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The Joy of Journals
Reading a new post in My Kitten's journal is one of life's joys. The many and varied benefits of journal-keeping have been extolled before, not least the positive effects on mental health and wellbeing, but, in addition to all the good things it provides for her, it never fails to make me smile and make me hard.
Coercion vs Control
My delicious Kitten and I were talking today after some us-time. She's the kind of Girl who gets asked her advice by others, newer to BDSM than herself. A couple of stories later about Girls who had not listened to their intuition, allowing their need to be dominated to override common sense and here I am: rant alert. To the Subs: Coercion does not equal control. Being manipulated is not the same as being dominated. Domination is not a lessening of the submissive, rather it is a blossoming. The basis of control is not fear. To the Doms: Coercion does not equal control. Manipulating is not dominating. Ruling through fear is weak. If fear is the mode of operation then that isn't cool. I am not ok with that. Such a climate cannot support or promote good mental health. There is no need to lessen another when involved in sexual play. Yes, I know, humiliation is a thing for some, but that is often used as an excuse for things not to change for the better. Trust me, if your Sub feels safe and supported, She will open up in ways that are simply not possible through fear. I know from experience of both approaches. With great power comes great responsibility. With great responsibility comes great rewards. Rant over...
Um, Original Source… can we talk? I’d like to take you back to around 6.45am this morning, when I stepped into my bath, and found that my usual, rather innocuous bottle of shower gel (Waitrose essentials, Rose) had run out. A tad irritating, but fortuitously, I had a solution close to hand. A brand new, unopened bottle of your very own Mint and Tea Tree Shower Gel. My bodily cleanliness was assured once more. I breathed a sigh of relief. I took the Mint and Tea Tree Shower Gel and began to work it into a lather. I applied it to first one leg, then the other, and shaved them diligently. (Yes, feel free to be impressed at my commitment to body defoliation at 6.45am on a Wednesday morning. I was too.) So far, so good. I washed my arms and shaved underneath them. I washed my neck, breasts, stomach and back. Thus far, it had been a positively first class bathing experience. And then. AND THEN. Oh. Dear. God. MY VAGINA WAS ABLAZE. For a moment, I wasn’t entirely sure what had happened. Had I repeated the never to be forgotten error when I managed to apply hair removal cream which was strictly not for front bottoms to my front bottom? Had a stray spark inadvertently set light to my pubic thatch? BECAUSE IT FUCKING FELT LIKE IT. Yes, Original Source, your innocuous looking green bottle of so called shower gel, it turns out, is an absolute fucking liability. MY FLAPS WERE ON FUCKING FIRE. I had a quick look at the ingredients list to see if it contained gasoline. It did not. There was a warning though. ‘KEEP AWAY FROM EYES.’ Keep away from eyes? KEEP AWAY FROM EYES? Frankly, my eyes were the least of my problems right now. I frantically scrubbed my flaps, which by now felt as though they were being ceremoniously scrubbed by ants wearing ice skates laced with chilli sauce. ‘7,929 tingling leaves’ claimed the front of the bottle. Tingling? TINGLING? This wasn’t tingling my minge. It was starting a fucking bush fire down there. (Pun entirely intended. You can thank me later.) Some twelve hours later, my front bottom has finally calmed down, though may well be suffering from as yet unconfirmed PTSD. My eyes have eventually stopped watering. And so, in the interests of public safety, I thought I would pen you this missive. May I suggest a rebranding of the front of your bottles of Mint and Tea Tree Shower Gel? Something along the lines of the following: ‘7,927 tingling leaves which will accost your genitalia until it screams for mercy.’ If nothing else, it will certainly stand out on the shelf. Anyways, thanks for brightening up my morning. And my front bottom, which has never been so lively. Kisses, IKINTST xxx
Too funny not to reblog 😂😂😂
i laughed so hard. SENDING A HUGE “THANK YOU”, FOR THE HEADS UP.
*Adds Original Source Mint & Tea Tree Shower Gel to shopping list...
When you begin to feel negative feelings bubbling up to the surface, be mindful of them, for they will not change anything but your own thoughts and wellbeing. Ask yourself; are they worth the extra energy? Do you even deserve to feel such negative emotions? No, you don’t. So try not to let them drag you backwards.
Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin (via thepowerwithin)
Listen up
The first time you sense that your relationship interest wants you to be weak, you should run. D/s, vanilla, and everything in-between. Your partner should want you to be strong, steady, safe, and have peace of mind. Period. Submission does not mean weak or meek. Submission requires tremendous strength. If you feel disempowered, you’re not with someone who cherishes you as an individual - regardless of the relationship structure. Period.
Me trying to get my life in order. [full video]
Hmmmm, nine Kittens running riot - reminds me of something, I'm sure of it...
I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
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Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
-Draw something
-This website translates the time into colours.
-Create your own galaxy.
-Play flowing.
-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
-Listen to music.
-Calm.
-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- 8 hour sleep music.
-Rainy mood.
-Meditation.
-Coping with nightmares.
-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
-Calm
-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
-Rainy mood.
-10 hours of rain and thunder.
-3 hours of rain and thunder.
-Human heartbeat.
-Rainforest.
-Sound of rain on a tin roof.
-Autumn wind.
-Rain on a tent
-Traffic in the rain.
-Soft traffic.
-Fan.
-Train.
-Simply noise.
-My noise.
-Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
-How to stop worrying.
-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
-Self-help strategies for anxiety.
-Helping a friend with anxiety.
-All about worrying.
-8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
-“I’m always sad”
-Feeling sad.
-Going through trauma.
-“I’m always angry”.
-Anger management.
-All about anger.
-National helplines and websites.
-Self-help strategies for depression.
-Dealing with depression at work.
-Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
-Pets and mental health.
-All about loneliness.
-“I feel so alone”
-10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
-How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
-146 things to do besides self-harm.
-More alternatives to self-harm.
-Self-harm alternatives.
-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
-Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
-What is addiction?
-All about alcohol and addiction.
-The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
-Eating disorder treatments.
-Support services for eating disorders.
-Self-help tips with eating disorders.
-Eating disorder recovery.
-Recovering from an eating disorder.
-100+ reasons to recover.
-Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
-3 ways to ease self-loathing.
-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
-Self-hatred resources.
-10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
-International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
-Preventing suicide.
-Reasons to stay alive.
-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
-Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
-All about schizophrenia.
-Helping a person with schizophrenia.
-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
-Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
-Managing your OCD at home.
-Overcoming OCD.
-How to cope with OCD.
-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
-Helping someone with BPD.
-All about personality disorders.
-Treatment for BPD.
Abuse;
-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
-Emotional abuse
-Overcoming sexual abuse.
-Hotlines services.
-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
-Domestic violence support.
-Signs of an abusive relationship.
-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
-Surviving abuse.
-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
-Sexual assault support.
-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
-How to stand up against bullying.
-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
-How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
-Grieving for a stranger.
-Common reactions to death.
-Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
-Moving away from friends and family.
-Coping with a breakup.
Getting help;
-Seeking help early.
-All about psychological treatments.
-Types of help.
-All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
-You are not alone.
-You are enough.
-You are important.
-You are worth it.
-You are strong.
-You are not a failure,
-Good people exist.
-Reaching out shows strength.
-Breathe.
-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
-Give yourself credit.
-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
-Focus on the things you can change.
-Let go of toxic people.
-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
-Try not to beat yourself up.
-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
-You are not a bother.
-Your existence is more than your appearance.
-You are smart.
-You are loved.
-You are wanted.
-You are needed.
-Better days are coming.
-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
-You have more potential than you think.
- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
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The original post only has US helplines. I've added UK helplines underneath. It would be great if people could add numbers from everywhere in the world.
Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453
UK Helplines:
Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected]
Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111
Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected]
Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 [email protected]
b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected]
b-eat youthline (for under 25's with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)
Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected]
Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600
Drinkline: 0800 9178282
Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected]
Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight
India Self Harm Hotline: 00 08001006614
India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669
Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868, Free and available 24/7
suicide hotlines;
Argentina: 54-0223-493-0430
Australia: 13-11-14
Austria: 01-713-3374
Barbados: 429-9999
Belgium: 106
Botswana: 391-1270
Brazil: 21-233-9191
China: 852-2382-0000
(Hong Kong: 2389-2222)
Costa Rica: 606-253-5439
Croatia: 01-4833-888
Cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67
Czech Republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908
Denmark: 70-201-201
Egypt: 762-1602
Estonia: 6-558-088
Finland: 040-5032199
France: 01-45-39-4000
Germany: 0800-181-0721
Greece: 1018
Guatemala: 502-234-1239
Holland: 0900-0767
Honduras: 504-237-3623
Hungary: 06-80-820-111
Iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90
Israel: 09-8892333
Italy: 06-705-4444
Japan: 3-5286-9090
Latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292
Malaysia: 03-756-8144
(Singapore: 1-800-221-4444)
Mexico: 525-510-2550
Netherlands: 0900-0767
New Zealand: 4-473-9739
New Guinea: 675-326-0011
Nicaragua: 505-268-6171
Norway: 47-815-33-300
Philippines: 02-896-9191
Poland: 52-70-000
Portugal: 239-72-10-10
Russia: 8-20-222-82-10
Spain: 91-459-00-50
South Africa: 0861-322-322
South Korea: 2-715-8600
Sweden: 031-711-2400
Switzerland: 143
Taiwan: 0800-788-995
Thailand: 02-249-9977
Trinidad and Tobago: 868-645-2800
Ukraine: 0487-327715
Having your Girl blossom your care is a beautiful thing. Not all of being a Dom is to do with sex. Not even close. A lot of it has to do with knowing what she needs to grow and then being the strength behind her as she grows. Hearing "I've never been able to do that before!" is just, fuck, yes. Even if it's to do with a health or study goal. My Girl's wins are my wins.
Still a Girl
I catch myself sometimes envying vanilla girls. It’s true… surprising to hear, perhaps, but true. How could I do otherwise, given the fact that they get one of the things I want, and which is so incredibly rare within the lifestyle.
They get treated like girls.
I have been in the lifestyle for a fair number of years. I have lived, observed, and listened to accounts of things which has provided me with a pretty well rounded picture of what goes on. See, in the lifestyle it has become common practice to treat a submissive girl with far less respect than one would treat a vanilla girl. Respect aside for the moment, it is also common to simply treat her as though the very act of her entering the community and recognizing her submissive nature stripped her of the need, much less the right, to regular things that a boy does with a girl that he’d like to get to know… asking her to dinner, for example. Calling her at random times just to chat. Bringing her flowers. Picking her up for a date . Holding her hand while walking through the zoo. Just regular things, mind you… not wallowing in excess or asking a dominant man to kiss her ass (that might come later, in a much different way) in some groveling, worshipful way. It’s basic stuff, treating her with dignity and care, and actually getting to KNOW her before trying to CONTROL her.
Now, back to respect… when men in the lifestyle approach me (online, I mean… I rarely go to local munches these days, for a variety of reasons), the majority of the time they do so in ways that they would NOT attempt with a vanilla girl. Maybe they call me names in the opening message… slut, whore, subbie (I HATE subbie… gah), pig (okay, hate that one even more than subbie), little one (not offensive in and of itself, but forward in the lifestyle just as ‘darling’ might be to some in the vanilla world. It’s a pet name, something usually reserved (or should be) for two people who are on intimate terms and are enmeshed in some kind of relationship), etc. Perhaps they describe the sexual acts they’d like me to do/like to do to me/want to watch me do to others (yes, this is a common thing, having explicit sexual content thrown in one’s face from the get go). Maybe they start trying to sling orders at me, regardless of the fact they don’t even KNOW me, much less OWN me. There are a variety of ways things can be inappropriate, and I never know how many of them they will choose to inflict on me, but the point is…? They somehow have it in their head that the basic manners and consideration that is generally afforded to a vanilla girl need not be applied to a girl in the lifestyle. Respect becomes a discarded option.
I think, perhaps, it is partly something that I would have thought we, as an alternative, outside-the-box, non-judgmental group, were safe from… the age-old Madonna/whore mindset. That we submissive girls, as mostly more sexually open, aware, and adventurous creatures, are somehow less deserving of respect and kindness than the vanilla girls who would swoon in horror (more often than not) at the very IDEA of doing even half of what we ENTHUSIASTICALLY do. Even though the men in the lifestyle are chomping at the figurative bit to get to do those things WITH us, the very act of giving them what they want appears to then ensure we don’t get things WE want. You would think it would be the other way around… that the girl most likely to satisfy a man’s deepest desires and match him in needs would be the girl that gets the most positive attention, and the most respect for opening herself up to him (emotionally and mentally… get your mind out of the gutter). But that doesn’t appear to be the case.
Generally when men engage me in conversation, if they live within a drivable distance that allows for the possibility of meeting face to face, what I get, instead of a fairly standard and expected, “Would you like to go to dinner on Friday?”, is either an offer of meeting just for coffee ‘and then we’ll see what happens after (as in IMMEDIATELY after) that’ (seriously? (…) SERIOUSLY?) or, more commonly, “Why don’t you invite me over to your place?” It’s about as subtle as a fart in church… they want to get you naked as fast as possible, and you’re not even worth the time and effort of dinner and conversation before attempting to make that happen.
I recently was approached by a man I’ve known, though have not kept in consistent touch with, for about 7 years. He recently became single, and said he thought of me and wanted to get together. He suggested we meet for ‘wine and conversation’. I thought he meant exactly what he said… MEET for wine and conversation, ergo pick a mutually enjoyable location and go forth, right? As it turned out, not so much. He wanted to come over to my place, drink and play. When I mentioned that we wouldn’t be playing on the first meeting (if we ever DID play… no idea if that would have happened someday or not), he was a bit indignant, chewing me out a tad for trying to put ‘restrictions’ on him. I was floored. Since when is playing the expectation versus the bonus? Since when is it okay to approach me in such a way, when I feel certain that a vanilla girl wouldn’t get HER chops busted for not wanting to get naked the first time she meets up with someone in a ‘we’re both single now, let’s see what happens’ way. Then again, the vanilla girl would likely not have ever been put in the position to feel that pressured before even standing in someone’s presence. Sure, vanilla girls get their moments of push as the date progresses, but that’s not what I’m talking about. Gah. As it turned out, the man in question finally asked me out, then stood me up when he realized that play was likely truly off the table for that evening. It was like a slap in the face… apparently I was, to him, only worth seeing if he had a good shot at getting to fuck me brainless before the night was over. Do you have ANY idea how icky that makes a girl feel?
For the record, I will wrap up with this… I am a sexual being. I enjoy kinky things. I am submissive. I thrive on being told what to do, by the right person with the right intentions. I am both the girl next door and the partner in crime. I am the caretaker and sexual firecracker. I sometimes curse like a sailor, but other times (it’s complicated…) I turn beet red at just the suggestion of certain words or phrases. I’m complex, but my needs, overall? Are simple. At the end of the day, what I wish everyone would remember…
I’m still just a girl.
- The Girl in the Woman (Jan 2017)
Ten Tips For Living With A Sadist
1. Assume that they are always looking for an excuse to punish you. Never, for example, accidentally eat their cheese sandwich.
2. If they force you to write down your fantasies for their reading pleasure, don’t write down anything that you wouldn’t want to actually happen at some time in the future. Once you are running naked through the woods pursued on horseback it’s usually too late to protest.
3. Don’t put off the inevitable, it will only get worse.
4. Take great care when purchasing anything for the home, as it is likely to be used as a toy sooner rather than later. Trips to home improvement store are particularly suspicious.
5. Think twice before liking any pictures on Fetlife - you’ll only give them ideas.
6. Cultivate an innocent expression. Try this out on your friends, practice makes perfect.
7. Assume every doughnut (or any other edible treat) is your last.
8. Don’t forget your manners in the throes of passion and wipe off excess bodily fluids on their chests, this behaviour is frowned upon for some reason.
9. Never ever express a dislike of anything, especially cold showers.
10. When in doubt, hide.
republished with permission by Fetlife User: superunderbabe
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This made me laugh... :)
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