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What “talking about your lived experience” IS:

Giving examples, anecdotes etc. of things you have personally experienced and how you believe your various identities contribute to it

Finding community with people who have similar experiences and engaging in activism around that

What “talking about your lived experience” IS NOT:

Saying that because you have one experience, it must mean that others that aren’t like you don’t have that experience

Dictating what other groups experience in general, especially marginalized groups you don’t belong to

Invalidating other groups’ experiences as not as bad or even nonexistent in comparison to your own

Extrapolating out your personal experiences to every member of your group, regardless of other intersecting identities

Declaring that anyone who does not have your particular experience is not really a member of your group, even if you personally can’t understand how someone in your demographic doesn’t experience the same

spaceorphan18

Okay I did kinda laugh when I saw this

thememedaddy

capacity2

I feel so bad for the annoying women at work. Like I actually feel sick when we’re interacting and I feel the annoyance occurring in my brain like she really doesn’t mean to be this way and she just doesn’t want to feel alone or rejected. you can tell she’s experienced being an outsider everywhere she goes it’s only a matter of time. And it’s not cool chic or edgy but in the ugliest most desperate and dehumanizing way. They always start hopeful. they want to connect and they go searching for someone receptive to her so she can find her people but everyone turns away from her slowly and u hear it in her voice. It’s happening again. she starts hesitating to speak and when she does you hear a shaky child ending every sentence like it’s a question. Testing the waters to know if she’s wrong for even trying. And then I realize I took her smile for granted now that it’s gone.. I have to make it up to her I can’t let something like this continue. Life is so hard for people everywhere, so building a tolerance for being irritated is nothing in comparison especially if the reward is less pain and loneliness in the world I will always be the bestie you have my word

cyberbaptism

People who flinch at this or jump to hating on OP have never been completely honest with themselves and it shows. Like, you know this person. You've met this person. The under socialized outcast who everyone thinks is kinda annoying and weird, including you. People think that acknowledging their own annoyance towards someone who's essentially harmless is the same as killing someone and being ontologically bad. Like, as long as you don't shun that person you're good. Actually, that's exactly what OP is fucking talking about. They acknowledge and see that this woman is the way she is and also express sympathy, but because there's no over the top performative moralizing everyone thinks it's mean when it's just a true assessment of the situation. Like, two things can be true at once—yes, this person is annoying and they make me cringe and yes, I'm not gonna be an asshole about it because I know that's not right. I have a sneaking suspicion that the reason everyone got so fired up about this is because they're scared that they might've been the annoying coworker in someone else's story. And guess what you probably were. Yeah. Sit with that. Did you die? Did the discomfort kill you?

capacity2

The hysterics was giving 2015 tumblr fr. We’ve all been that hoe nobody likes before

4mtns

NASA just dropped the closest image ever taken of Jupiter

chocoholicbec

@hamletthedane’s tags: #Vincent Van Gogh is crying somewhere in the after and I’m crying just thinking about that#you knew!! you saw the patterns!! there is a whole planet painted in the oils from your brush!!#TIL that the craft Juno went as close as 4000km from Jupiter’s weather surface#for context: the craft was closer to Jupiter than NYC is to LA#which is space terms is like. basically being on the planet#holy shit

carapaced

how did we lose the plot so hard with feminism and activism like seriously… are we forgetting that being kind and loving to the men and boys in your life, teaching them as kids if you are a parent to be kind respectful humans, and showing them how to be emotionally vulnerable and making a society in which it is safe to do so was like…. A huge part of feminism, dismantling patriarchal values, and creating a generation of loving men who are held accountable for their actions?

Why is it “kill all men yes even the trans ones and if you say otherwise you’re an MRA” and not “let’s maybe create a world that encourages good men.” Did we forget that feminism was supposed to be good for everyone and that the patriarchy harms men and boys as well?

Like maybe we should care about male loneliness and the male suicide rate BECAUSE MAYBE WED HAVE FEWER SOCIETAL PROBLEMS if 100% of the population wasn’t traumatized by gendered expectations and not being taught decent communication skills/how to be emotionally vulnerable. And definitely we would if fucking redpill echo chambers weren’t the places most willing to accept and nurture (groom into hateful ideology) young men.

The problem has never been men, cis or trans, being uniquely capable of evil the problem has always been the fact that cishet patriarchal culture encourages and rewards shitty behavior that makes everyone involved bitter and miserable and calls it masculinity.

deadinsalem

GENUINELY, and this is not some crazy tinfoil hat crackpot theory, it is because (and this is gonna shock you) large corporations pay people called social engineers to sow dissent and discourse in online spaces.

Large corporations pay people called social engineers to sow dissent and discourse in online spaces.

You have been a part of this.

We have all been a part of this for years.

CHANGE THE WAY YOU ACT NOW

duckinpink

Scolioses Grace pt 2(pt 1)

I do not envy him.

toryfim0zikk4

Idk

berrysproutz

she really do be lovely

transgenderer

every spelunker should go in with a cyanide tooth capsule so if they get stuck they can take the gentle way out instead of being tortured by the earth for 72 hours and then dying anyway

transgenderer

@kropotkindersurprise said:

it should be an explosive device, so they widen that part of the cave at the same time and no other spelunkers will get stuck there

beautiful vision. i love the idea of a minecraft-style world where if you explode underground it just clears a radius

themarginalvividworker

It's funny how nobody gave a shit about Ralsei's (And also Jax/Bridget) femininity before Ch5 dropped, but now that there's actual implications of Transfem Ralsei, out come the Enlightened Loremasters ready to nitpick every last pixel and line of dialogue and claim that it's "Femboy erasure" like femboys are some sort of oppressed class beaten down by the Evil Trans Women.

People will strain every muscle in their body to stretch for reasons why it's not okay to see a character as Transfem, with all the vigor of a conservative, and then get offended when you imply there might be a reason why they feel that way

And also does it not seem a little shitty that basically nobody brings up Transmasc/FTM characters/theories unless they're specifically shitting on Transfem/MTF characters/theories?

thisisexorsexism

exorsexism is confidently stating that all amab enbies are transfem and all afab enbies are transmasc. Like... no you're just reinventing the gender binary again if this shows up on anyone's dash making this a teaching lesson for y'all that no, transitioning "towards the 'opposite gender' " is not the only option. Saw this in the replies to a post and it felt... probably internalized but still Definitely something people need to learn

this is exorsexism

incorrectpasswordip

my personal jax & gangle designs :3

b3witched-bard

Taking a shot for everytime a cisgender person complains about Jax being a trans girl and saying stupid shit like "maybe Jax is just a femoby", "It felt shoehorned in", or the one i saw that was said by a Christian: "I feel like Jax has gender dysphoria. If Jax took care of his mental health, he'd happily be male!"

Can we trans people have anything? Because i feel like ever since Jax was confirmed a closeted trans girl, it exposed a lot of transphobic people.🫩

neverendingnigthmare-blog

Girl that's conversion therapy are you out of your mind? She killed herself because of it, she died, because of exactly this, and you clearly have no idea what gender dysphoria is. Erm yeah if the trans woman just stopped being mentally ill she would be a perfect man. Do you think this of real world people too?