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"I Would Love to Dress Like That"

You totally can!

Most expressive fashion isn't about what you wear, it's how you wear it. I guarantee you can pull it off.

No matter what you wear, if you act like it's fine and you're supposed to be wearing it, nobody will second guess it.

Most people really aren't analyzing your outfits; they're busy worrying about themselves. Anyone with an opinion usually minds their business.

Start small. Try getting one or two "statement" pieces and pair them with more simple, neutral clothes. Plaid pants with a solid top. Funky patterned shirt over some jeans. That long rockabilly skirt with a cute sweater.

If you feel good in it, it's a good outfit. The end result is to look good, not follow a bunch of so-called fashion "rules." (Unless it's like business formal or something. Then maybe be careful.)

You're trying to dress like you. You don't have to like or wear everything from your favorite genres or commit to only one style. Again, nobody is putting you under a microscope!

Don't be afraid to mix patterns. Play around with what you have and experiment in your mirror. There are also lots of online tips on how to make good combos.

Advice from my mom: Get all the way dressed up, then take one thing off, and you're good to go.

Give yourself a rule of thumb. Mine is that before I go out, I ask the question "If I were to die today and this became my ghost outfit forever, would I be okay with that?" then make sure the answer is yes. Find a litmus test that works for you!

will-o-the-witch

Looks like the terfs found this so to be clear: THIS AIN'T FOR Y'ALL. Y'all are actually a big part of the problem for having such nasty opinions about what other people are supposed to look like and be, fuck you very much.

This is about niche subculture aesthetics but also genderqueer/nonbinary expression, GNC outfits, outfits that trans people love but don't feel like they can "pull off," dressing as a fat or disabled person, and embracing outfits that capture the expression of YOU whether that look is conventional to other people or not.

cowboy-batman

Having adhd is like being a sim:

- sometimes you try to do things and they just don’t work

- set queue for how many tasks you can plan at once

- forget what’s happening at random times

- aforementioned queue occasionally just deletes itself

- has constant decreasing needs but needs help to keep them up

- just randomly walks around when not given specific directions

- if there are too many things to do at once, gets overwhelmed and does none of them

- often doesn’t follow through on tasks

- leaves shit in random places

- wears the same clothes every day

- idk there’s more but I’ve lost my train of thought like three times while making this post

theadhdadult

adhd-chaos-queen

Just found this on insta and...

sandersstudies

People who act aggressive and negative as fuck and then when you’re like “hey can you stop” they’re like “I’m going through some stuff 🥺🥺🥺” like damn dude that’s crazy me too - for example right now I’m going through YOUR behavior.

sandersstudies

“I’m dealing with a lot 🥺🥺🥺” and I’m dealing with you so I guess we’re even

sandersstudies

If your reactions to your trauma or your problems are making other people around you feel unsafe you need new coping mechanisms.

lild3m0nsworld

lifeafterpsychiatry

Image text: "Shoutout to everyone who survived their own suicidal thoughts this year. Glad you're still here!"

edgebug

minor tumblr user's carrd: over 25 dni!!

25 year old who was going to prey on this minor: oh damn 😔 here I was planning to groom them but i can't because of their dni 😔 what a shame 😔😔😔😔😔

edgebug

actual things you can do to keep yourself safe online instead of relying on a dni:

don't use your real name! not even your first name, if it's unusual!

don't tell anybody where you live! not even what state you're in! keep that shit a sexy little mystery that's between you and your mail carrier!!

liberally use the block feature!!!! use it!!! just block people if they give you the heebie jeebies!!

don't post selfies that you've also posted on facebook or anywhere else! reverse image search can be used to find your name if the same image is tied to fb or insta or anywhere else your actual name might be

consider not posting selfies at all actually esp if you're a minor......., shit can be dangerous

there's no reason you have to advertise your age if you're a minor <3 you don't have to tell anyone! don't lie, and please don't interact with 18+ content, or with adults who are uncomfortable with people under 18 interacting--but you don't have to go out of you way to say on your blog "hey I'm a minor and a member of a vulnerable community"! and if someone asks then you are allowed to tell them to fuck off

tell people to fuck off if they ask you questions that could be used to identify you

edgebug

this all counts for discord servers too btw. I'm 26 and as a kid on the internet I was warned about "chatrooms" and told to stay safe and not give out any personal info in a chatroom because that's dangerous. And It Is

discord servers are chatrooms y'all. not everyone in your public fandom discord is your friend

t4nku-deactivated20230124

sick of normal girls appropriating weird girl culture. you had friends in school you don’t get to reblog these posts

tikkety-tok

"Love taking an 8 minute route that takes an abled 2 minutes"

tonka-bean

Able-bodied people, this is what your world is like. In a new situation it's also usually impossible to even know an alternate route, so the options are like enduring the painful and dangerous illegal barriers or...going home. And for the people suggesting the op report these things- that's a great suggestion but you should also be aware of how often businesses, governments, schools flat out ignore concerns like this.

If it troubles you, I highly suggest making your own complaints every time you see something like this.

Do not shop at businesses that break the law. Do not let governments who deny disabled rights go unchallenged. Don't do nothing when your world is dangerous to us.

snapdragonling

characters who continuously tell themselves they’re okay and even start to believe it until someone says their name very gently and asks if they’re alright, at which point the facade crumbles completely

snapdragonling