Dates Like This

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GO VOTE!

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Watch: Samantha Bee gives a literal vagina monologue to take down Trump and the GOP still behind him

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We hope you are all celebrating yesterday’s wonderful, monumental victory!

HAPPY PRIDE WEEKEND!!

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After reading about Rodger’s “manifesto” — I couldn’t read it myself — I was struck by how impossible his demands on women were. How impossible the general demands on women are — doubly so for black women, other women of color, trans women. The list of everything expected of women as a group and a woman as an individual goes on for days, and even when those requirements are satisfied, there still remains some patriarchal reasoning for why she deserves pain. Thinking of Rodger, thinking of saying yes and saying no: the rule of the sexual contract means that once you’ve said yes to anything, anyone, then you have relinquished all rights to safety or choice, and you can be blamed for anything that’s done to you. The rule of compulsory sexual availability means that if you say no to any man, any time, his anger will be deserved, and you can be blamed for anything that’s done to you. Maybe nowhere is this violent and impossible double bind more clear than in the case of the overwhelming violence against trans women, often killed by men who are sexually attracted to them — saying no to sex is unforgivable, but saying yes and having a trans female body can be too. Within patriarchy’s guidelines, any failure to meet a man’s sexual expectations is enough of a transgression to be punishable by death. So many of us spent so much time — still do — trying to figure out which choices we can make to avoid being hurt, avoid being in danger. I know I did, and do. How to turn down the drunk, surly guy who my male friends keep inviting to parties in such a way that he won’t follow me out to my car. How to respond to catcalls from a car when I’m on the sidewalk on an empty street in such a way that they won’t chase me or run me down. How to react to a sexist joke from a sexist boss in such a way that I won’t get my hours cut for unspoken reasons. The idea that our actions have consequences, that we can to some small degree control outcomes in our lives is so seductive that we keep trying to work out the right combination. When we start to feel like that’s not possible, like we aren’t able to take any actions that will affect our lives — when we do everything right but we still get shoved into an alley or wall or back of a car — it can start to get difficult to keep going.

Rachel via On Continuing to Live In the Same World that Made Elliot Rodger (and Many Like Him) | Autostraddle (via autostraddle)

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When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around...

[humansofnewyork]

"I once threw a pen at a kid’s head for raising his hand in class and saying that PMS should disqualify women from leadership positions."

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We Can’t Get Out Of The Bedroom Now.

Shirley Maclaine on Parkinson in 1975

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Mind. Blown.

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Happy Valentine's Day!! 

Here's hoping you find someone to smooch!

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Chimamamda Ngozi Adiche, We Should All Be Feminists

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The most powerful thing anyone has ever said to me: “You deserve to take up space.” 

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Dates Like This is part of a Buzzfeed List! Our elevator makeout session is just too much for some people to handle. #elevatormakeoutsession #buzzfeed #buzzfeedlists #16waystomakeeveryoneinanelevatorhateyou #loveit

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Neil Gaiman’s Advice to Aspiring Artists

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A few more photos from ITVFest!  Top is director Jessica Solce, and co-creators Leigh Poulos and Hannah Vaughn. Bottom is Hannah Vaughn and Sitara Falcon from The Men's Room. 

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Dates like this date to the Rom Dot Com premiere!

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Happy Coming Out Day!

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