Forgiveness is what allows you to let go of the past and evolve into a better being, one that is far more happy. You see, when you hold onto the anger and pain someone has caused you, you hold onto negative energy which just drags you down and hold you back from who you truly are.
Think of it this way, when you run with weights on your legs, your speed ultimately is less when compared to your potential speed. Without the weights on your legs, you could run faster, for a longer amount of time and you will feel less tired at the end of it. Now replace the weights with metaphorical weights which are all the bags you drag along with you when you are unable to forgive. If you would just take the weights off of your legs by forgiving yourself or others, you would be able to not only reach your full potential, but be a lot happier while doing so.
One of the most difficult things one has to do is forgive, but once you can achieve forgiveness, life becomes a whole lot easier. Living life with a clear mind and a heart full of love is what truly allows people to stray away from harmful relationships and behaviours.
Take the time you need (nothing is done over night)
Let them know how they made you feel
Ask them all the questions you have popping up in your head before falling asleep (Ex: why did you do it?) *PRO TIP: write them down when they pop into your head so you will have all your questions prepared*
Explain to them that you will need time and space in order for you to forgive them for what they have done
Practice positive talk: do not speak of them in a negative way
Do the things you used to love doing with them in order to bring you two closer once you have taken the time you need (Ex: going shopping, gossiping, etc)
UNDERSTAND THAT FORGIVENESS IS A GRADUAL PROCESS AND YOU WILL NOT BE 100% AGAIN IN A WEEK
Communicate. Tell them how you are feeling.
When you feel overwhelmed, take deep breaths and pretend like you’re exhaling all the negative thoughts.
If you see that you are unable to keep this person in your life because they do more harm than good, cut the cord. (Blog post coming soon about how to do this)
Write a letter to yourself about how what you did made you feel.
Practice positive self talk (Ex: I am a good person)
Understand that making a mistake doesn’t make you a bad person.
Turn your negative into something positive by truly learning from your mistake.
Put your energy into doing something you love rather than putting it into hating yourself.
UNDERSTAND THAT FORGIVENESS IS A GRADUAL PROCESS AND YOU WILL NOT BE 100% AGAIN IN A WEEK
Do things that make you feel good (ex: complement someone)
It’s truly all about your mindset, if you don’t allow yourself to forgive yourself or others, you won’t.
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