Hey everyone, I haven't actually written anything in like 5 months so I have forced myself to sit down and brainstorm on what I wanted to write about as its been way too long! Moving in with your boyfriend, fiancé, girlfriend, partner (whatever you wanna call it) is extremely difficult, and I mean extremely difficult. It's not a bed of roses or walk in the park, if thats what you're thinking. I moved in with my boyfriend nearly 1 whole year ago now and I extremely happy I did, but I did struggle at the beginning. This is something you really need to think about and not jump straight into. I had a few different stages in my experience of moving in with my boyfriend. The ''lovey dovey'' phase and waking up every morning cuddling, joined by the hip and all that kind of stuff (you all know what I mean). Oh my goodness I don't know if I can do this, I miss having my own room and decorating everything with flowers and candles. Why is his socks on the floor, why is his laundry in my laundry basket, he never makes the bed, ohhhhhh he left his dishes again. I actually could not live without this boy, I would miss him too much and miss seeing his cute little face every morning. Also I would miss those breakfasts in bed. The first three months were the best, everything was new and exciting and a whole new world for both of us. We loved snuggling and chilling together, doing everything together and the little things didn't bother us at all. Honestly I live for those sort of memories, it was such an amazing experience and really taught us both some lessons. After that period of time, I really did stress out about not having my own room. I loved decorating and making everything pink, flowery and girly. Don't get me wrong, in all fairness to him he did let me do whatever I wanted to the room, but still. His washing started to bug me, I started to get annoyed about not being able to sleep lying half way across the bed and all those other silly little things. Things did get so much better after I grew out of that phase and us living together became the absolute norm. I nagged him so much that my habits became his and what did we have, a happy Deb! No but seriously, you really grow into one another and those things don't bother you as much as you learn more about each other and in my opinion, grow up enormously. Before you know it, you're an old married couple ( just kidding...not). At the end of the day, do what makes YOU happy and move in together when YOU feel its right, don't do it out of convenience. I mean me and my boyfriend ( Dan) sort of did, but we both did wan't to live together anyways so it didn't matter much. You will naturally feel really scared/excited but that is completely normal, as you don't know what to expect. Here are my top 10 tips for living with your partner: Buy loads of toilet roll. Nag, because eventually things get done ( I promise ). Carefully explain to him which section of the wardrobe is his, because things do get out of hand when you're finding his ties in with your socks. Always cook them food if you are cooking for yourself, EVEN if they are not home because they get grumpy about that ( Dan does anyways, Hangry they call it) Have separate laundry baskets, which I find much amazing as you can find your clothes much easier, say if you need something for the next day and you quickly need to wash it. Clothes tend to pile up when everything is together and I can never find certain items. Obviously I will wash his clothes if I am putting on wash, but just for organisational purposes I like my own laundry basket. Alone time - is key to successfully living together. You both need to have your own time to chill out, meet friends, evening in doing your own thing or simply just being lazy. Make sure you arrange plenty of date nights as this is something you forget to do when you see each other every day and automatically are doing more stuff together. Surprise one another. I always love to surprise Dan with little treats like chocolate, a new book or a top he really wanted etc. I really find it keeps the excitement and anyways its nice to see a smile on their face! Communicate! You don't always have to cuddle going to sleep, everyone has those nights where they are exhausted and just want to roll over and pass out. As long as that is clear between both people, nobody is getting annoyed. I think we would all be lying if we said we didn't have those nights. Finally my last tip... and that is.... LOVE EACH OTHER. Cringe as it may sound its so important. Love each other on your bad days, good days, tired days, moody days, when you have a massive tantrum, when you are being super irritating, just remember why you are living together and just try sort it out. Don't go to bed annoyed at one another ( Think I'll take my advice on that one). I'll be back soon with more posts about random stuff, life and some super helpful tips ( I hope). Lots of love, Deb xx
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