A Safe Place for Demigenders

This blog is a safe space for those who identify as demigirl, demiboy, demienby, demigender demiflux, or demifluid, and aims to create a safe, supportive environment for us. We strive to provide support and advice for all members of the community who need it. Our goal is to help the community feel more safe and validated.

[demigenders]

Hi!  We just wanted to let you guys know about TYEF's new Tumblr!   The Trans Youth Equality Foundation is a national 501c3 foundation that advocates for transgender youth, ages 2-18.  We strive to provide our followers - transgender youth, allies and parents - with education, advocacy and support.  Spread the word!

[demigenders]

hello hello again beautiful demigender followers! so. I posted a while ago about peacing out because I’m agender and I have a hard time answering a lot of the asks we get. I haven’t left yet because we still get so many more asks than we can handle and I’d like to see the blog a little more stable if I’m going to step down as a mod. that being so:

I’m officially closing the ask box for the next couple of days so that we can manage what we’ve already got (which is 475 asks!) during this time I’m going to do my darndest to

answer all non-anon asks

consolidate asks regarding definitions

do an overhaul on our glossary

contact listed mods to see who’s active

and pretty much leave the blog in the best condition I can

I don’t want to delete asks without answering, but I may have to consolidate similar anons into large master responses in order to manage the inbox. if anyone has suggestions for how to make this a better blog/resource please let me know! since the inbox will be closed, you can leave a reply, or just send something over to me at lexical-lace. I’m going to do my best darlings!

-Annabel

[demigenders]

If i am afab can i identify as a demiboy?

Yes you can

-Seuta

[demigenders]

hey all. i’ve (finally) finished school so i’m trying to answer some asks. it’ll take time, but they’re getting answered!

~karianne

[demigenders]

can I identify as Demifluid if the constant part is demigirl and the fluid part goes between demiboy/demiagender??? i just never really feel entirely like a gender, and even when I identify as a boy it's a demiboy and there's always a demigirl part

yes, you can.

~karianne

[demigenders]

If I've recently started to identify as demi (demiguy), then should I 'come out' as demiguy or just not tell anyone aside from a few close friends? I don't know what I should do!

do whatever you want to do/feel comfortable/safe doing.

~karianne

[demigenders]

Hi, I am DMAB, and I recently came out as being a transgirl. However, even though I prefer being viewed as a female, and hate the pronoun "he", part of me still embraces my masculine side. Sometimes I feel most comfortable when I present as androgynous, or gender ambiguous. Does this make me some kind of bi-gender, or two-spirit gender person? I sometimes go by "she", sometimes as "they"?

hi. two-spirit is a native american term, so unless that’s part of your identity you are not two-spirit.

presentation and expression are not always related to gender, and pronouns are not set to one specific gender. you can use whatever pronouns feel comfortable and dress how you like/what makes you feel safe, none of that necessarily changes your gender. embracing your masculine side does not mean that you are a man, it could just mean that that’s a part of you that you are in touch with, even if you don’t identify with it in a gender way. (i hope that made sense).

~karianne

[demigenders]

this might be confusing, but is it possible to be genderfluid and switch between demiboy and demigirl? would it be contradictory since the binary parts of the demi identities are supposed to stay constant? or is it like switching between boy and girl? because those would be considered constant too. when I feel like a girl I don't think I feel fully like a girl, same goes for when I feel like a boy. but demienby doesn't feel like me. sorry for rambling. just trying to figure things out

that sounds totally possible!

~karianne

[demigenders]

hey, thanks so much for being a positive place. sometimes I stumble across blogs that are meant for support but actually focus a lot on addressing transphobia. and sometimes I can't handle seeing all that and I just want to think of gender in a positive light. I'm so happy the mods of this blog work to keep it a place that feels safe for people. thank you, from the bottom of my heart. please never stop posting. what you all are doing is very worth while <3

♥

~karianne

[demigenders]

i'm a dfab demigirl who goes between female and agender but lately i've been kinda feeling masculine (if that makes sense!). it didn't start that long ago and it doesn't really happen that much. i'm just wondering if there's a term for it.

i’m not sure, because i’m not really sure about your gender and how you’re experiencing that. you could be trigender, if one part is stable you could be demifluid. there may not be a specific term for it how you’re experiencing it, either!

~karianne

[demigenders]

I want to be seen as man and I feel like a man,but a part of me is agender,too. Is it ok to ID as demiboy then?

yep.

~karianne

[demigenders]

I am female by birth and I've been perfectly fine with that, but a couple weeks ago I got some men's clothes. Since then I've been pursuing masculinity semi-obsessively and kind of frustrated when people call me a girl but I might be carried away?

but you might not be carried away. see where it goes, see how you feel, etc.

~karianne

[demigenders]

do you have any advice for someone questioning their gender identity? i feel like i may be demifluid or genderfluid but im confused on the difference

the same thing that i said to the person whose ask is right before yours. take your time.

as for the difference between demifluid and genderfluid, genderfluid is when your gender is fully fluid between different genders; demifluid is when someone’s gender is partially stable and partially fluid.

~karianne

[demigenders]

Up until recently I've never thought I might not be a cisfemale, recently I have been feeling like some days I wake up and feel differently gendered. I have no idea what this gender is and it isn't always there, sometimes I feel totally like a girl and wonder if I'm just making things up. I don't ever that I'm not a girl completely and I definitely never feel like a boy. Is this demigirl, demiflux, genderflux? I feel so lost.

i would take some time with yourself and see what it turns into. labeling your gender doesn’t happen overnight for most people; don’t sweat it!! you’ll be ok. if you’re not please send us/me more messages.

~karianne

[demigenders]

Is there a term for me? I am identifying as a boy, but was born a girl, but I don't really consider myself trans...I'm just trying to find out the proper term so I don't sound dumb by going as a wrong term. Please help :(

that’s technically being transgender. i think it would be really helpful for you to think about why you don’t consider yourself trans.

(this is not meant to sound harsh)

~karianne

[demigenders]

I was hoping you could help me out. For most of my life I identified as a female (mostly because I thought you could only be male or female) but lately I have been feeling like I am not 100% female. I don't feel like I am in anyway male nor to I covet male parts but I feel like a part of me is agender, and I'm starting to prefer they/them pronouns. Would this count as being a demigirl? I'm sorry I am v confused.

if you feel partly agender and partly like a girl/woman then you may be a demigirl.

~karianne

[demigenders]

Hi so I am AFAB but I've been identifying as agender for 2 years or so but now I feel like there is 'more' like maybe im 10% boy and 90% agender, would that make me a demiboy?

some people use demiagender for that. you can use demiboy if the masculine part is something you want to highlight. it’s hard to say what “makes” someone a certain gender, especially when i don’t know you. i hope this can help a bit.

~karianne