24 Struggles All INFJs can unterstand
1. INFJs are extremely private. They are constantly building a world inside them and can take awhile to unleash their secret hidden world till the timing is right, if ever right. Think of the movie Amelie.
2. INFJs have a horrible time revealing their true feelings romantically. They are overly concerned with perfectionism. They have a calm exterior, but underneath are riddled with questions and hope. How many of them move on into relationships is a mystery. BUT THEY WILL BE THE BEST DAMNED PERSON TO DATE YOUâLL EVER FIND. Because theyâll make you cookies. Guide you well into your future. And really care about treating you and themselves right.
3. Can be rock solid calm, then a strange wind happens that carries a dead bird. Then they are super sad, and say lots of deep things from nowhere.
4. With the giant imagination / visionary minds, they can have a tough time dealing with daily, practical matters. Not able to answer the question âWhatâs the point?â can lead to neglecting cleaning, financial responsibilities, etc.
5. Tendency to hyper organize certain things and code them. Such as wearing earrings that match shoes, bookshelves ordered by specific genres, or aligning objects for no reason. General okayness with a few piles. General madness when there is too much out of control. General concern if around people who hyper clean, âAre they OCD?â
6. Perfectionists. The worst thing you can do to an INFJ is set the bar too high. âWhat do you mean that the only way to get an âAâ is a 98%?â
7. Theyâre super hawks of insight. INFJs struggle all the time on whether to tell people that theyâre about to go on a path of destruction and terror, or if they should just let people find that out themselves. They have excellent clarity for the future, but they donât want to lose friends with their candor and weirdness.
8. There extreme insight for the future can cause a sudden, âOh, God! The world is going to end!â
9. Insomnia. Splurges of hyperactive thought. An overindulgence of creativity. Alcohol and caffeine are more there nightmare than you could arguably understand. Caffeine causes too much creativity, alcohol causes too much honesty.
10. Mega decisive. It can be tedious to watch people struggle to make decisions, especially on basic things like ordering food, what to wear, etc. This is why an INFJ will get involved to help you make a decision, not just out of kindness, but probably because they canât stand the trivial indecision.
11. Being so involved in other peopleâs lives that they donât understand themselves. They like to counsel people. Theyâll spend days with you. Theyâll spend days studying you. Then all of sudden they realize theyâve been a chameleon. And theyâll seek solitude.
12. Super emotional childhood moments. Being an INFJ evens out as you get older because you have the joy of language to express yourself. Can you imagine being a kid who is constantly evaluating death, disease, murder, creatures in the closet, missing parents, and did I mention death? INFJ kids are aware of death all too young. They may cry a lot and have a hard time expressing it to adults.
13. Loving a lot of creative things and not sure what they like the most. INFJs are some of the greatest students. INTPS and INTJS might be the only better students, and with INFJs perfectionism, itâs probably their social concerns for their network of giant friends that corner their grades. INFJs struggle over what they like best, so they may double major, get multiple Masterâs⊠they just really want to explore stuff they like.
14. Even though they are introverted, they are not extremely introverted. They generally have a wide, crazy wide network of friends. They connect well with others due to their intuitive-feelers combination, and they also like to run away once the chameleon effect takes place.
15. If they donât watch their money, it can be eaten away. They are generally altruistic. They want to help. Sacrificing finances isnât heart break for an INFJ, till it sinks in later.
16. Under stress, INFJs can be super confused about priorities. Like, âHey, you have a final tomorrow. Why are you baking chocolate pumpkin spiced muffins that take three hours to make? And youâre using real pumpkin?â
17. When they see a vision of the future, they can be stubborn. And think theyâre right. And often are. Thus the fews times they are not⊠they really donât care about other opinions. Theyâre trying to steer people away from the big black hole of demons that only they can predict. Yikes.
18. The love of harmony runs deep in this personality. Too extreme of situations can cause an INFJ to run and hide in a closet till things are more calm. Other times, they will be the one leading everyone out of the chaos.
19. Can negotiate well if they think it will harm the friendship. Donât hurt the friendship! Anything but that!
20. Sometimes people think an INFJ is too nice. An INFJ usually sees themselves as 25% evil due to all the crazy things they come across and all the potential for evil things they could do.
21. If not trained, an INFJ conversation can go like this, âI was going to the store, when I thought about unicorns, so I about JENGA.â Because somehow JENGA connected to their chlidhood. Because somehow unicorns connected to that too.
22. INFJs are some of the best writers. They can fiercely write about everything and anything. And never show anybody out of fear of what people will think of them after they realize how insightful INFJs happen to be.
23. They can become extremely obsessive. An INFJ in love mode is the most obsessed creature on the planet. They may take awhile to warm up to people because they know of the insanity than can brew within.
24. May understand the conclusion incredibly well, but have a hard time explaining it to others through a cloud of beautiful tangents. Drugs are not your friends, INFJS. You are precious, and that stuff is not going to help you explain big picture stuff.