The Traditional Husband.
So sick of seeing all those lists of how to be a submissive wife while there is so little talk of how to be a traditional husband. So here follows a short, in no way exhaustive lists of what is required of a traditional husband in order for him to earn the submission of his wife and children.Â
Remember, if you want her to submit to you, you have to prove to her that you can be trusted with the responsibility of leading her and her children.
Always put the needs and wishes of your family before your own.
Only ever speak positively of your wife in front of others, even your children.
Yes, she keeps the house, you make the money. But once you get home from work you have help out as well. How would you like to never get the day off during weekends and evenings, not to mention holidays and your own birthday?
Open doors, pull out chairs etc.
Bring home some flowers or a little gift often.
Make it up the family if you have been working late a lot or have been having trouble at work that have made distracted and maybe short tempered.
Bring back a gift when travelling for work.
Never ever act like she owes you anything sexually.
Her family is you family now.
Take responsibility for the familyâs devotions. Lead the the collective ones, and support you wife and children in their private devotions.
If you have any criticism to offer, do so when you are alone together.
Show her you miss her when you are apart, including when you are at work.
Frequently praise her cooking, the house, the way she dresses and does her hair, the way she handles the children etc.
Share the heavy lifting around the house with you sons, so that your wife donât have to do it. Remember, we are the weaker sex and all that.
Attend to you personal grooming and make the effort to look your best for you wife.
You have the final responsibility for the childrenâs upbringing.
What goes on in the marriage bed is strictly between you and your wife.
Certainly, you have the final word. But decision making should still be a collaborative effort. And when the children become big enough you should let them have a say as well, if for no other reason than to prepare them to take responsibility for their own lives and families.
Your wife is not a child,nor a house keeper or a prostitute, so act like a gentleman and not a tyrant.
The overriding purpose of your work is to provide for you family.
Let her know that you note and value the work she does for the family often.
Men are stronger and louder than women, so try to be gentle with her, especially when you are criticising or arguing with her.
Say âI love youâ and âI am sorryâ a lot.
Keep your disagreements a private as possible.
No, she doesnât keep house for you as a reward for your work at the office. You work at the office to provide a home for you family.
Chastity is a virtue for married couples as well as for singles.
Never leave home without kissing her good bye and never return without greeting her with a kiss.
Treat your wife the way you wish your father would have treated your mother, or the way you wish that you sons in law will treat your daughters.
Keep the romance alive with gifts, compliments and dinners out.
Family before friends. Boys nights are great, but prioritise your family.
Donât be crude or sexual in the way you talk. Again, women and gentle creatures. We do not appreciate indecencies outside of love making.Â
Be the example for your sons to mould their own characters after and, for your daughters, the expectations of their future husbands.
Thereâs no reason for any man to buy a book on marriage. Just read this brief article, and youâll have the foundation of what you need to knowâŠ
Put the woman, the one who you want to surrender to you, on a pedestal, treat her and consider her better than your own mother, and remember your role as the man and as a gentleman. You donât have the excuse of your upbringing because how you play your part in your marriage is completely under your control.
I would also highlight the part about showing appreciation for her. Everyday sheâs working hard to make someone elseâs life easier, especially if sheâs stay-at-home. She needs to know none of this is in vain, and you notice her work. Thatâs really the only thing that would inspire her to do this for the rest of your life.
