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I think about this every hour of every day of every month by the way

and very, very often, self care is not plants and ice rollers and fluffy blankets of peace.

it’s standing over your kitchen sink and crying while doing the dishes because you just want to go back to bed but the dishes need done. and you don’t know why you’re crying but you're trusting you need it. and you aren’t listening to the music that pulls you into a spiral; you’re listening to some cheerful shit your friend sent you. it’s getting up and staring at your fridge and closing your eyes and then cooking yourself food even though you hate it and it’s miserable. because you know that you’d cook for your friend, and you are trying to befriend yourself. it’s dragging yourself into the shower because you know you’ll feel better afterwards. it’s doing mundane tasks with patience, cursing under your breath, trying desperately to give yourself grace. grace is the beginning of care. care is the beginning of love.

we think it’s supposed to be peace and yet the most powerful self care moments are when we hate everything but especially ourselves. and life does not feel worth the loving. to look into that pain and yet choose to care for yourself in however many pieces you are — that is care. love. grace. trust. belief. it hurts because it’s love where there was no love before. it heals because it believes there will be love, one day, soon.

why-i-love-comics

Batman: Wayne Family Adventures #97 - "Wonderful" (2023)

written by CRC Payne art by Starbite, Geoniya Acuna, & Suzi Blake

#wonder woman #bruce wayne #diana prince #batman

milesgmoralles

Barbie (2023) + the internet

bonus:

#barbie

GeekGirlCon 2023

Way back when in 2011, Sara and I heard about a little something called GeekGirlCon. It was a new con then, launching for the first time, and we both decided that we absolutely had to go. We ended up attending the inaugural GeekGirlCon and had an absolute blast, so much so that we decided to come back the following year. We got to hear from Gail Simone, Anita Sarkeesian, some of the Fraggle puppeteers, and I met up a with a very helpful and inspirational group of women in tech that I'm still in touch with today.

The weekend that Sara died, I scrambled to try to find ways to remember her. A few were obvious, like reading her fic, listening to her playlists, skimming our old texts and the fic that we wrote together way back in 2005 (yipes!), and recreating her grilled cheese recipes. Another was less concrete: the idea of returning to Seattle, a city that we both loved and where we had made great memories. I tucked the idea away for moment and returned to it later that evening, only to see that GeekGirlCon 2023 was scheduled for October 7-8.

An hour later, I had a con badge ordered and had made travel arrangements.

So, if anyone else who knew Sara happens to read this and is able to attend GGC, reach out! We'll figure something out and find a way to remember her together.

#dearophelia #geekgirlcon #seattle #in memoriam

mintamenapie

Shout out to all your internet friends who are gone.

Those messenger screen names that haven’t logged on in ages, some before detailed profiles were a thing on those services.

Those emails that are long since abandoned, some with domains that no longer exist.

Those online friends you knew years ago and who then helped shaped you in some way, who you just can’t FIND anymore.

Those people who once were, and hopefully still exist IRL, that seem to have no known internet life anymore.

And those who have actually passed on, and their online lives are now a memorial to them.

I miss you all. I hope life is/was kind to you, and maybe one day, we’ll somehow connect again.

heckyeahgrilledcheese

Not the greatest melt, but I'm a little out of practice.

11 years ago, Sara and I started this blog because we were going a liiittle stir crazy from the start of a Midwestern and Northeastern winter. We also shared a love of grilled cheese. Deciding that we'd come up with as many variations as we could, we thought we'd make a Tumblr about it, because what else did millennials do in 2012?

Here we are, on July 30th, 2023, and Sara's gone from this Earth. I hope she's at peace out there, wherever she is, whatever comes after life, if anything. I have to hope. For her, for my parents, for anyone else who has experienced an inconsolable loss. The only way out of this is through.

In honor of Sara, I'm going to recreate a few of her recipes and try to get back into coming up with my own. I'll make some grilled cheeses, or what some might more accurately describe as melts — ultimately it doesn't matter what they're called, because we started this blog to celebrate all things grilled cheese.

So, Sara, here's a homage to your ham + gruyere + gouda and pickle on sourdough. Ham, swiss, mustard, and pickle on Trader Joe's Tuscan Pane.

Shout out to the TJ's crew members who gifted me with a bouquet after I shared the story of this blog and what I intended to do with all of the great cheeses I'd bought. Thank you, thank you, thank you for brightening up my day, even just a little bit.

#dearophelia #grllledcheese #heckyeahgrilledcheese

xxselenite

I want to thank the Barbie movie, because not only it's going to be a masterpiece that will change my life, but it also made me realise that Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds are in fact two different actors

elljayvee

we'd all watch Deadpool vs Ken let's not even act like we wouldn't

elljayvee

Deadpool & Ken's Summer Roadtrip

Deadpool & Ken's Motorcycle Fun Time

Deadpool & Ken's Surf Rock DJ Hour

Deadpool & Ken's Chimichanga Recipe

littledeviantsworld-deactivated

Did you ever just feel so lucky for knowing someone you met online? Like.. I was one click away from not following you. I was one second away from never even knowing of your existence.I would never have been this happy!!!...

heatandapathy

Has a videogame ever made you cry?

No

No but I've come pretty close

;_; (name the game/s in the tags)

Voting ended onMar 19, 2023

#spider man miles morales

doradotcom

where's the oscar for whoever made this gif

rawrda

This is your daily reminder to not be ashamed of making your life easy for yourself.

Cut your food into small pieces, make the font size 30 on your e book, use straws to drink, get a pen that’s comfortable to hold, take more naps, walk slowly, eat another cookie, buy velcro shoes, re-watch the part you couldn’t understand the first time, write things on your hands so you don’t forget it… whatever you want and/or need

Don’t let anyone tell you how you should be doing things. We don’t need to prove each other anything