all I will never say @diaryofalittlewoundedstar - Tumblr Blog

No, you don’t deserve to suffer. You deserve happiness, love and peace. One day you’ll get that, so stay alive, keep fighting and never give up.

mydailyvintagephotos

Remembering Audrey Hepburn on her 90th Birthday ✨🎂 ✨🎁🌹💋

studycationarchive

self care during school the school year

sleep:

try your best to get 7-8 hours of sleep per night. everyone says it, but it is really crucial to your well-being. to many, that may seem like an unrealistic goal, but you can do it. learn to get more sleep by getting things ready the night before so you don’t have to take time to do it in the morning

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make lists:

when school gets too hard or too stressful, make lists of happy and positive things. make lists of your favorite things and things that make you smile. when you’re feeling down, take a look at the lists you’ve made to cheer you up.

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take a day off:

designate a day of the week as your day to relax. do whatever relaxes you. do not skip this day, and do it every week.

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simple ways to take care do yourself:

have a daily routine to wash your face, brush your teeth at least twice a day and floss, take a shower or bath, clean your work space, clean up after yourself, play your favorite music, put on lotion right after you shower, stay hydrated, cut yourself some slack - school can be really difficult, remember to eat breakfast, ask for help when you need it, dress in comfortable clothes (it makes a huge difference), put on deodorant, take a walk, and the list goes on.

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important reminders & more:

– take pictures of the things that make you happy, not for social media, but for yourself.

– eat healthier, drink more water, and get more sleep. these are your bodies most basic needs.

– do something kind for yourself today. paint your nails, go see a friend, catch up on much needed sleep. also, be kind to someone else today. hold a door for someone, compliment someone (and watch their face light up!), ask if anyone needs help with something.

– take breaks from school work when it gets too frustrating or too stressful.

– your grades do not determine your worth or your abilities. if you don’t do well on something, the sun will still rise and life will go on, you are still important and loved. you tried your best and that’s enough.

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ok, i saw this somewhere once (if you know where it’s from, let me know please ty!!), and it has changed my life. it has literally stopped me from procrastinating and has helped me to just start my work now: have empathy for your future self. future you would thank you now for doing the work now and not putting it all off for future you.

missmilk

white: hey have you listened to [classic rock band/song]

me: no im latina

gendertranspositions

Sorry but that’s like asking me, “Have you listened to Juanes or Fetty Wap?” and me responding, “No I’m a white woman”.

Your ethnicity doesn’t preclude you from potentially being exposed to certain music genres.

missmilk

me: jokes

white: *crying uncontrollably* we are all one music genre….. the human genre

pigmenting

i love the part of growth that allows you to look back on a previous period of your life and recognize that parts of it were unhealthy. something that felt so normal wasn’t in hindsight. you’re not supposed to feel that tired all the time. you’re not supposed to be treated like that.

bled

danger

respectthefemalebody

If a man says he’s going to hurt himself unless you do what he says, let him. You aren’t responsible for his actions. You are not guilty for what he does to himself, you don’t owe him, you are not his thing to control, you don’t exist to serve him, you are allowed to go on living your life.

antiporn-activist

well, you could give him the suicide hotline and go.

lightanddarkkh

Also you could baker act him. If he says hes gonna kill himself if you break up with him. Break up with him and call 911 saying you suspect this person at this address is going to kill themselves. Like chances are they are lying and trying to manipulate you but if you are scared and think you might feel guilty, you can do that.

Don’t stay woth anyone that pulls that shit. Drop em.

askagenderfluidandgenderflux

Dropping this here because abuse isn’t limited to straight people.

stegosoreus

goes for anyone of any gender

kyraneko

People who hold themselves hostage do not get to be treated only as the hostage. They are the hostage-taker as well, and they are trying for a second hostage.

Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.

Somebody threatening suicide or self-harm as a means of control is trying really hard to be your problem. Yours specifically. Punting that problem to the emergency services and medical system that is trained and equipped to deal with such problems is not only the proper thing to do, but makes it clear that you aren’t about to be guilted into assuming any responsibility that person wants to dump on you.

jenniferrpovey

As a note, this is not limited to romantic relationships. Suicide threats are very common in toxic friendships.

The response should be the same, but I just wanted to point out it’s not limited to intimate partners.

gritsinmisery

Not just toxic romantic and friendly relationships. Parents, siblings, anybody who pulls this act. Do not be held hostage by blood relationships, either.

junkiechurch

oh u haven’t heard?? it’s all gonna be ok

utteranonymity-deactivated20150

Fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. When someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. Just validate their emotions. Be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ That’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. Thank you and goodnight.