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[finalsgotmelike-deactivated2018]

2017 goals

turn in all homework this semester

do all the readings

take notes on readings

take notes on lectures

revise all notes by end of the week

make study guides for exams

make flashcards

do any reviews/study guides that teachers give

do any and all extra credit offered

meet all obligations of class

attend all classes unless medical or other unplanned occurrence such as sudden death

attend office hours at least once biweekly with a professor and review material or discuss fascinating discoveries in the field of their expertise

do 100 days of productivity

start reteaching yourself spanish

start reteaching yourself russian

journal daily

use planner daily

shower after every workout

shower every other day otherwise

moisturize weekly

shave weekly

do laundry weekly

clean bedsheets biweekly

start a financial budget and stick to it

save $200 monthly in saving

save $1200 by July

save $2400 by January 2018

transition off social media ore

read 5 books a month

finish watching naruto

continue watching/catching up on greys anatomy

continue watching/catching up on how to get away with murder

continue watching/catching up on law and order svu

meet with ud adviser monthly at minimum

meet with hpplc adviser monthly at minimum

meet with school adviser monthly at minimum

brush teeth when wake up in the morning

brush teeth before going to bed at night

finish writing a novel by the end of the year

write a chapter a month at minimum

biweekly youtube videos!

change my sorrys to thank you

keep a habit tracker

help someone everyday

appreciating nature more

improving the environment

talk to people who may be lonely and sad

make thoughts more kind

practice self love

stand by your decisions

take more pictures with friends

focus on positive things and be optimistic

smile at strangers

go cruelty free

live on a budget and stick to it

visit grandparents more often and get to know them better

contact extended family and get to know them better

stop depending on others for personal things

don’t do everything yourself, ask for help

cut out bad language (but use a little if you want to)

reach out to friends more often

facetime bestfriend at least once every 2 weeks

go to dentist and get all cavities fixed

go to dentist once every 6 months for cleanings

go to doctor once every 6 months for checkup

utilize free therapy from cAPS

take myself out on dates (movies, bowling, dinners out, etc)

read through news daily

compliment people more

compliment myself more

make realistic to do lists

assist those who are not in a position of power to only be uplifted and heard by using my own voice not to overpower but to bring attention

listen without getting defensive

complete my goodreads challenge

buy cute lingerie for myself

do more artistic things

bring more awareness to great charities

donate more time/materials/monetary things

learn to knit

learn to crochet

finish sewing project on one pillow case

improve cooking skills, stop relying on box meals

write what you are grateful in journal daily

if I like someone tell them

scan all of family photos and save to an online archive

do family genealogy properly and with documents proving all persons are meant to be there

declutter unnecessary

figure out some things about where I’m going in life

[christ-our-glory]

Ecclesiastes 5:5 (NIV) It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.

[dannionline]

so 2017 is here, and that means we’re all going to try to change for the better. we all know that most people don’t succeed, but why is that? my theory is that a lot of people don’t know how to keep their motivation consistent. turns out many psychologists have actually figured out a kind of equation for motivation, factors that play into whether or not we keep our resolutions, habits, and goals. i read this amazing book about this equation and“hacking” your motivation and made notes of some of the main takeaways. enjoy and happy 2017!

take advantage of “success spirals”

set yourself a series of achievable goals and then achieve all of them until you expect only success and failure is no longer familiar. this is a great way to get started living a motivated life. example: start out your new year by changing one habit that’s small enough where success is likely, and use that success to propel you to larger goals.

commit early on

choose now to limit your later options, preventing yourself form making the wrong choice in the face of temptation. signing up for a public speaking engagement that you know you should do is much easier 2 months beforehand, thereby forcing you not to chicken out when the going gets tough.

surround yourself with motivated people

have a workout or study buddy with similar goals as you. you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. example: read or watch biographies of inspirational people whose lives you would like to emulate. go on a social media diet, in which you only see motivating and positive posts by motivated and positive people.

visualize

visualize the success you want to achieve, contrasting it with the life you currently live. Add in implementation intentions and process visualization for more oomph. michael phelps does this for every race, “playing the video tape” of the perfect race in his head. this allowed him to break a world record in 2008 with water in his goggles.

get into flow

flow is a psychological state characterized by being completely absorbed in whatever it is you’re doing. musicians, writers, and other creatives often report this while making their best works. how to get into flow? tasks which are too easy or too hard are not engaging, so find ways to make tasks challenging but possible. compete against yourself, or against others. getting into flow is most achievable when something is familiar to you and you can do it automatically, but it still contains mentally stimulating elements.

connect your goals to passion

look for ways to connect tasks with major life goals, so that you can remind yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing. set up extra reminders of those connections where you’ll see them (ex: every day i make my goal of saving 100 dollars i am that much closer to financial freedom). make sure you’re on a path to goals you actually want and that the journey is making you happy. If it isn’t, consider something more intrinsically motivating.

care for yourself

everything is better when you’re alert. sleep well, eat well, move your body every day, guard your circadian rhythms, and avoid burnout. cure energy lows with quality breaks, movement, sunshine, and good music. match intensive tasks with periods of high energy.

kill perfectionism

if you can’t bring yourself to do your main task, at least get some other things out of the way. it’s not perfect, but perfect is the enemy of good. get used to the act of doing consistently, rather than having things be perfect, so it doesn’t paralyze you. do not be afraid of failure, because it is the fastest way to learn.

use rewards

celebrate your successes with any reward that will motivate you (treats, crazy dance parties, an hour of social media or video games?). we all know the feeling before a deadline where it seems as if our life for the next week is just a never-ending tunnel of drudgery and work. 

play hard

this one is related to rewards – plan times to have as much fun as you can - this leads to more efficient recreation, and it also lets you focused on your goals during the other times, rather than just having low-grade leisure constantly tempting you as an option. ex: rather than taking a “break” every two minutes to check your instagram feed, do something that will actually burst your mood, make you laugh, or release some of the tension in your body.

more motivation hacks: the motivation hacker by nick winter, 2.99 on amazon!

[troyler-lifestyle]

Need a New Years resolution? Consider this: Someday, time travel might be a thing. Make 2017 the year you’ll have to travel back to.

Tyler Oakley (via troyler-lifestyle)

[assindeto-deactivated20140621]

take me to art museums and make out with me

[cornputer]

But they said to not touch the masterpieces

[etherialism]

Well somebody’s gotta pin the artwork to the wall

[quotemadness]

Fire in her eyes, ice in her voice.

Agatha Christie (via quotemadness)

[quotemadness]

Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.

Neil Gaiman (via quotemadness)

[relatablepoetryandquotes]

[naturaekos]

Forget about all the reasons why something may not work. You only need to find one good reason why it will.

Dr. Robert Anthony (via naturaekos)

following back similars

(via sunrishe)

[soshesawildflowerxo-deactivated]

Don’t get me wrong, sex is great, but I would rather spend the night learning everything about you and hearing every story you have. To me, that’s far more intimate.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Tips for Listening Well

1. Don’t interrupt. Let the speaker finish what they are saying – and at a speed that is comfortable for them – before formulating your own response.

2. Give the speaker your full and undivided attention. Ignore what is happening around you and block out distracting noises.

3. Pay attention to your own internal dialogue, and don’t allow your mind to wander. This is not the time for you to be judging or mentally criticising the speaker, or to be thinking about all the items on your to-do list for the day. Focus on what is being said, the tone of voice, and the body language of the speaker.

4. Pay attention to your own body language. Ask yourself: what kind of vibes am I giving off? What kind of message am I sending? The emphasis should be on looking and sounding concerned, interested, focused, accepting and genuine.

5. Be comfortable with silence. Often silence encourages the person to say more. Also, we don’t need to have an answer to every question, or a solution to every problem. Most of the time it’s presence and empathy that count the most.

6. Don’t get drawn into playing the game of “I have it so much worse than you; or my problem is bigger than yours.” In this situation, you are there for them. They are the focus and priority right now.

[thegoodvybe]

[boy-so-pale]

[urbanoutfucks]

oh my god you don’t understand how much i want to kiss you

or watch movies with you

or fall asleep with you

or drink coffee with you

or cuddle with you

or hold your hand

or go to amusement parks with you

or watch concerts with you 

or bake with you

i want to do everything with you and it kills me to know that i cant

[helin-pw]

Too true.

[thoughts-positivity]

Don’t let other people tell you what you want.

Pat Riley (via thoughts-positivity)

[coral-vellichor]

We think the more you have the better off you are. Then why does everyone say ‘less is more’. How do we judge the worth of a person off of how much they own if the rules contradict.

coral-vellichor (via coral-vellichor)