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listened to Bohemian Rhapsody today… i’m so very sorry

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If this post gets 100 notes I’ll recreate the entire song through memes

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OK so I’ll do my best to get this done soonish–it may be a week or two, but I’m doing it

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My masterpiece… is complete.

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Artist: Mironishin Story

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Men: Your Consent Matters Too

Fellas, listen.

You don’t have to do anything sexual that you’re not interested in. Moreover, you don’t have to explain why. “No” is a complete sentence.

Not interested in getting pegged? You don’t have to. Monogamous and not into the idea of another partner? Okay. Not sure about period sex? Cool.

And if your partner decides to question or mock your maturity or your masculinity or your sexuality because you say no? It’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. See if you don’t deserve better than that.

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annoying that these things only seem to pop up after a major incident of sexual assault and its backlash to it, which is almost always committed by men. obviously this is all true but im cynical when people try to ‘level it out’ by saying ‘oh men too!’ when the reality is men are almost always the perpetrators of sexual violence.

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Take that somewhere else, brutdaddy.

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Okay first off, when isn’t there a major incident of sexual assault/backlash? Also, it’s literally always okay to tell someone their consent matters esp. when a) some male survivors were raped by men and b) male sexual assault survivors are stigmatized in a specific way that questions and belittles their masculinity so fuck off with this.

Men: your consent matters, too.

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This moose using a sprinkler to cool off

Source

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4 stages of stress

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So you’re saying I’m constantly stressed because I’m all of these?

Ok, alright.

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When you haven’t seen your friend in so long

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Pages 52, 53, 54, 55, and 56 all at once!!! Whaaat?!

this will probably never happen again

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Ooh this is sweet

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Wow, this was actually really helpful for helping me understand demisexuality more. I never really got it before but now I feel like I know a bit more about it, thanks OP.

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Amen 🙏🏾

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The holiest verse in my book 🤗

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Plus-Sized Woman Rocks Bikini on Hollywood Boulevard to Promote Body Acceptance

Los Angeles is known for many things: great weather, a laidback lifestyle, and Hollywood’s biggest stars. But for many who live in La La Land, the pressure to conform to a certain beauty standard can leave them feeling downright depressed.

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Why didn’t this have any notes?

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It doesnt have any notes because its a black woman doing it. Had it been a white woman this wouldve been national news.

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I bolded

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https://www.google.com/amp/clutchmagonline.com/2014/04/tired-obsession-perfection-plus-size-woman-dons-bikini-hollywood-boulevard/amp/

Here’s another link to the article because the one posted just shows up and error message

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Bonus:

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SO MUCH THIS!!

When helping kids learn from their mistakes and correcting past behavior, it’s important for parents and other role models to separate what they DID, and who they ARE.

Look at the exchange in the images above. The kid apologizes for “being bad,” and the adult points out that it isn’t a question of “being.” It’s about specific behavior.

“Definitely was acting brand new. But you ain’t got a bad bone in your body.”

For a personal example, I’ve been working with one of my kids about bullying other kids. And when she behaves that way, I will tell her, “What you’re doing is bullying,” or “Stop bullying them.”

What I WON’T say is “You’re being a bully.”

Because kids listen (even when we feel like they aren’t) and they are constantly taking in information that they use to define themselves. And the worst thing I could do in this situation is say, “You’re being a bully,” and they believe me.

It happens so often, it’s tragic. We tell kids, “You’re a bully,” “You’re dumb,” “You’re being obnoxious,” and they internalize that. And as soon as a kid accepts “I am a bully” as part of their identity, they will act accordingly.

On the flip side, I used to think it was OK to label kids with “being” statements as long as they were positive, but I’ve learned even that has hidden dangers.

For example, imagine one of my kids finishes a puzzle really quickly, and I respond by saying, “You’re so smart!” Seems great, right?

But what happens when they move on to a harder puzzle and they don’t finish as quickly? So they start thinking things like, “Dad said I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast. But I didn’t do this one fast so I guess I’m not smart after all.” Or, “Dad says I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast, but I didn’t do this one fast so it must be a stupid puzzle that’s made wrong.”

I guess my point is, use “you are” statements sparingly and carefully with kids. Tell them things like, “You are important,” “You are valuable,” “You are loved.” But when it comes to behavior, make it clear that what they do does not define who they are. Let them define themselves.