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A chaotic table of contents for posts I made (mostly) & reference sometimes, but can never find when I need to. Because nobody can stop me!

*If you’re here because some asshole told you I used to be a TERF:

In, like, 2013-14, one of the feminist pages I followed said they didn’t think trans women were women, I turned tail and ran, and then that interaction haunted me & filled me with fear/guilt for allowing someone like that to get anywhere near me. for years after. I was a teenager at the time. I have no idea how my talking about this turned into “nothorses used to be a TERF”, but uh. suffice to say it’s a fucking lie.

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Transmasc Discussion

“Transandrophobia” Primer

Identity vs. Position

Testosterone is not a “violent” hormone

Masculinity is not inherently toxic & Femininity can be toxic

Cis manhood is not the golden standard of manhood

On Transandrophobia

Transandrophobia on Tumblr

Transmasc experiences in statistics, Follow-up., Additional follow-up

How transandrophobia works  

Twitter thread on transmascs by @Azure_Husky

In the Wake of Elliot Page

J.K. Rowling and Trans Men

Hating transmascs is still transphobia

“Man hating” feminism hurts transmascs

TERFs love it when transmascs and transfems hate each other

Weaponizing feminist talking points against trans men

Common arguments against transandrophobia

“Trans-Inclusive” Radfems

Building Transmasc Community

Why Are We Silencing Each Other?

Yes, we know misandry doesn’t exist.

Trans Men & Male Privilege

Transfems, Transmisogyny, and the Fight to Recognize Transandrophobia

Other Discussion

On “Transunitism”

Queer History & Resources

“Transgender” and what it used to mean

Cis people fucking with gender is good for trans people too

TME/TMA’s “Identity = Oppression” problem

TME/TMA & Perception

TME/TMA Origins & “AFAB Privilege”

What Were Baeddels?

Common TERF talking points

Exclusionist Tactics 

“Kill all Men” & White Feminism

Yuri On Ice & Queerness

Interview With An Ex-Radfem

Hot Allostatic Load & Callout Culture

Competition vs. Obligation

On M-Spec Lesbians

Joan of Arc & “Crossdressing”

Resources

Transmascs of Color Rec List

Transmasc Creators Masterlist

TransTape: A Guide, (Don’t buy it on Amazon), Kinetic tape isn’t always cheaper

Types of Top Surgery Incisions  

My Top Surgery Experience

Transmascs in History

Baeddelism

Let’s Talk About Baeddels (Part 1) (Medium ver.) (Video reading)

When Baeddels Took Them (Part 2) (Medium ver.)

Brushes with Baeddels (Part 3) (Medium ver.)

I’ll be updating this when I think to!

[learn-how-to-love]

I hate posts like these that attempt to split hairs over individual oppression points to argue that one group of trans people has privilege over another (especially since, if we must, trans men notably have higher rates of sexual assault and less representation in government than trans women, facts that get conveniently ignored or even actively erased in these convos) because well. It’s unproductive, but even moreso it becomes a breeding ground for rank TERFish transphobic bile to be spread around uncritically:

This is what TERFs believe, wholesale, and is just transphobia, nothing more. If you genuinely think it’s okay to say that trans men “transitioned to manhood to benefit from the patriarchy” you aren’t safe for trans people to be around, yes even if you’re trans yourself. The idea that this is somehow “queer solidarity” would be laughable if it weren’t so depressing.

[intersexcat-tboy]

I am once again mentioning that this "study" had 700 LGBT respondents. For the entire thing. This is compared to the 2015 USTS (link) which has 27k responses from JUST trans people. It shows that trans men, and nonbinary individuals who were AFAB, have a lower income on average than trans women and nonbinary individuals who were AMAB. In fact, in 2015, trans women in the US have the HIGHEST yearly income compared to any other subcategory of the trans community

[intersexcat-tboy]

Saw this on Twitter and figured it would be enjoyed here

Pic does have alt text but post it here too:

Lots of trans women clearly hate and resent trans men for simply wanting to be men when they didn't and its odd / You project the disgust you have towards your own self perceived masculinity onto them and punish them for it / It brings me soo much happiness to see my husband get to find joy in something I never did

[han-the-human]

I'm so pissed off that the movement which villainizes and infantilizes trans men and erases nonbinary and intersex people is being called "transfeminism"

Because I think we do need a feminist movement that focuses on trans people!

All trans people!

And creating a system like TMA and TME is such a bullshit and unhelpful way to do that

Like "yes we will put everyone into two boxes, "good oppressed real trans woman" and "evil malfunctioning women who we all hate and deserve to be murdered with guns". This system is very progressive and feminist and accounts for all trans people. If you have any issues with it then you are an evil transphobic misogynist who clearly hates all trans women."

Wow great. This is what we are calling transfeminism?

[sodomit]

Tired of being witness to this conversation.

[iridescentdepths]

Using trans men as a local punching bag in order to outlet your grievances with bad cis men does nothing for you by the way. The cis men who hurt you are still not being held accountable and all you're doing is driving away part of your own community.

[bipedal-embarrassment]

Literally punching on people who have also been and often are being hurt by cis men too, also hurt by other trans people

[useless-stray]

ah yes, punching up, cause random trans men on the internet are the real enemy. can someone please tell me how I, a non passing trans man from a third world country, someone who experiences misogyny directed at me on the regular and is at constant risk of rape and assault, somehow am considered an oppressor of trans women? I do absolutely nothing to hurt you, all I’m doing is existing, but you feel entitled to hurt and berate me on the basis of how I identify. how do you people not see that as fucked up?

[arachnid-party]

something that really exhausts me in trans discourse is how people constantly try to apply cis discrimination dynamics into the one minority group it doesn’t apply to. we are so close to having a productive conversation but we keep missing each other here and it genuinely saddens me

[therapatical]

calling people any variation of "___fab" is calling them "female" as an insult

what the fuck do you think the "f" stands for? you're not slick. you sound like a fucking ferengi

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

To say that masculinity is a flawed construct that inflicts serious psychological damage to many in its current state is true. To say that femininity in comparison is liberatory and pure and the "superior option" for most or all of the people on the planet is nuclear cope. Just weapons-grade ideological myopia. Please put the phone down and only return to the conversation when you can deepen your analysis beyond "this thing is evil because it makes me personally feel bad, and this thing is pure because it makes me personally feel good".

[goldcrescent]

I also think that the strength gap is at least partially manufactured women would in fact be stronger overall if little girls were encouraged to do physically taxing games and activities and eat their fill while they’re growing vs having to constantly diet and be sedentary indoors (or god forbid do intense cardio while under-eating). The amount of adult women honestly afraid to lift weights bc they think they’ll get bulky as though bulking isn’t a full time job that athletes have to spend all their time on and anyone on earth gets shredded from just using their adult muscles for their intended purpose, girl your bone density 🥀

[goldcrescent]

if you say women are intentionally nerfed from birth in 2026 people look at you like you’re insane and start condescendingly telling you about how women are just better at different things (but not during their periods haha) but this was a completely basic feminist talking point I grew up with like “girls can do it too! [shot of little girls climbing and running with boys]” nickelodeon commercial tier base level I hate it how is everyone suddenly dumber than the average 7 year old

[ceruleanheaven]

[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at myself] its over

[cock-holliday]

reinstalled shinigami eyes to take a look at the damage and it's so much worse than a year or so ago when i deleted it. virtually every intersex blog i know of regardless of how they feel about tme/tma is marked red unless they are especially vocal about liking it, countless trans men are marked red regardless of whether they are vocally inclusive, most who are marked green are either famous guys or are (somewhat) infamous for their transphobia and exorsexism if not also racism.

Plenty of transphobic cis folks are green. Virtually every trans-positivity account is red except for the ones who are unapologetically transphobic to at least part of the community. Countless trans women who vocally uses the term transandrophobia are marked red. Several trans women who dont even use the term but have at least on one occasion defended or sympathized with trans men are red. Several trans women who are bigender/NB/Etc with inclusion of any "male" or masc terms are red regardless of whether they seem to have anything to say about trans men.

It is BLEAK. I've been trying to remove reds and greens as I assess, but it is really really gross that it was a pretty well-known soft rule a decade plus ago that you didn't mark trans people red at all even if they were shitheads, unless they were actual proud terfs, because the flagging was guaranteed to isolate them from community.

Inability to assess risk and a total aversion to narratives that contradict what you assume to be the case for others is getting people into a lot of trouble.

Shinigami eyes is completely dead and less than useless, but since so many people still seem to trust it, I do not want people to keep getting flagged as violent evil transphobes cause they started identifying as genderqueer.

[mxjackparker]

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[dragon-in-a-fez]

when a government bans young people from using social media, and then categorises messenger apps like Signal and WhatsApp as "social media", they are pushing those young people toward using text messages, a fundamentally insecure form of communication. texts are not encrypted in transit and can be read by both the sender's mobile carrier and the recipient's. that also means they can be leaked in data breaches, subpoenaed, or just handed over willingly to law enforcement at the carriers' discretion.

hmm. I wonder why governments might want this

[skysthelimit57]

Non-binary people can't use they/them because they're only one person. Non-binary people can't use it/its because it's dehumanizing. Non-binary people can't use neopronouns because they're too confusing. Non-binary people can't use he/him and/or she/her because that's not gender neutral. Non-binary people can't use no pronouns because that's too hard to use.

No matter what pronouns a non-binary person uses somebody will get mad at them.

[olenoidserratus]

The fun thing about being non-binary is that you get to watch your own "sisters" take a word created by and for gay men, regularly use it as a derogatory term for years and then turn around and say it actually shouldn't refer to gay men at all. And if you go "hey maybe that's kinda fucked up" you get called a bigot for it.

Oh but if you call yourself a femboy or an egg or whatever, *that's* appropriating transfem culture and you've gotta stop it immediately.

Yeah yeah ik it's just a joke or whatever. A joke based on ideas that you're enforcing. But whatever you're right it doesn't matter.