Desparikon @desparikon - Tumblr Blog

"impulse buy" (noun) anything I have been low-key thinking about purchasing for 3 months, an item that subsequently spent 24-48 hours in my cart as I went through each and every state of grief, and which I then bought, in a desperate, the-guilt-can't-get-me-if-I'm-fast-enough rush.

grace-is-tired

There are two sides to every doctors appointment.

There’s the patient’s side. They wait for months or even years for a specialist appointment. They endure debilitating symptoms everyday. They carefully plan exactly what they’re going to say and how to best be heard. Everything is riding on this appointment.

And then there’s the doctor’s side. They come into the room for five minutes. They don’t care what the patient has to say, they always know best. They’re thinking about how they want to go home and relax.

The appointment is over. The doctor won’t think of the patient for another 3 months until the follow up. The patient leaves completely crushed with no idea how they’ll survive until their next chance of being heard.

vampirecorleone

"Wanna see a magic trick?" Horror Character Appreciation - Ethan Hawke as The Grabber in The Black Phone (2021) dir. Scott Derrickson

perverted-asexual

My #hottake for the first day of pride is that, as important as studies, essays and literature can be, it should not be used to talk over the everyday person's experience.

Its great to read scholars papers on transmisogyny. But if you're then going to cite that in order to tell a trans man he isn't oppressed, you need to take a step back.

Its great to have all these sources and written works but if you're then going to turn around and say someones identity is wrong or not actually theirs cause a paper you read disagrees... you seriously need to take a step back.

I promise you the average person can tell you more about their day to day experiences with queerphobia than an essay can. The essay can help you understand why but it cannot account for everyone's experiences.

I think someone who has read nothing on the subject should still be able to talk on it when they're living it.

wormsermonizer

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#art #rabbits

gendercrisisperi

the thing that happens to trans men's pasts is different from what happens to trans women's pasts, and i think the difference matters even though i almost never see anyone name it. trans women get their pasts thrown at them constantly. every conversation about whether trans women belong in women's spaces eventually drags out "but you grew up as a boy," like that's a gotcha, like twenty years ago is more real than right now. their history gets used against them. everyone knows this. it's one of the most recognizable forms of transmisogyny. trans men get the opposite. nobody throws our pasts at us. they just quietly pretend our pasts didn't happen. i lived as a girl for over two decades. i was treated like a girl. i was targeted like a girl. i was assaulted as someone the world had filed under "girl." and the second i came out, all of that became — what? practice? a rough cut? it's like people decided the person those things happened to was a character i was playing, and since i stopped playing her, the things that happened to her aren't mine to carry anymore. except my body doesn't work like that. my body still does all the shit it learned to do during those years. i still flinch at the same things. i still can't go into certain stores without my chest locking up. whatever people decided about the legitimacy of my girlhood, my nervous system was not consulted. and what actually pisses me off is that both of these things — dragging the past forward for trans women and deleting it for trans men — end up doing the same job. they both make sure trans people can't be whole. you either get chained to a version of yourself that never fit, or you get cut off from the version that did exist, and either way you end up with a gap where a continuous life should be. i don't have a clean ending for this because i don't think there is one yet.

fairycosmos

sometimes i just feel like my whole life is an idea imposed on me entirely outside of my control

Silly salmonids 🌈🐟

Doctors acting like they’re gods gift to humanity after prescribing you 1.5x strength Tylenol for your treatment resistant chronic pain

ainejm

experimental landscape w paper. i rly wanted this to be another arthurian illustration but i had a lot of difficulty in finding matching colors for the grass and backdrop,so its just a neutral gray while the grass is splattered paint on black paper. absolutely going to come back to the original concept i had wanted to create at a later time i just need to reconfigure on how to do it

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dissociacrip

we need to learn that the discomfort & often the disrespect of unsolicited advice is a problem WITHIN disability and chronic illness communities as well as when it's an abled person directing it at us

i want to be able to vent about having bad experiences with a doctor without someone giving me a rundown of advice i've already seen plastered everywhere else especially "you're free to see a different doctor"; i know that i can see a different doctor, my frustration is partially born out of the fact i'm sick and fucking tired of having to gamble on medical professionals in general & risking retraumatization all the time because of it

if you want to help someone and don't know whether they would accept said help or not, ASK THEM, or you can even try asking specific stuff so that you avoid assuming things in terms of whatever "advice" you want to give that we may have already heard (like "is this the first doctor you've seen about this?"); yes i get that you just want to help but sometimes someone wanting to "fix" your situation instead of just listening & validating your feelings comes off as...exactly that, and missing the point

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Dolly

“I’m wearing an upcycled vintage acid wash denim jacket with pink organza ruffles on the collar, bow details, and moon and star shaped buttons, layered over a pink Whitney Houston 80s sweatshirt. I paired it with a high waisted purple skirt with a thin black retro stripe detail, pink 80s inspired tights, a star and heart waist bag, and yellow Freestyle Hi Reeboks. My style is inspired by 80s/90s Barbie dolls, Japanese pop culture, and magical girl aesthetics.”

Apr 11, 2026 ∙ Industry City

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