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22 | watcher of anime and reader of fics (and metafandom) | back in my theatre kid days

[attex]

i just think if youre usamerican and within an online fan community for something thats also predominantly liked by usamericans You should be nicer and more open minded to fans that arent from the us and maybe dont treat them like some sort of strange fucking creatures. you might get more fans to talk to and befriend if you dont act like the us is the default for everyone in existence. this applies to everything ever when it comes to interacting with others online but im talking about fandom bullshit currently so keep that in mind

[attex]

genuinely if youre a grown ass adult that goes "wtf you never had a childhood xD" because someone in your fandom community said they didnt have a nintendo console or some shit you need to grow up asap and consider how that can be alienating and add up to this person over time and make them not wanna bother with your poking and prodding. because so many usamericans do the exact same shit .

it may sound like something silly to you but maybe you should consider the fact that not everywhere on earth is the same. youre on the internet, there are people across the globe talking to you!! id say you should be thankful if someone from across the earth is into the same stuff as you are, be grateful about how you share a passion for a piece of art despite the distance yknow

[attex]

again, this applies to literally everything. it applies to all sorts of minorities within a given group, they will get alienated and treated weirdly for not fitting in and have their rightful complaints ignored so they dont wanna engage. im just speaking from how ive felt in online fan communities as someone not from the us or imperial core in general

[clickbeetle]

was at the aquarium with my friends and one of them pointed out a neat looking fish. and it immediately looked familiar to me, so i was like “wait wait wait guys hang on wait let me google something for you” and desperately fought with the shitty wifi for a full minute to pull up a picture of an eastern eyed click beetle. and felt like that one spider man shirt post.

[clickbeetle]

[clickbeetle]

ok but in my defense

[clickbeetle]

another similarity to the humble click beetle

[quietwingsinthesky]

the Relationship Ambiguity Zone™️ is a beautiful place to be. safe place to put your characters. put all characters into Relationship Ambiguity Zone. is that guy your mentor or your dad? Ambiguous!!! are you friends or enemies? Ambiguous!!! is it romantic? is it platonic? is it sexual? Ambiguous!!!!!!! never categorize anything ever in the Relationship Ambiguity Zone. just make them fucking weird about each other.

[kneelb4kesha]

Brandon Sanderson is interesting because in the majority of his body of work (especially his main cosmere universe) he kind of sits down across from you and says,

"Listen, even if an omniscient God or a godlike being is real, most religions are built on only a bit of truth and mostly upon myths designed to keep order among the populace. This order creates, designs, and enforces rigid roles for racism, classism, sexism, and homophobia. It excuses and handwaves, if not outright encourages, colonialism and oppression."

and you're like "Mr. Sanderson, aren't you a card carrying member of the Church of Jesus Christ and the Latter Day Saints?"

and he's like "don't worry about that"

[tpwrtrmnky]

I do think "literally zero evidence indicates that gatekeeping medical transition does anything to prevent regret, but the harm done by gatekeeping is extensively documented" is a much stronger argument than "regret isn't real" cause there's always going to be some anecdote that puts you in a weak-looking rhetorical position for the latter, but the former is pretty unassailable.

[headspace-hotel]

tags from @queerical

[victusinveritas]

[hiveswap]

i've been listening to a lot of ambient music while studying so youtube started recommending these buzzword angel number new age health guru bullshit videos

[hiveswap]

listening to classical music for 3 hours wont lower any hormones chances are you don't even have "high cortisol" you've just been watching too many videos by people who think it's the #trending thing to say instead of stress

[academicssay]

[alexaloraetheris]

I am printing these words out and gluing them backwards onto my forehead

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[dovesndecay]

Microaggressions against polyamory in interpersonal interactions are important and should be discussed, but I do wish more of the conversation focused on the ways that systemic amatonormativity impact things like family units, taxes, healthcare, inheritances, housing, childcare, etc.

I'm not dating or married or related to anyone I live with, and our household of four adults can't get any kind of financial or food or housing aid because we count as three separate households despite our semi-blended finances and living together for a decade. There are laws that have been proposed (at least, I don't know if any passed) that limit housing to nuclear families.

Amatonormativity and polyphobia are not just theoretical "people are kinda mean about this sometimes" -- they are real and materially impactful systemic issues, and they affect all of us.

[patrocles]

happy pride to all who celebrate

[pelicanhypeman]

happy pride

[cosmictuesdays]

The Faggots & Their Friends Between Revolutions, Larry Mitchell and Ned Asta.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

Wild how people can openly say "a show/book/movie etc including a character from a specific country or mentioning that county at all is propaganda" and "media shouldn't be normalizing specific nationalities" and their posts will get thousands of notes agreeing as if that isn't some of the most blatant and hateful xenophobia imaginable.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

I think we need to start putting the word propaganda on a shelf because I'm seeing people call The Pitt and Heated Rivalry propaganda and we need to just. Stop.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

"Heated Rivalry is propaganda because the main character is Russian!" Yes, because the Russian government loves nothing more than tv shows with graphic gay sex and queer Russian characters struggling with their country's violent homophobia. Definitely sounds like propaganda to me.

[distinguishedenthusiastcatt]

In Pride month, I think it's important to remind you of this iconic dialogue. You don't have to talk about who you are if you don't want to❤️

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

fanfiction.gov

[dark-academia-lady]

archiveofourown.edu

[crabussy]

when a man and a woman in a piece of fiction get to keep having a delightful friendship dynamic instead of losing all their interesting traits to become the 580000th het couple ever

[crabussy]

still thinking about this. ESPECIALLY IN KIDS MOVIES. not saying that kids can't deal with romance but like! the priority when you're a kid should be building strong friendships. a Serious Negotiated Romance is HUGE!!!! yet SO MANY kids movies focus heavily on that being the Ideal End Goal For Girl And Boy Best Friends and I don't super love that

[cow-inthe-closet]

i think one of the worst parts of having an anxiety disorder is you can know your anxiety is fundamentally unreasonable and does not make any sense. but it doesn't help