All These Demons They Keep Me Up All Night @demonsupallnight - Tumblr Blog

[Image ID: a tweet by @DrDoyleSays: growing up w/ a lot of fear & uncertainty & pain, especially in our relationships, creates complex trauma-- & it conditions us to be reflexively wary of happiness or pleasure. It's not that we don't WANT to feel good. We were conned into assuming we can't-- or shouldn't. /end ID]

lohver

you are so much more than the things that have happened to you.

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missingvibrance

if you grew up in a home with parents or caregivers who abused/neglected you in any form at all, then you know what it’s like to not know love or kindness or compassion from those whose very job it is to do nothing less than show you those things. you grew up only knowing pettiness, rage, torment, and pain, but in spite of that, you found your way as a small kid. you were only a child and you learned how to be kind and caring and gentle all on your own. many people never learn how to be those things at all even when they’re given many opportunities to learn how to be, and it takes so much courage and strength to be compassionate when all you know in your little world are things that oppose valuing those virtues. even amidst your rage, trauma, and grief, here you are, trying to bring light to this world when you’ve only ever known dark in your own. the universe didn’t deal you the right cards from the start, but you are choosing to be a good person despite that, and it makes you so very brave because every single day, there are people who choose to be cruel and hurt others, but you haven’t, and i am so very proud of you.

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