Dear Toxic Friend

A series of short letters to my ex best friend

[achillesinhighheels]

[frodo-of-the-nine-fingers]

childhood friends to complete strangers

[a3n3g3el]

100s postcards project : 47/100s

[allsadnshit]

Sometimes I randomly remember how the most important people of my life from like 6-7 years ago are not in my life at all anymore and that's sort of terrifying and also crazy to realize how you actually can survive loss beyond your comprehension and find happiness stronger and more suited for you if you keep going

[wordx]

[freakoutgirl]

perhaps. i do want to be loved. unfortunate.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

it has gotten better before. it will get better again. and again and again and again.

[loveridden1999]

i miss my ex bestfriend & everyone else that i have ever loved but don't want any of them back either

[loveridden1999]

what the fuck man

[kasaneteto]

DO NOT CHECK UP ON THAT FRIEND YOU CUT OUT OF YOUR LIFE!!!! DO NOT CHECK UP ON YOUR EX!!!! DO NOT CHECK UP ON THAT OLD COWORKER YOU HATED!!!! IT WON’T HELP YOU!!!! CHOOSE YOURSELF!!!!

[randomreasonstolive]

Today, I realised that a friend of five years has been toxic for the last three of them. She belittles me and treats me like something to get entertainment from, not a person with feelings. It goes beyond the usual roasting between friends, and I feel like I’m not being treated as an equal at all. We have a lot of friends in common and I see her multiple times a day, in class and at break and lunch and in the morning. I said I’d be there for her but now I don’t want to be. What do I do?

Honestly? Walk away.

She doesn't treat you as an equal.

If your mutual friends turn against you for some reason, then they're also toxic and not good for you.

Its 2026. Allow yourself to make choices that are better for your health, even if you're afraid. As hard as it may be, by 2027 you will be glad you made the choice to care about yourself.

Because between the two of you, it seems like you're the only one that is going to care about you. So be kind to yourself and tell yourself 'I'll be there for you' instead. And follow through with that.

I love you. You got this.

~ N

[hopesbarnes]

im curious. put in the tags if you have siblings, how many and if you’re an only child, oldest, middle, or youngest. i feel like this tells a ton about you

[arcanumnyx]

you are not responsible for how others feel about your boundaries. saying no doesn't make you unkind. protecting your peace doesn't make you selfish. you are allowed to disappoint people and still be a good person <3

[sailermoon]

i say idgaf and then im still dreaming about my childhood best friend

[selfhealingmoments]

[chibird]

Although it might hurt when someone exits your life, it can actually be a positive change in the end! It might take some time before you realize it, and that’s okay.

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[niqabisinparis]

is there anything more bitter than letting go of friends that you thought were your ride or die? coming to terms with the fact that you’re walking down different paths and you’ll be dismembered if you don’t let go of their hand. being true to yourself and your self-worth is something we’re never warned about. no one ever tells you that you’ll spend weeks pondering where it went wrong, what you did wrong, until you come to the somber realization that your time together on this earth just might be over. 

[deartoxicfriend]

Dear Toxic (ex) Best Friend,

All those years were wasted. Our whole lives, minus the years we can barely even remember. I wish I could say I missed you (if only because of how long you were in my life). I don’t. Fuck you, fuck your family, fuck the person you chose over me. I knew you for 24 years, and you chose someone you’ve known for 4, dated for 1.5. I don’t need you.