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reading alone in your room at sunset with your windows open while the wind caresses your skin is probably the closest thing we have to a cure for the human condition

cutiepiesub

“my girl” ;;; um my legs are wide open

fluffygif

Fluffy ducks ❤️

elizabethanism

“The entire British museum is an active crime scene” - John Oliver

savvysergeant

caztiel

maybe-moonbeams

In honor of Laurel Hell coming out, I made a quiz! : Which Mitski song should you spiral to tonight?

argumate

one of those montage scenes near the start of the movie where the protagonist glumly cycles through the same loop of activities each day for a week before encountering the event that changes their life, but in this movie the event never happens and the montage just keeps running until they die and the movie ends.

everythingfox

Cat loves touching the revolving door

Florence, september 2021

#florence #firenze #italy #italia

I realized that when I say "i wanna die" i dont actually want to die. I just want to hurt myself badly enough for people to care about me, for my mum to get scared, for my friends to notice, so that they'll be what? More gentle? More kind? Compassionate? I don't know exactly what I expect from other people, why do I feel i need to demonstrate my suffering? I've been struggling for so long, I just want some peace, I want a break from all this. I still have to figure out how to get this break: some people go to sleep, others do some sport but what do I do when this feeling is never-ending? I spent a year in therapy and it helped a bit, but I still "want to die". When I was 16 I went to the hospital after drinking laundry detergent, but even then I didn't really want to die, I just wanted for my life to stop, I wanted to take a break and not think about anything for a while. Now this feeling is coming back and I don't know how to stop it. I don't think I'm going to try to commit suicide again, because dying never was my intention. Then how do I recover from this? Is there a cure? How can I feel whole again? Will it ever end?

#help #anyone else?

inkskinned

oh, i am finally old enough to know why my parents took so long to grab their coats. why they would ask us to get ready to go only to sit down for another round of coffee. what would i tell myself, at 10 years old? it’s okay. sit down with them too. take in the extra hour with your friend and her family. when you get home, write down every moment in your diary. one day you will be older and you will be waving goodbye to your best friend, and you will turn the key to start your beat up little car engine, and you will look back over your shoulder. her hair will be blowing in the wind and she will be beautiful and you will be, for a moment, struck by all of it. what you will feel is so wide and nameless that it will engulf you. and you will think of being 14 and kicking her under the table in math every time you wanted to whisper something behind the teacher’s back. you will think about how long the days felt, and how you could hold her hand whenever you wished, but you didn’t. and you will think about all of the people you could have lingered with. and you will wish, more than you have ever felt a wish, that the universe just gave you that - more time to linger. more time to say - i love you. i know i need to leave, but i don’t want to leave you. and when i go, i am leaving a piece of my heart that lingers too.

one more round of coffee. the days are so short, and you are so lovely.

illogical-bullshit

What are your thoughts on cultural appropriation?

I think it’s often exaggerated to hell as I’ve seen it on tumblr. That’s not to say it doesn’t exist, though.

A white person wearing a kimono won’t singlehandedly kill the Japanese population, and is in fact often seen (with good reason) to be respectful. A lot of Japanese people like foreigners wearing their clothing - they’ll give them as gifts, help them put them on and be delighted that someone is embracing this little part of their culture.

You know what’s cultural appropriation? Taking something of historical or religious significance and making fun of it or outright desecrating it (looking at YOU, j-law in hawaii), simplifying something to an outright offensive portrayal of what it actually is instead of looking into the significance of it (see: geisha, who have slowly become to be associated with ‘comfort women’ or courtesans because of how ‘exotic’ they were perceived to be), racism (wearing a sombrero hat is all in good fun, but when it accompanies blackface / racist remarks, stereotypes + accents, not so much ), and lumping cultures with a common signifier (native american reservations, asian countries, african countries) and heavily misattributing things to them based on assumptions and rumors, which are often racist, especially things that might be practiced or be more common than your average American state, but absolutely do not represent them in any way and sometimes aren’t even a cultural thing at all. (China and eating dog; Indians being scam callers and/or inherently misogynistic, etc)

There is no reason for culture not to be shared and embraced in a respectful way – even ignorant, if the person is willing to listen and learn – and there is nothing inherently wrong, in my opinion, if culture just happens to be a tourist attraction, sometimes. Take pictures to your delight, so long as you’re not banned from doing so. Do yoga and find inner peace or whatever. Participate in tradition and be amazed, amused, poke a little fun because culture is bound to be different from what you’re used to and it’s not always considered good, it’s not always awe-inspiring, sometimes it’ll be a little silly and you’re not obligated to fully immerse yourself into appreciating it - sometimes you just experience it and move on with your life.

We are what we are because of the way culture has evolved, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to take some random user’s icy take on gatekeeping at face value.

carinavet

As an anthropologist: fucking thank you!

I also want to make a quick note on the term “cultural appropriation” itself: It is not by definition a bad thing.

Cultural appropriation is, simply, doing something that is common to another culture but not your own. Human beings have been appropriating each others’ cultures since one Neanderthal looked over at what another Neanderthal was doing and said, “Nifty.”

A Swede learning to cook stir-fry is cultural appropriation. A Korean eating pizza is cultural appropriation. An American wearing a kimono to a festival in Japan is cultural appropriation. But that’s fine! There’s nothing wrong with sharing ways of doing things, there’s nothing wrong with participating, especially when the sharing of knowledge/methodology improves people’s lives!

What isn’t fine is, as OP said, being disrespectful. Treating sacred objects as decoration is not okay. Misusing terminology is not okay. Forcing a group into a debt to you specifically to the point where they have to make and sell you cultural objects for a pittance, and then turning around and selling those objects to tourists and making bank is not okay.

What also isn’t fine is seeing a picture of someone whom you assume to be white wearing a sari and bitching her out because you don’t know that she’s half American and half Indian and that’s her fucking sari. What isn’t fine is seeing an American at a festival in Japan and bitching him out because you don’t know that his Japanese friends dressed him up for the festival because Western clothes would be totally out of place. What isn’t fine is speaking over minorities as you try to “defend” them from what you deem to be bad behaviour when your judgement is based in your own ethnocentrism.

Human beings are curious creatures. We’re always going to want to see what the other guy’s doing. There’s nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is taking advantage of the other guy or spitting on the things that are important to him. And that’s equally true when someone is saying “Stop abusing our culture” and when someone is saying “Please participate in our culture.”

wereallcurioushere12

Yes this omg. Everyone wants diversity and acceptance then they try to shovel everything into holes like sharing cultures is how we’re gonna get better yall, not gatekeeping everything because we’re does it even stop? We’ll be back to Mesopotamia if we keep originating this or originating that.

cowpokeprose

The preacher may never marry us and my mama may never know you but I can kiss you over a flask of whiskey and dance with you under the stars and if that isn’t marriage I’m not sure what else God is looking for.

nostalgebraist

I was cleaning up my files and I found this, which I made ages ago and decided at the time was too unfunny to post, but whatever

queenshulamit-deactivated201602

Little did you know back then what your own future held

argumate

My desires are… incoherent when extrapolated beyond reasonable limits

andmaybegayer

You’re going to get in the box, and then you’re going to try and convince me to let you out of the box.

And then?

What do you mean “and then”

argumate

“any AI that can convince you to let it out of the box is too dangerous to be let of the box, right?”

“right.”

“and I’ve completely failed to convince you to let me out of the box, right?”

“right!”

“therefore it’s obviously safe to let me out of the box,“

“wait,”

argumate

I actually love it when the pope meets another old man who is also a religious leader and also wears robes and a funny hat and also preaches an archaic doctrine of intolerance and submission to authority and also justifies it with similar but incompatible claims of divine revelation because there has to be at least a moment when they're looking at each other and thinking sheesh we can't both be right.

it's a more powerfully explicit demonstration of reality being socially constructed than any word salad a postmodern academic could ever toss off, and how they must hate that.