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you shouldn’t talk to me at all. you lost that right when you threatened me with trauma you knew I had

i’d say the best thing i have learned this year is to just let people be who they naturally are. no psychoanalyzing them, no overthinking my actions, no asking what i could possibly do to keep their presence in my life. i just bring my best self to the table and always move from a place of love and respect. how that person responds is ultimately up to them. if that causes them to exit my life, i just let it happen. i will never be in the business of changing people. people are only ever ready to change when they’ve made the conscious decision to. all i can do is check myself and be kind always.

stuckinapril

this is SUCH a hard lesson to learn if you have anxious attachment problems. you’re constantly scheming to keep someone in your life, even at the expense of your mental health. i’ve been there so many times. it’s literally the most horrible feeling in the world, and it puts so much pressure on you to act the exact way you think the other person wants you to. all just so they grace you w the bare minimum. i feel so much lighter now that i literally just allow people to show who they are and let them fade out of my life organically. it’s brought me so much peace

saint-gallier

Why forcibly attach words or symptoms such as anxious attachment problems, it sounds so wordy once you realize they are feelings, they are yours to live with. If they cause you pain, anxiety or anything that bestows negativity, talk, share, say it loud by any means, let that very pressure guide you so you become your own force of nature. I know, easier said than done, but you'll never know. People can help you.

#optimistic lies #I find this post funny because it was reblogged by someone who treated me the exact opposite. it’s ironic #they knew I had abandonment issues and they would regularly get into fights with me and cuss me out. they tried forcing me to change #someone told me that being in pain seems selfless but it’s actually selfish #because others are watching you suffer #and I told her that I just won’t let anyone see #what good it is doing other people to know me? nothing. there is no end. there is nothing to gain #I’ll only tell someone if they can help. and most of the time they can’t. what’s the point

it’s either i’m a horrible person or you’re crazy, and i don’t want to know which one it is

#dear v

when I noticed new details you’d give me about yourself, I treated it as a puzzle piece to a more complete version of you.

you looked at me and you didn’t like what you saw. you never loved me for who I really was

#dear v #retrospection

you and I are fundamentally different. I held you to the same standards as I have for myself, that I’d never see my friends as enemies. that I would love them for who they are

#dear v #retrospection

if i can overcome you, i can overcome anything. nobody had a chance of persuading me except for you, and now you’re gone. nothing can stop me now.

#dear v #positivity

hey v, how are you doing? you’ve probably moved on. i know we have history, but i’ve seen you discard your friends before, and you never speak of them again. it sucks knowing that you won’t consider me more than a few pixels on the internet

#dear v #retrospection

I can’t imagine a world where someone would love me for who I am, not anymore

#dear v #fatalistic #pessimism

I remember a time when you loved me, but what you loved wasn’t me. It was what you imagined me as. It was never me

#dear v #retrospection #fatalistic

Something is wrong with me. I think about you even when I don’t want to. Why am I like this

#dear v #retrospection

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