt anyone, getting upset shouldn’t be a sign of privilege, unless it’s over your spilled cheerios, or some other stupid concept.

You cannot run around and degrade a group of people, no matter what type, and not expect ridicule in return. I kinda rambled here, but that is all.

[yourlocalradfem]

There’s a difference between feeling hurt and literal harm. People are going around saying words harm them and I find that to be a highly privileged stance! To feel hurt by words is a totally different thing than trying to say words are literally harming you and your well being. I didn’t read all of this cus I’m busy but if I find anything else that needs answering; I’ll answer.

[d3sertbaby]

It's just worded to the sense that it does sound like that, my apologies.

Yes, in that case you are incredibly correct. A lot of trans folk overreact, but the same goes for the other side of terfs and radfems. Both have their flaws, but that goes for anything.

[yourlocalradfem]

Imagine being so privileged that words harm you! And imagine having thousands upon thousands of women dedicate their free time to uphold this notion. If that isn’t (male) privilege idk what is

Well done men, you cracked the libfem formula.

If you can’t be the oppressed, say you’re one of them and say you have it even worse than the oppressed - all the while being the oppressor.

I can’t believe women are dedicating so much time and effort to supporting you and hating on everyone who don’t follow this hype..

[d3sertbaby]

Flip this mindset around. Think about how many times words have hurt women in the past. (I'll go by your definition here so, no, not me or other transwomen.) People saying women shouldn't have rights is harmful, yes? People saying lesbians are sinful and disgusting or something is harmful, yes?

I know this is completely different from what you're trying to say, but the whole "Words dont hurt" argument, in my opinion, has a lot of room to backfire. Theres so many scenarios where words do hurt people, and if you flip this around to anyone else, does it sound pleasant or nice? No. It sounds like being a dick.

Say you switched this around to the verbally abused, who were degraded and hurt over and over by guess what? Words! Say you switched this around to women. Say you switched this around to the LGB (Excluding trans because again, not talking about trans people here yet.) community. It would sound incredibly wrong.

So now is the point most people would ask, "So why do this to transwomen!?" buuut, that isn't the point here. I'm a transwoman, but I also grew up with well, constant abuse. I'm not getting into it, I don't want to, but point is, a lot of that was verbal.

Theres transwomen who have been degraded their entire lives, not even for being trans, just for being a person. So yes, I understand this doesnt correlate with what you're saying, but words can hurt anyone. It doesnt matter if you're cis, trans, gay, straight, white, or a PoC, words CAN hurt you. Words can hurt anyone, getting upset shouldn't be a sign of privilege, unless it's over your spilled cheerios, or some other stupid concept.

You cannot run around and degrade a group of people, no matter what type, and not expect ridicule in return. I kinda rambled here, but that is all.

[nekobakaz]

Instead of Light It Up Blue for Autism Awareness, Red Instead for Autism Acceptance Month. 

[d3sertbaby]

Hey, not my usual stuff, but just a reminder:

It's okay to take a break from discourse.

You need time to take care of and love yourself. We all need time to ourselves, no matter what community you're in, no matter where you stand, you are human. You need to take care of yourself. It doesn't matter.

And if you're getting death threats? Insults? Attacked? Anything. Don't listen. Anyone who threatens or insults you is not worth your time. Who cares if you're a terf, or trans yourself! You do not deserve that. Don't let it get to you.

Have a lovely day!!

[d3sertbaby]

Hey I love ya’ll and all but, can we, as trans folk, stop using intersex people as a pawn for our argument?? That’s not okay.