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Ryan | 29 | he/they | queer | autistic | white | gentile | About Me | Things I Tag | "rates people on a scale from 1 to 10 but only gives good ratings so I give him a 10/10 A+ would accidentally befriend again" -Annachibi | "Nice attitude, odd schedule" -anonymous | "10/10 best person too good too pure" -anonymous || "10/10 bait blog" -anonymous (no clue what that means) || I got a negative review but I went to add it and can't find it :/

[ryanthedemiguy]

My ao3 is amahami if you want to check my fics out (I write for fullmetal alchemist these days)

I'm a queer mentally ill nonbinary trans autistic disabled man. If that makes you uncomfortable, leave.

You are not welcome here if:

-you think Jewish, Romani, and/or Muslim folks are to blame for the world being how it is

-you think mentally ill or disabled people should be hidden or die

-you do not think every single human deserves human rights (Yes, even them)

-you support Israel or Russia in their colonial wars

-you're against people being allowed to live their harmless lives when you think it's immoral

There's plenty more do not follow shit, but I can't be bothered.

[pangur-and-grim]

what I've learned from having other people edit my work is that I have a sick addiction to commas

[pangur-and-grim]

there have been four editing passes on my spider sex book, and each time they take away so many commas. no fresh commas are being added, this is just a continued culling. if you see a comma in the final book please understand that it survived so much

[pangur-and-grim]

[veemochi]

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[pangur-and-grim]

I told my little nephew that I'd wave at his airplane when it flew over my house today, and he very calmly and politely explained that it wouldn't be possible to see me due to the limitations of human vision. I said he just had to squint real hard, and he took a deep breath and went into the toddler version of "see, what you're not understanding–"

[pangur-and-grim]

[ostolero]

young old person tip for you all. go get some photos printed (pauses so someone can say bogos binted) and fill out a physical album

[sayaratyriea]

and annotate them with who is in the photos and when and where the photos were taken!!! your extended family 50 years from now will be grateful, and so will you if you end up forgetting any details

[mortimermcmirestinks]

(sprints into room late, looking harried and frantic as fuck) bogos binted. did I miss it

[ryanthedemiguy]

Who is more likely to use something ill-advised as a sex toy and lose it in their ass post-canon?

Edward Elric

Alphonse Elric

Remaining time: 6 days 21 hours

Please feel free to tell me why you think that as well!

[magicratfingers]

desperately want to draw want nothing less than to be drawing

[magicratfingers]

this is how many pillows I want

[quintuplequay]

Where does the you go. In this scenario

[magicratfingers]

? what do u mean

[batbetbitbotbut]

Ah another fan of the classic children's roleplay, "neolithic burial"

[magicratfingers]

yeah u get it

[eldritchqueerture]

the existence of "maybe", "perhaps", "perchance", and "mayhaps" suggests there should also be "maychance" and "perbe"

[eldritchqueerture]

CAN WE MAYCHANCE NOT 😭

[clottedcreamfudge]

Perbe you should have thought about the consequences before posting a linguistic banger

[shaiiloo]

I keep seeing the take that authors on AO3 need to stop deleting their fics and instead to orphan them without any explanation of the consequences of orphaning a fic and as an author I really need to say something to this.

Stop telling people to just orphan their fics.

Orphaning a fic means giving up any and all ownership over it. No way to claim it back, edit it or delete it. Yes it's an archive but an author should still have the right to delete their work if they feel like they don't want it to be up anymore.

Readers always scream for authors to orphan their fics instead of deleting because they feel like they have a right to the fanworks that is shared with them for free. If it's so important to you to not lose a fic, download it. Also comment and encourage the authors, instead of telling them to give up all ownership to their work.

To authors, if you think about deleting your fics, there are other options you should employ first. If you don't want it connected to your name, put it into an anonymous collection. As long as it's in there, noone can see you wrote it, you still can edit ot or delete it and moderate comments on it. You can even move it to anther account, just create another one, add it as co author and then take your main account off. Then you can still edit it from your second account but it's no longer connected to your account.

If you don't want it to show anymore put it in a unrevealed collection, that way, the fic won't show up but it's still there, you can still see it, read comments and make it public again.

If you feel the urge to delete your fic, try one of these options first and see how you feel about it after a while, you can still delete or orphan afterwards, but this hopefully makes your decision easier.

Only orphan a fic if you're 100% sure. This is permanent, there is no way back from that, AO3 support will NOT help you if you did it on accident or change your mind. Don't listen to people telling you to just orphan it, make very sure, this is what you want.

[sarahthecoat]

i don't think i realized there were so many other options!

[ryanthedemiguy]

My news is reporting on someplace in AZ that's started saving the phone numbers of people who call 911 or the non-emergency line "to send them updates" on the reason they called.

Because apparently people need even more reasons to not call for help. Including people at massive risk.

[drawulan]

Arien

[gendercensus]

Can we break out of our bubble?

As always, the Gender Census is getting a great response from Tumblr - 34% of respondents so far! Thank you so much, I am really grateful for all the signal-boosting. 💜 Now that the response rate is slowing down after the initial peak, my main goal is reaching new people and under-represented groups.

The most common country entered is the USA (53%). In the USA over 60% of the population are aged 30 and over. [Source.] In the Gender Census at the moment it's 25%, and the average age is only 26. Since the main way we reach new people is by word-of-mouth, the survey needs your help.

The following are really effective for getting the word out:

Flyers! On noticeboards, on tables, in eBay parcels, etc. Printable PDF here, or Google Doc here for easy copying and editing. This is a top method for reaching people who aren't super-online.

Sharing this Facebook post in local LGBTQ+ groups. Facebook is particularly good for reaching under-represented age groups.

WhatsApp forwarding. We have a WhatsApp channel here with regular shareable posts that you can drop into LGBTQ+ groups or share one-on-one.

Any creative idea you have for sharing the survey URL: survey.gendercensus.com

Thank you everyone!

[ Take part in the 2026 Gender Census before 13th August 2026 ]

[ryanthedemiguy]

I am requesting my tumblr data specifically so I can search my messages to find a specific interaction because i'm not scrolling for hours to hopefully find what i'm looking for.

[ryanthedemiguy]

Wow, it's ready. That's impressively fast.

[transfemininomenon]

the phrase really should be "eat your cake and have it too" im with the unabomber on this one

[micamicster]

They should invent a glasses that you can lay on your side in bed wearing

[windynebula]

I'm gonna say something incredibly 30-year-old and I'm going to ask you to not judge me while I'm trying to be genuine and real. Okay? Here's my truth.

A piece of lettuce can really elevate a sandwich. The fresh crunch? Unrivaled. Peak. Poetic cinema.

[ryanthedemiguy]

Put. The lettuce. Down.

[ryanthedemiguy]

For clarity's sake, i'm talking about the outbreak of cyclospora found on lettuce from a particular farm, sold to fast food places and potentially grocery stores in the US (and admittedly being silly about it)

[redstonedust]

some people like to get mad at disability benefits because they think its unfair people who dont work get a payout from the government while they have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week. but if you tell them "yeah that sucks i think you should also get a universal allowance and not have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week" thats apparently the wrong answer.