i think being a trans man is a lot more difficult than many people are willing to acknowledge because that would mean needing to talk about the misogyny we experience without misgendering us or grouping us with cis women and they’re just not ready for that. like there’s the specific transphobic misogyny (not transmisogyny) when our biomedical transitions are percieved as us ruining and destroying our bodies and making them undesirable and repulsive and infertile. it’s real and it’s traumatising and we don’t really talk about it. very difficult
and this isn’t about being in competition with trans women over who has it worse or some shit. never. this is very much directed at cis people who consider themselves allies of or advocates for trans people but don’t understand what moving thru the world as a trans man can actually look like
I’ve been told by adult cis people during my teenage years that I would be ruining my body if I were to ever start taking hrt, and that they were “so glad I wasn’t disgusting” (I felt disgusting. Especially when they said that.) I’ve been told by adult cis people when I DID start hrt that it was turning me into an aggressive, violent, dirty monster (it wasn’t). I’ve been told by adult cis people that I thought I could trust that they were “dissapointed” in me for not “staying pure/a girl/etc”. Ive been told that since I’m “a man now”, I no longer have the right to be treated kindly and with love, and I’ve been told that I must have not wanted kindness and love in the first place because of “choosing” to be a man. This is a trauma that affects the entire trans masc community, and we don’t talk about it, probably for the exact same reasons that men don’t talk about their suicidal thoughts, mental illness, and sexual trauma.
