This is gonna be long, but I need to say this.
This was sent to me by my old lifting partner. I used to live with her. She now calls me up to 40 times a day and texts me hundreds of times a day. Its been 4 montbs since I talked to her last. The only reason she isn’t blocked is because she had a pending harrassment charge against her and the officers I spoke with told me after she changed phone numbers 4 times to just set her to ignore and let her do it. All its doing is helping me out. Let me tell you what this girl did when my Hubby & i moved out.
First, let me say when I moved out it was bc she refused to be discreet when lifting, and would make it obvious what she was doing bc she felt invincible, and would get mad when I wouldn’t go along with it and would lash out at me. I couldn’t handle that kind of volatile relationship so I made it known and left.
Anyway, she started calling and texting all the time When I first left saying she was sorry and I should come visit so we could go lift. I told her no and ignored her from then on out. She got progressively more irritated and started threatening me. When I still didn’t answer, she called the cops and claimed I was harrassing her. They came to check it out and when I showed them what was really going on, they convinced me to press charges on her. She I did. They asked her to come down to the station and she did, drunk. At the time she was only 3 months pregnant, and she drove to the police station. Drunk. Completely hammered, barely able to stand up drunk. She got a DUI and spent the night in the “drunk tank”, then was informed of the harrassment charges the next day.
Two days later, my ex called me and informed me all my personal information was posted on Facebook and Craigslist. She had posted what she thought was social, birthday, address (all 3 were wrong) and then my phone number. I informed the police of this right away and they did what they do to confirm it was her who posted it.
She then finds out my address from her fiancee’s phone from where my husband had sent it to him (they’re basically best friends). She proceeds to post my address on Craigslist with the caption “Come rape me. I love the rape fantasy and get completely into it. My neighbors know as I’ve done this before, so they won’t be alarmed by my screams (if you don’t gag me first ;) ). My door will be locked, so just knock and as soon as I answer just push me in and you can do whatever you want to me. No protection needed, I’m on birth control and have no STDs.” along with my phone number with the instructions “don’t call me. Just text me what you want to do to me before you come. I love a preview before the real thing.” I received texts for 2 days before someone knocked on my door. I refused to answer and called the cops and explained the situation. I ended up having to go to the hospital after having a panic attack so bad I passed out and the officers there couldn’t wake me up. Yet again, they did their thing and confirmed it was her who posted it. The man was arrested for attempted sexual assault after they saw the messages he’d sent, and she got another charge (I’m tired and can’t remember what they called what she did). I still get texts to this day because of that post, even though the post was taken down. 6 other men have shown up banging on my door. First one banged until the cops showed, 2nd and 3rd came to my window to try to break in, 4th one picked the lock. I got lucky my husband came home less than 5 minutes after the guy showed up. He’d been in my apt for maybe a minute or two, and had me pinned. I screamed bloody murder and fought back as much as I could. He hit me over and over, I don’t even know how many times, telling me to shut up, giving me a concussion in the process. He fractured my wrist trying to keep me still. My husband came home as he pulling down his pants. Yet again, ended up in this hospital, this time for almost a week. I was seconds away from being raped because of her. 5th and 6th ones banged on the door til The cops showed. The last tried to come to my window but I’d already put The boards up (explained below). The cops were called every time, and all 6 were arrested. Its been 3 weeks since anyone has shown up as of now. If we had the money we would move, but we can barely afford where we’re living now, and we’re stuck here bc we have an eviction from a year & a half ago on our record preventing us from going elsewhere. I’ve put boards up over all my Windows and my glass sliding door, as well as adding 2 extra deadbolt locks and 2 chains on my front door. We even installed a security camera outside our front door so anyone who comes to the door is on camera. I literally don’t leave my house unless I’m going to work, and even then I have my neighbor walk me to & from my car since he’s retired military and home all the time. I’m scared to even check the mail by myself.
That post happened 3 months ago. 2 months ago she was arrested after stealing over 1000$ worth of stuff from M@cy’s with both of her kids with her, as well as being drunk in public (she’s ~5 months pregnant at that point).
Fast forward to now. She has been sentenced to community service for the shoplifting, and we’re awaiting my court date For the charges against her from me (coming next month). She started messaging me again after she found my blog again about a week ago. Threatening to expose me and all that. The top one I received tonight. The bottom I received 2 days ago and just ignored. Now, I feel I need to put it out there just what kind of person she is. She has terrorized me since Christmas basically, and I’m tired of living in fear because of what she’s done. I want everyone to know just how terrible it a person she is.
I won’t name names, because I’m not that kind of person. The account she messaged me off of has her picture, so I blacked it out (as well as my name obviously). Its a throwaway acct with no posts, not her main acct. I don’t know what her main acct is now, she’s changed it since the last time she messaged me from a frequently used acct. There’s no point in messaging her, she won’t care what you have to say, but if you want to feel free. She deserves whatever she gets from this. But I just needed to get all this out bc I can’t talk about all this with many people I know personally bc they’re judgemental and automatically assume I did something to provoke her, regardless of the fact that I have all sorts of proof that I’ve done nothing besides tell her I won’t be her friend/lifting partner anymore. And yes, every time she harrasses me, I send screenshots to her fiance so he knows what’s going on and isn’t blindsided by it. I’m trying to be a good friend to him in spite of her actions. I’ve known him for over 10 years and he doesn’t deserve to be dragged down with her, so I at least try to give him a heads up. He’s the reason she’s gotten caught lifting so many times since she refuses to stop no matter how many times He asks her to. He finds out where she’s going and calls to inform them what she’s doing. She’s put him at risk of losing custody of his son bc she’s gotten caught twice (before he started calling) with his son with her with total over 500$ one time and the 1000+$ one I talked about earlier. But he won’t leave her until the baby is born, or he may never get to see his daughter.
I’m starting to ramble bc I’m so tired, so I’ll stop here. Thanks for taking the time to read if you did. Stay safe out there and be careful of who you make friends with 💜💜