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Dear Train, How do I get this bot's honey nut?
Don’t leave him on read when he sends you spark pics.
Assuming you’re not referring to human cereal, just pay attention to what he likes and use it against him. Or just fuckin’ ask him if he wants to rub n’ nut.
frembly remembly this is not a real therapist/counseling blog
this blog was created as an in-character vent/coping outlet for an rp character, about rp relationship problems
i, the mun, am not and have never been qualified for real human problems
there has been a troubling influx of Real Human Problems and while i can ape some advice from writing tropes, for Real Human Advice you’re going to need to ask someone else
if you persist, i can guarantee it’s gonna go tits up. i am aromantic, possibly ace, emotionally married to my sibling (in that i don’t find a need to seek out additional emotional support), and have scored 100% introvert on every test invented. i don’t know what i’m talking about.
........... now if you DID want a millions year old drunkard robot with commitment issues to try to answer your troubles then i guess go for it???
have a relationship thats mature enough to sit down and be like “ look this is our problem and this is how we’re gonna fix it..” SIMPLE
yessss
it’s also okay to not have the latter part? it’s okay to sit down and go ‘i am having X problem in our relationship and i’m not 100% sure what will make it better, but i’d like us to talk about it and work on it together’. you’re a team- you fight the problem, not each other
In fact, I would argue that it might be BEST to sit down and say, “This is a problem I have noticed in our relationship. Have you noticed it? Can we talk about it? Do you have any ideas of how to fix it?” Soliciting your partner’s attention and opinion goes a LONG way toward making it a team effort, rather than just steamrolling them.
A friend pointed something out to me about a bad friendship, and they’re words we all need to live by:
Sometimes a person isn’t interested in being your friend.
They’re only interested in you being theirs.
Learn to spot the difference.
my boyfriend and I sometimes struggle to be on the same page when it comes to comforting- often i just want to vent and don’t need advice, whereas validation confuses him and he wants a plan of action
to counter this, we’ve come up with a system where we ask: “do you want advice, empathy, both or neither?”
if it’s just advice, i know to go straight to action points and not spend time on fluffy words
if it’s just empathy, he knows i want to be reassured and comforted and that’s all
if it’s both, it’s time for advice that recognises how hard the situation is and is perhaps gentler in nature
if it’s neither, just a hug is really good
i recommend trying to use this in your lives! it makes sure you’re giving and getting what you need, and reduces the risk of resentment or similar
i see all these posts around here that are like “date someone who…” and all that’s fine and good but like i feel like they focus on cutesy stuff and leave some really important stuff out. so like yes, date someone who you can watch netflix with and pet dogs with and make waffles with but also
date someone who will call you out on your shit
date someone who thinks the sun shines out of your ass, but also knows you’re not perfect and will offer the support you need to change and grow
date someone who doesn’t passively accept your flaws, but recognizes them and helps you deal with them
date someone who you can disagree with but still love and care for all the same
date someone who can understand where you’re coming from and help you through your rough times
date someone who won’t enable your negative, self-destructive habits and tendencies
date someone who doesn’t think “you’re perfect don’t ever change” but rather “i love you and will help and support you in whatever changes you need to make”
date someone who sees you not as a perfect lover but as a human being and who wants to be with you even though they can see all your faults
basically date someone who’s going to be with you, not just worship you. and more importantly, be this person for your SO. do not put them on a pedestal and call it love.
Relationships are going to have problems. You’re going to argue, you’re going to stop talking for a few hours or a day, you’re going to get really jealous, you’re going to have doubts. With all the love, the corniness, the fun…there will be problems. The question is whether you’d let the bad times outweigh the good times.
Okay, so there's these two bots I'm friends with, right? And neither of them like each other, but they're both important to me. Is there any way to make them get along without accidentally getting my bro bonded to my dad via get along shirts?
is that really what happens with those
“Make them”. That’s the problem right there. You’re thinkin’ your involvement will change stuff for the better - and sometimes it does, don’t get me wrong.
But usually, tryin’ to force something to happen will get a violent snapback effect - the exact opposite reaction. Mecha like to dig their heels in if you’re making em do stuff they don’t want to, even if they haven’t recognized they don’t actually want to do it yet. I think it’s leftover newspark programming that never quite stopped being a thing, honestly.
Mostly just keep an optic on em and see how things develop naturally, and if there’s room for it you’re allowed a couple helpful nudges here n’ there. Nothing big and obvious, though, and know when to back down.
It’s a careful, excruciatingly slow process, rebuilding trust. Don’t rush it.
I honestly think relationships in general would be healthier, in general, if we didn’t believe they should last forever.
When the default is “forever” and shorter relationships are seen as a failure, we miss out on a lot. We stay in relationships that don’t work because they’re not “bad enough” to leave, as though not wanting the relationship anymore isn’t a good enough reason. We deny ourselves happy memories, saying “If it doesn’t work now, our love then wasn’t real.” We pass on relationships we know would be short, because if it doesn’t last forever, what’s the point in joy in the moment?
An ending isn’t a failure. It’s an ending. Most relationships have them. What would our relationships be like if we stopped focusing on our fear of endings and started focusing on what we - and our friends, partners, and family - need right now?
so this bot's talking about keeping me forever and tasting me and I think something might be wrong with him but I'm not sure. Should I be concerned?
Tasting you, fine. Nothin’ wrong with some oral.
Keeping you forever?
Abort the fuckin’ mission.
Is it unreasonable to turn everyone who looked at your spark into a puzzle?
Some people might just want to live, and not be puzzles. All I’m saying.
Should I trust Unicron or the Megajerkitron who killed Optimus more?
The one that’s not planning to kill you, obviously.
… it’s Megatron.
…
don’t even think about going for it, kid
a megatron's talking about spanking me and my processor says no but my megafetish is telling me yes which one do I go by
Follow your dreams, kid.
to my young followers who never got told this like i didnt:
you DO NOT need to break up with your partner the moment you feel something for someone else. you need to be HONEST about it, say so upfront and respect if it makes them uncomfortable, but you are not evil for having those feelings. you do not need to punish yourself for having those feelings.
as long as you do not act on them without permission from your current partner and full disclosure of the situation, you are not a bad person.
don’t dump people if you still love them/your relationship is still healthy and enjoyable for you. you do not need to punish yourself for your heart being capable of more than one love.
This also applies if you ever have weird occasional feelings of like, “I don’t feel anything romantic at the moment. Oh shit, does that mean I don’t have feelings for my partner anymore???” That’s normal. You can’t be 100% into your partner 100% of the time. If that’s worrying you, be up front and honest about your partner and explain how you feel. You probably just need space to hang out with your friends or by yourself more often. You’re not mean, or bad, or cold-hearted, or broken.
I got spanked by Megalegs recently, and my aft's COVERED in scratch marks. What excuse should I make up?
You sat on a scraplet nest? It got really itchy so you stuck your aft in a woodchipper? Predacon chewtoy? Rabid flobsters??
So there's this Starscream offering me this really good candy in exchange for a blowjob. Is it worth it?
Well that all depends - do you genuinely like suckin’ spike? Factions aside, I mean.
Cause if not, slug him in said spike and take the goods.
or call in a professional
Put that post back where it came from, or so help me
whaaaat
Just because I have terrible standards doesn’t mean everyone else should have them. :U
