detransitioning is not a bad thing!!!

it's okay to realize you're not trans! your gender journey is yours and yours alone.

[detransitioningisvalid]

You're NOT alone, even if it feels like it. There's a whole community of people who have been through this, too, and we're here for you!

[detransitioningisvalid]

Happy Pride to all my fellow gay, bisexual, and lesbian detransitioners and desisters. May your June be as lovely as all of you.

[nonbinarymlm]

Hot take maybe, but you can go off of HRT without detransitioning and you can detransition without going off HRT.

YOU get to define your identity, especially in terms of whether or not you’re detransitioning. HRT does NOT define trans identity so it shouldn’t define detransitioning.

[detransitioningisvalid]

I thought a desister was a female detransitioner .-. Because they go back to being...sisters. Oops.

I like that haha. I actually don't know where "desister" came from, but when I started desisting, I called myself a detransitioner, and then I found out that since I'd never medically transitioned I couldn't call myself that and I was told the term for that was "desister."

I like to think of it as social detransitioning rather than medical detransitioning, but I use the word desister here because it's more commonly used, from my knowledge. There aren't enough resources for detransitioners online (and about half of the ones that do exist are from actual Republicans and I would not trust those resources at all.)

[detransitioningisvalid]

Do you think it’s possible that someone genuinely identified as trans for years of their life, and instead of the realization being like "oh, i was never trans to begin with", the realization is just that you identity has shifted over the years? Like, i don’t feel like i was wrong about identifying like that, i just feel like i am a different person now than i was 6 years ago

I think that's fully possible! People can be very fluid. Your interests six years ago are probably different than they are now. You've since discovered new things about yourself. That doesn't mean that six years ago, your favorite tv show wasn't your favorite tv show, or what you were studying in college wasn't your major, or the job you had wasn't what you did for a living - it just means it's changed in the past six years.

For me, I didn't feel like I had never been trans, just that it was no longer something I identified as. Over time I came to realize that for me, it was a mix of internalized misogyny and a disconnect from gender that led me to identifying as transgender - but that doesn't mean I didn't identify as transgender and I'm not going to say I was wrong for doing that, or misled, or anything like that. I learned a lot about myself from the experience. You probably did too.

[detransitioningisvalid]

what does it mean to be detrans?

Sorry, this is incredibly late!

Detrans means you previously identified as trans and sought out surgery or hormonal replacement therapy, and are now stopping that and no longer identifying as trans. Desisters are people who never transitioned or only socially transitioned and stopped identifying as trans.

[detransitioningisvalid]

Hi, is this blog still active?

Looking for a space that’s still trans-positive, but that doesn’t disparage detransition and sees it as just as much of an option as transition.

I would like it to be, yes!

Unfortunately, there's only one person running this blog and I have a full time job - things have gotten really busy for me - and after the queue ran out, I haven't had an opportunity to refill it.

I am glad that there are people who are still interested in this blog, though! :)

[detransitioningisvalid]

just a trans person popping in to say i love u all and im proud of u for thinking on ur identity and finding urself. thats hard!!!! youre doing so good!!! love you!!!!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 there will always be a place for those who detransition, there will always be a safe haven bc we love u and respect ur ability to choose for urself what ur identity looks like.

i love you!!!! i love you so much thank you for existing and giving us all the gift of getting to know u as u want to be!!!!! i love you !!!!!!!!!

mwah mwah mwah. ok that was all i just wanted to tell u all ily <3

thank you, that's so sweet of you! i've been incredibly busy irl, so i haven't been posting much on here. but it's so sweet of you to say that, and i hope any other detrans and desisted people see this!

[detransitioningisvalid]

Sometimes you need to say goodbye to who you were before you can say hello to who you are becoming.

[detransitioningisvalid]

You still deserve care, support, and respect - no matter where you are on your gender journey.

[detransitioningisvalid]

Thinking about detransition doesn’t mean you were wrong. It means you’re listening to yourself and your body.

[detransitioningisvalid]

If you're grieving the version of yourself you once were, or thought you'd become, that's okay too.

[detransitioningisvalid]

Nobody gets to politicize your body OR your decisions. Your gender is not a debate topic its a lived experience deserving of respect and privacy.

[detranspositivity]

I really dislike the narrative that detrans people were “never really trans”…really? how do you, an internet stranger, get to decide what someone’s identity “really” was? being trans means many different things to many different people, so to say that someone was never “really trans” because they changed their mind at some point kinda implies that you think there is a “right way” to be trans.

well, newsflash, there is no “right way”. If someone believed they were trans, lived as a trans person, experienced the ups and downs of gender dysphoria/euphoria, went thru the trouble of social and medical transition and through that journey, that person said “wait…I don’t think this fits me anymore.” seems pretty trans to me.

and that’s okay, it’s okay to change your mind. you were trans.

or if you want to say “I wasn’t trans I was x thing instead” that’s also okay.

what isn’t okay is to police other people’s language about their journey. to police someone’s identity because it makes you uncomfortable. like it or not, real trans people detransition. whether they decide they are actually cis, trans but in a different way, or another identity that fits them better is up to that individual person and doesn’t invalidate their previous LIVED EXPERIENCE as a trans person.

If your knee jerk reaction to someone saying they were trans for a period of time, then decided to detransition is “well you were never trans at all!” mayhaps examine why that’s the first thing you think to say, instead of something a bit more constructive or positive. Like what happened to “oh I’m glad you were able to find an identity that worked for you” as an example.

For those who are detrans reading this, if you needed someone to tell you this. you were really trans. you weren’t faking it and you weren’t deceiving anyone. you don’t deserve to have your experiences devalued or seen as unimportant. Whatever your situation or circumstances were/are, it was real, because it was real for you. and that’s all that matters.

[ratdaisy]

As a person struggling with dysphoria for as long as I can remember, I wanted to share some resources and information for others to understand more about the experiences and struggles that detransitioners specifically go through, since March 12 is Detrans Awareness Day.

It’s so important for detransitioner stories to be heard! However, the detrans stories that receive the most media attention and coverage are often from biased right-wing sources that twist and repackage detrans narratives for an anti-LGBT and anti-woman agenda. This makes it even more crucial to spread awareness and information about detransitioners from unbiased sources that do not support the right-wing/conservative agenda, and so that misinformation is not further spread.

Detransitioners need the support, empathy, and kindness of the left-wing as much as all trans people and other LGBT+ people do, since many continue to suffer from dysphoria even after detransitioning, sometimes feeling worse than they did before. So I’ve linked some informational resources and websites below.

Post Trans is a website founded by two detransitioners from Belgium and Germany, which shares a collection of detrans stories from detransitioners and desisters.

Are You Asking Why? is a website for a grassroots organization created and run by a group of detransitioned and re-identified women since 2013.

Link to a transcript of a 2023 Q&A Panel with seven detransitioners.

@detransition is a Tumblr blog that shares resources and stories and answers questions about detransitioners as well. See their About page for more info.

@detransstories is another Tumblr blog where stories from detransitioners and desisters were shared. This blog is associated with the Pique Resilience Project website, created by a group of four detransitioned and desisted women, to provide resources for support for those who may be questioning their gender or identity. This 2 minute long YouTube video by them addresses some misconceptions about detransitioners.

Detrans Joy is a youtube channel independently made by a detransitioner who has been making videos to document and talk about her experiences and struggles with gender-affirming care.

Here is a link to an informational booklet created by the Post Trans organization (mentioned earlier), in which they gathered the written experiences of 75 female and male detransitioners and created the content based on their wishes, advice and thoughts. The 50-page long booklet has the objective to reach detransitioners and desisters, their relatives and close ones, people who consider a transition and wish for more information, health professionals such as endocrinologists or therapists, or anyone who wants to learn more about the topic.

Detrans Awareness Day website link, which also has a helpful Resources section.

There are many more other websites, blogs, articles, videos, organizations, and social media accounts that I could’ve linked to share some really valuable and enlightening stories about the experiences of detransitioners with the healthcare system, but I didn’t want to risk accidentally including any links that could espouse any potentially bigoted, conservative, right-wing, misogynistic, and/or anti-LGBTQ+ agendas. Regardless of what the detransition rate currently is or whether the statistics are up-to-date, detransitioner stories deserve to be heard, so that more research can be done to make sure that all gender-dysphoric people can receive the appropriate healthcare and treatment options to help, since social or medical transition may not work for everyone, but their pain and dysphoria still deserves to be addressed.

Please reblog to share this info if you support detrans people, trans people, all other gender-dysphoric people, LGBTQIA+ people, as well as gender non-conforming people in general! Hopefully these resources and information could save some lives, and help others who are questioning their gender identity to know that they’re not alone. ❤️ If you know additional resources, articles, videos, or other helpful info to share that is related to the topic of detransition or gender dysphoria, please add them in a reblog or in the comments! Please do not use this post to spread any hate for anyone from any demographics or groups! I don’t usually make posts on tumblr, but I just wanted to share some informational resources in case this might help anyone else who is struggling, as dysphoria is something I still struggle with too, and also because healthcare for all is a very important issue to me.

[detransitioningisvalid]

FYI: its okay if labels don’t feel like they fit. You don’t owe the world a neat identity package with a pretty bow on top.

[detransitioningisvalid]

The internet, and the people on it, don't always reflect real life. Step outside, breathe, take in the world around you. There's a beautiful world outside your computer screen.