Dear Mystery T

Here to be anonymous, yet write my heart out and be an advice columnist. Secret dream of mine. Please write to me and let me know if I can post it on my blog and give you amazing advice!

[remanence-of-love]

[dearmysteryt]

Trying to sit here figuring out how my childhood went. I know the settings and people and what happened. I just don’t remember a timeline.

My mother was manic and I’ve never lived in a home for more than a few months. We constantly were moving and I only kept one friend consistently through my entire life.

Sometimes trauma has its ups and other times there are downs.

I choose to keep on, keepin on.

[dearmysteryt]

Having a mental illness should not let you stop any of your dreams.

You are working harder than those who don’t have these same disorders or syndromes which make you stronger than everyone else.

You’re a boss- don’t forget that.

[dearmysteryt]

You need to find something that grounds you, but don’t do something that will kill you in the long run.

Make it feel freeing and make you fall in love with living again.

[dearmysteryt]

Dear Mystery T,

My partner and I have been having issues intimately. I can’t seem to get out of my head during the whole thing. What should I do?

-Anonymous

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Dear Anonymous,

I’ve been there before. What I’ve done in the past is- in the middle of it all take a deep breath and remember all the good things in your relationship. I found it more of a turn on to be able to think of all of the romantic gestures. Be in that moment with them to allow them to show you the love they have for you. When you get in your head; just remember they made a commitment to you and love every part of your body. They are choosing you and only you. They are choosing you everyday. Now exhale and enjoy.

Love,

Mystery T

[dearmysteryt]

"Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again" - Nelson Mandela

[dearmysteryt]

As I sit and wonder ‘is this how life goes. Difficult task after another. Death after death. Does it end or is this forever?’

The answer is forever. Every month is a new death of a loved one, and yet another difficult hurdle to overcome.

You don’t forget the pain that this brings you. You become numb. After being numb for a while you spiral. When the spiraling is all set you take in the emotions again and then it becomes a vicious cycle.

Find someone to walk through life with you it’ll make the cycle easier and less painful.