27 genderfluid trans woman (?). She/they (but only they/them with permission). Bi (maybe pan?); kinky as shit, switchy but usually subby, vers but usually bottom. Follows and DMs from @daivia
I go by Daivia online and this is my blog for NSFW/T stuff! I'm a trans person in her late 20s into a whole bunch of kinky things and a whole bunch of cool people. I'm super queer and super kinky, super switchy and super vers and I adore writing about all of that (although I do tend sub/bottom). Feel free to flirt with me, tell me your fantasies, or just message me about something cool! I love meeting new people and chatting.
Kinks, hard/soft limits under the cut.
DNI: Minors (age/age range in bio or pinned or I will block), bigots (esp. homo/transphobes; eat shit). Cishets may interact, but you're on thin ice. This is a queer blog; do not add tags that make my posts seem cishet.
Kinks! In no particular order
ABDL, CG/L, Diapers, Pet play, hypno, light sadomasochism (usually recv), degradation (usually soft), praise, bondage, breeding, pregnancy (no kids pls), lactation, milking, musk, edging/cum denial, free use, dom/sub, CNC, intox, age play, age regression, forced transformation (bunnification, regression, deification, vampire thrall, more on this later), marking, bruising, pussy slapping, bratting/brat taming, fauxcest (preferably sibs), knotting, ABO, primal, omorashi
I really like being coerced into less powerful positions, whether that be through gentle regression, humiliation, or force or something else. If you want to take control from me, calling me Princess, Bunny, or a good little girl is a great start (I LOVE pet names). I do have a little space and will slip into it at times; don't be surprised if I talk more "little" sometimes (often XD). If there's something not on here that falls into this category (and is obviously not a limit of mine), chances are I'll be more than down for it.
Soft Limits
These are things I might post about, but would very much prefer folks don't bring up unprompted.
Large age gaps (like 10 yrs apart ish), findom (don’t mind seeing it; will not participate), incest, "honorifics" (more below), messing
Please don't refer to me with any "honorifics" without permission/me referring to myself with it (ie. Baby, Mistress). Pet names work really well when I'm subby (which is usually) and Miss or Miss Daivia are appropriate for when I'm Domme. These go on an individual to individual basis (as best I can tell); just because I let someone else call me Mommy does not mean it is appropriate for you to do so. Use your best judgement if this is unclear; I will gently correct you.
Hard Limits
These are things you will not find on my blog. If you bring them up, you will be blocked or ignored.
Cannibalism, scat, cheating, full non-con (exceptions will be for stories where the sub comes around eventually, think HDG or similar), anything that implies I’m a man (boy can be ok but man is off limits)
For thousands of years humanity has selectively bred chickens to have larger breasts and to have to lay eggs constantly. We did it to get more meat and per chicken, but from the perspective of the domesticated chickens they’re sorta living in a very specific fetish scenario
it's a fairly plain and straightforward truth that at this time, there are many more littles than caregivers; many more who long to be babied than those who truly wish to give that experience. there are a good many reasons for this that would take too long to get into here, but suffice to say that for now it is true (though it need not always be true).
as a result there is a very common practice of what i call 'turn-taking', which is what it sounds like- littles taking turns acting as the caregiver, meeting some amount of eachother's wants (there is an identical practice across submissives in general). what differentiates turn-taking from switching is that the caregiving partner does not really want to be in that role. it is a role they take on to meet another's needs, sacrificing some of their own enjoyment for anothers'. they may derive some level of pleasure from that of their partner, but ultimately they'd choose to be on the other side if they could.
(note that i am describing this as if it is two people, but it's often a group variously taking turns.)
i have seen a few people express very critical attitudes toward turn-taking and paint it in a very negative light, which i think is a bit unfair. of course turn-taking is nobody's ideal. anyone would rather participate in something more mutualistic. but it's a practice that arises when people have unmet needs they can't find another way of fulfilling, and it seems cruel to lambast them for seeking out a way that if done correctly does benefit both parties. sometimes interesting dynamics can arise from turn-taking as well that respect both people's preferences while allowing one to take a caregiving role; for example maintaining the little identity of one while the other takes on the role of their doll or toy.
with that said, there are some negative aspects that often arise within turn-taking that i think are worth talking about in specific. the most obvious manifestation is when one partner is simply not giving their fair share. they allow others to push themselves into a role that is not their preference and do not do the same in return. this is selfish behaviour and no good! children must learn to share playtime and let everyone have a go.
sometimes, this lack of sharing arises from failure of communication. one partner believes they turn-taking, the other simply thinks their partner is acting as caregiver. it can be difficult to ask for your turn, but you cannot expect it to come if you never do.
at other times, one partner feels pressured to pretend they are enjoying taking on this role, or perhaps they enjoy it a little, but are pushed to make it the entirety of their play because they are willing to do so. this is unfortunately common. many of us are poor communicators or very unwilling to be the source of disappointment or to let someone down. it's important to be conscious of this tendency in yourself and in your playmates. you must be proactive both in expressing yourself and in learning what your playmate is thinking, feeling and truly wants.
sometimes as well, people simply opt out of their responsibility. they may even be encouraged to do so by their playmates out of guilt or desire to please. this is going to be a bit harsh, but i often do not like the boastful sentiment i see expressed that someone is 'so little they make other littles feel the need to look after them' (similar to the idea of a submissive so pathetic other subs with no normal dominant instincts want to dominate them). at times this is a perfectly fine space to inhabit. it is a very pleasurable and validating feeling to be the littlest of all. however you must be very cautious that you understand this is not actually a natural, fundamental extension of who you are, but a deliberate dynamic you are getting to inhabit. you cannot abdicate your role and presence within that dynamic, and you must take responsibility for it, not treat it as simply a natural arrangement of things (outside of the immediate space of play). in many cases when i see this dynamic, i am not actually seeing 'the littlest' or the 'most pathetic': i am seeing 'the least willing to adopt a role that doesn't suit them'.
i went back and forth on this next part but after talking to @innumerable-voices i feel more certain of saying this: if you are going to ask others to compromise on their wants to take a caregiving role you have some obligation to reciprocate, and conversely if you are not willing to ever adopt a role that doesn't suit you you should not ask others to do so for you. at the minimum you should be trying to find an interplay you feel okay in that lets you reciprocate a little. simultaneously, if you are feeling resentment or distress at a role you are being pushed to inhabit more than you'd like, you must express this clearly.
it is your role as a good playmate to investigate what is actually occurring emotionally within your dynamic from both perspectives and be a conscious and deliberate actor within that dynamic, with the aim of ensuring everyone gets to have a good time. even very little kids must play well and play nice! 🌷🌷
Now I'm going to be fantasizing about girls in ballet outfits trying desperately to perform the movements of their next piece while ignoring the bulk of their diaper encumbering them. What was once a delicate graceful thing is now making the same mistakes a little girl just beginning does. Just imagining them doing every movement and trying desperately not to let the overfilled padding leak all over their pretty tights.
watching a sweet little thing become such a ravenous hound that she has to be muzzled while her Mommy allows her to pin me down and helplessly grind her locked-up crotch against me~
Alright pup, Mommy's girlfriend is going to be staying the night tonight. Do you remember what the rules are? That's okay, you're just a silly little puppy! Let me remind you.
You'll be sleeping in your cage instead of at the foot of the bed.
You'll have proper attire on for the whole evening. Tail, Cage, Collar, nothing else.
You'll be joining us for dinner, but you'll be eating out of your bowl.
My girlfriend will be giving you your nightly walk before bed.
See, those aren't too hard to follow! I'll even make sure Mrs. Bear is in your kennel so you don't get lonely while we have our fun.
Oh you're practically wagging with excitement! That's my pretty little girl! Such a good puppy!~
any sweet, squirmy girls want to come have a struggle cuddle with mommy?
you can squirm and pretend to fight me at first... all bratty little whimpers and half-hearted pushes. but we both know how quickly you’ll melt the second i wrap my arms around you, pin your wrists down, and whisper against your ear:
“shhh, my pretty baby… stop fighting. you’re mine.”
soft kisses turning into bites, my hand sliding under your shirt while you tremble and get all wet for me… until you’re nothing but a needy, breathless little thing in mommy’s lap.
you can bite, scratch, and claw all you like, kitten. Those marks will heal. I can barely feel the pain through the pleasure of burying Myself in your tight, wet cunt anyway.
The way your body is reacting to Me, I can tell it's going to be very, very welcoming to what's about to happen. Did you know why they call this a "mating press"? you're about to find out in a very hands on type of education.
Oh, and before you think about doing anything silly, I'm going to come find you every. single. month. until you carry to term. you don't have to believe Me. I'm happy for you to learn your lesson the hard way. The thick, rigid, throbbing hard way. Every month. Forever.
Why is this happening to you? Oh kitten, because I'm stronger than you. Because I'm smarter than you. Because My genes are all the right mix of talents to make sure they're passed on, and your genes are all the right mix to make sure you pass them on.
Maybe if you weren't designed for breeding, you wouldn't be bred. Sounds like a you problem.
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