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ASHI STUDIO Couture Spring/Summer 2015

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How to make a stunning buttercream succulent cake

Really nice recipes. Every hour.

Show me what you cooked!

evil-pansy

I was all like wow what a creative use for weighpaper ! and then I remembered that people can just cut wax paper into squares… (which really is all weighpaper is, I suppose)

anyway, @quiettangledthoughts, this cake is for you

jakfruit

Leta made the most beautiful cheesecake for our friends’ wedding yesterday.

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Public Service Announcement: If you are not a virgin do not presume to wear a white wedding dress. It is an honor that is earned from chastity and virtue. Not a tradition for you to soil if you lacked the same.

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what about anal? does it count

thesnadger

The idea that the white wedding dress is “an honor that is earned from chastity and virtue” is historically bullshit.

In the west the white wedding dress has it’s origins in the Victorian era, specifically in the white dress Queen Victoria wore in her marriage to Prince Albert. At the time, red was the most popular color for upper-class women to wear at their wedding, and her wedding dress was sort of the contemporary version of Lady Gaga wearing some outlandish outfit to a red carpet event. (She also eschewed the ermine and crown traditional for a queen to wear, which was quite startling to many people.)

After that, a pure white dress became a fashionable way for wealthy, upper-class women to show off their money. Because a pure white dress would quickly yellow and could be ruined by a single spill or a little dirt in an era before 20th century laundering techniques, a white wedding dress was a way of saying “that’s right bitches, I’m so rich I can afford to have this beautiful, elaborate gown made for me and I’m only going to wear it once. Plus odds are good I’ll never work a day in my life or come into contact with anything that might soil it so yeah, great to be me, right?”

Connotations of spiritual purity and eventually virginity only came years later, when the idea of a “white wedding” began to appear in etiquette and housekeeping guidebooks. Even then, it was more because these qualities were associated with upper-class women rather than because the white dress was an honor earned through keeping hands off one’s genitals. Even then, most women just wore their best church dress to their wedding for quite a while. It was the image of thew white wedding dress in post WWII Hollywood movies that finally cemented it as a standard and iconic part of the culture.

Nowadays of course, the American wedding is an orgy of conspicuous consumption, and every woman regardless of her financial situation is expected to get married in a dress she’ll never wear again.

tl;dr, that tradition you’re so keen on protecting has less to do with virginity than is does with showing off big wads of cash.

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Poor people would traditionally wear their Sunday best to get married in. They were usually black, brown or other dark colours, because Sunday Best outfits had to last for years and be appropriate for all occasions, including funerals.

twotone

Reblogged for historical debunking

trixter

I’m always in favor of historical debunking that also gives the middle finger to Magical Virginity.

the-bookshop

Source.

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Shoulder Jewelry by Blair Nadeau Millinery on Etsy

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aliceat97point3

The world needs more sholder bling

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Our African Wedding

My wife and I just had our African wedding celebration with her side of the family. It was off the charts.

morethanagoddess

im fucking crying how perfrect is this ss omg

fangirl49

God bless your souls and your marriage.

MARCHESA Bridal Spring Collection 2016

each-beat

sometimes marriage looks like this: going grocery shopping together and finding that your hubs snuck the prettiest cluster of baby’s breath into your cart. long, honest, open talks that fill you up and make you feel safe and heard and cared for. spontaneous weekend trips to the ocean. sweet words. all the kisses all the time. trust. growth. hugs when you get home from work.

sometimes marriage looks like this: staying up til midnight arguing; tears, dark eyes, crossed arms. shaky communication skills. circular conversations that leave you drained. feeling betrayed. feeling distant. feeling alone. feeling misunderstood. selfishness. pride. unmet expectations. unforeseen change.

the challenge is to love, respect, and honour the other person in both scenarios: no more and no less. love should not be conditional. love shouldn’t shift based on circumstances.