The Sweetest Things

A blog appreciating the softer (and not so soft) sides of life | 23 | he/they Main: afroboydyke

[dulcetsuggestions]

Sometimes you have to take a deep breath and appreciate the fact you’re here, you’re alive, and you’re gonna keep moving forward.

[dulcetsuggestions]

There’s a girl, and there’s her beast. The girl loves her beast unconditionally. Oftentimes, one cannot tell where beast ends and girl begins. They don’t see how the girl bears her teeth in crazed protection, nor do they see the kisses to the beast’s eyes as it cries. They see girl and beast. Beast and girl.

Still, they sense the devotion. That’s the important part.

[feelingsoftheday]

Remember that the right person will never get tired of you even in the worst times

[ryanthedemiguy]

No, they will! But they'll work through it, or walk away for a bit (i'm talking minutes to hours) and then come back.

People can love you and still need to get away from you for a bit. And there is nothing toxic about that — it's good, in fact. It helps remind everyone involved that everyone has boundaries, and everyone needs time to themselves.

It's okay. Calm down before you talk about something that made you angry while your loved one is sick. Be sure of what made you mad so you can discuss it together.

Love isn't a one-way street, and it's something that takes work. Part of that work is knowing when you need to step away.

[fruitblush]

If someone wants to be a man, they aren’t a lesbian. Hope this helps! 🫶

i think lesbians can do whatever they want including having complex + weird relationships with gender and sexuality

[dulcetsuggestions]

It’s National GF Day and I love my gf so much. I’ve been reflecting a lot in relationships and what they mean to me, and I truly believe that without her I wouldn’t have grown as much as I have. I Love her so much for knowing me down to a fundamental level and helping me the way I help her.

[homoidiotic]

from lgbt zine FUZZBOX (1991)

[adamantine-system-deactivated20]

like. are white queers even aware that Black queers who aren’t Marsha P. Johnson exist? 

Do they know more Black queers have been born since then? Do they know that people are pretty chill with studs’ masculinity in Black spaces and it’s mostly a casual thing? Do they know that the whole “Black people are homophobic” stereotype is way more complicated and nuanced than they think, and way less accurate than they assume (and also their fault because widespread homophobia is some colonizer bullshit)? 

Do they know intersectionality is an internal experience as well as an external one? Do they know femmes can have short hair and mascs can have long hair without it being gnc because that’s not how Black genders are perceived? Do they know what a gnc Black woman really looks like, or do they just assume all Black women are a little masculine? Do they know visibly queer Black people in the US have to worry about what will happen and how they’ll be perceived when they get pulled over? Do they know my Blackness is a huge part of both my gender and sexuality, and stud was the main term I used for both for a long time? 

Do they know how many Black queers feel excluded from the queer community because white queers don’t care to learn? Do they know how many times we’ve tried to tell them about our cultures and identities just to be ignored? Do they know they’ve stolen almost all of their “gay slang” from Black people and call it ghetto when we do it but cool and trendy when they do it? Do they know we all used butch once, but then they decided Black people couldn’t anymore, then they tried to take stud from us too? Do they care that they have repeatedly tried to gentrify us out of our own language? Do they know not all studs are ok with being grouped in with butches, and some even resent it because butches are always the default and no one talks about studs? 

Do they know anything about us?

(white people can rb but think before you speak)

[dulcetsuggestions]

You come and go like high tide. I wait eagerly for your waves to kiss my shore

[femmeidiot]

Do fat butches know how fucking hot they are?

[femmeidiot]

if you don’t I hope this serves as a reminder that you are so so so sexy and hot!

[dulcetsuggestions]

Even old aches hurt when the song comes on. And new wants surge whenever I see your face.

[cutevirgin]

when i’m six feet underground the bugs in my body will dream of u

[dulcetsuggestions]

Oh So Much (For) Stardust, we’re really in it now

[dulcetsuggestions]

I lie beside your coffin with outstretched hands. I may not know your beginning, but I will know your end.

[lustloveandliars-deactivated202]

You deserve love now. Not once you lose weight. Not once you accomplish that thing. Not once you move. Not once you get on medication. Not once you start therapy. Not once you get that job. Not once you're more like them. Now. You don't have to earn the right to be loved. You deserve it right now, and always have.

[soracities]

Mihail Sebastian, Women (trans. Phillip Ó Ceallaigh) [transcript in ALT]

[papayajuan2019]

i think we should all admit how lonely we are. then we should talk. it will all be okay if we risk being authentic

[papayajuan2019]

i think one of you should let me cry on your shoulder tonight

[dulcetsuggestions]

When the wind dies down and the lights blink out, know that I listen for your call late at night.