Asexuality and aromanticism being defined as "little to no sexual/romantic attraction" is crazy to me. Imagine if they redefined being a gay man as "little to no attraction to women" and you had to, like, figure out for yourself that liking men was a part of it.
Personally, I define my aroaceness not as a lack of romantic or sexual attraction, but as an orientation towards relationships that are neither romantic nor sexual. Redefining my orientation this way has helped me find a lot of peace I didn't have before.
Edit 6 Apr 2026: Wow, it only took ten days before someone decided to be weird on this post and was promptly followed up by two comments addressing the weirdness that completely ignored my original point. And that isn't even counting all the people who originally ignored my point. But as annoyed as I was by the "it's a spectrum!" posters, I would take a thousand more of them before dealing with the repercussions of having one singular uneducated teenager on my post who insists that it's not.
The funny thing is that I didn't even really mind having an uneducated teenager gatekeeping on my post. I don't like it, but I can handle it. I gently but firmly told the kid to knock it off and haven't heard anything since.
So imagine what it feels like to be me, coming back to tumblr after a day long break and seeing two people with a much bigger audience than me dunking on this teenager, on my post, while completely ignoring what I actually said. Like, are you lumping me in with the kid? Are you assuming I hold the same ridiculous opinions? Or do you just not care what I have to say as long as you can dunk on someone?
Anyway, I'm turning reblogs off on this post. Congratulations on finding a quick and easy opportunity to be mean to a child. I hope you're pleased with yourselves.
And to the child who made those gatekeeping comments on my post, if you're reading this, assuming you haven't had a panic response to someone disagreeing with you and blocked me (I understand, I've been there and don't hold it against you even if it is a phase we all need to move past eventually), I truly hope you can internalize some kind of lesson about the community you belong to from all of this, and I hope the lesson isn't that we don't tolerate mistakes.
I'm reblogging this once more so people see the update, pinning it, and then no one's ever going to reblog it again. Congratulations to the two of you who ruined it for everyone.




















