[ID: A collection of Reddit posts by u/takeyourmedsbro. Theyāre under r/MtF, and the first is marked as a discussion titled āTo all of you ladies, from a cis man.ā It reads:
I hope it isnāt totally out of order for me to post here, as a man I donāt want to take up your spaces so Iāll try and keep this as short as possible. Tw genital mention
I have full permission from my partner to post this and sheās read it all. There is a misconception that the only men a straight trans women can get with, is a chaser. It is very sad that many of you feel that way, and Iām sorry for how men treat you, but thatās not how it has to be. I met my girlfriend when I was 15. She was living as a boy then and was 13. I used to push her around when we played football at school. I thought she was one of the lads. Time goes on, I was never that close to her and we lost touch. Next thing is I meet her again on a fine art course. I didnāt recognise her at all and with her name change and generic surname I never made the connection. I developed quite the crush, we would go on dates and Iād sort of play them off as just hanging out with a friend. I was so giddy around her and I was terrified to tell her I liked her. One day we were going to the movies and I told myself ātoday is the day I ask her to be my girlfriend, and try to kiss herā We ended up skipping the movie to go on a walk in the local forest. I held her hand and she squeezed mine - my heart was beating so damn fast. We finally kissed and it was like fireworks. I told her I liked her but she cut me off. She told me to stop talking because she needs to tell me something. Now in my mind Iām panicking thinking sheās in a relationship, but she says āl used to be a boy. I was at school with you, please donāt be mad Iām so sorry I didnāt tell you āand then to my absolute horror she said āplease donāt hurt meā She genuinely thought that there was a danger of me attacking her after finding out. This broke my fucking heart. I had my moment of being like wtf - mainly because Iād known this girl for almost 10 years and hadnāt pieced the 2 people together - but then we kissed again, and then again and again and we kissed so much my face hurt by the end. That was 5 years ago and boy this has been a learning curve. Iāve only ever dated cis women before. I am 100% straight and I had to unlearn some internalized shit for maybe a day or so, until I thought what the fuck does it matter who she used to be? Damn I used to be a baby, people change. But I love her the way she is now. I love her smile I love her eyes I love her body her curves her hands her hair and you know what? I love her penis too. I love it because itās hers. and it gives her pleasure, and there isnāt anything wrong with it. I donāt have a fetish. I just fell in love with a woman and that means I fell in love with the whole package. Iām planning to propose to her on new years eve. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I want to raise kids with her and I want her to lose all of these insecurities. Just because you canāt carry them, doesnāt mean you wonāt be the mother of my children. There is hope, youāre not broken or unlovable or nothing but a kink. Youāre a powerful woman.
The second post is titled āUpdate from the cis guy that proposed.ā It reads:
Hey ladies. Iāve been asked by a few of you to share an update. Here is my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/e95hgx/to_all_of_you_ladies_from_a_cis_man/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
And here is your official soppy post warning - bewareā¦
Soooo on exactly 00:00 new years (ok I was probably out by a couple minutes but I did try to time it) I proposed to my beautiful girlfriend (who also happens to be trans, hence why Iām posting on here) and she said YES
I donāt know if I can fully articulate how happy I am. I wanted to keep it lowkey and between the 2 of us so she didnāt feel any pressure, so I cooked her favourite meal ever (I would have liked to cook something fancy and elegant but honestly she would much rather eat spaghetti bolognese with garlic bread and then a loaded ice cream sundae for dessert ANY day of the week) we ate, played board games and did a competition to see who could make the best vehicle out of old egg cartons and toilet roll tubes. Then we decided to make cupcakes which were fucking vile because we forgot to add the sugar of all things. Not typical romantic evening but I felt all the love and when I dropped down on one knee she just wept. I didnāt even know I had a yes at first because she was crying so much. I actually got really scared Iād freaked her out so I stood up and hugged her and said Iām sorry and she finally told me yes yes yes and explained that she was crying because it was always beyond her wildest dreams as a youngster that she would ever be able to be a wife. This is not something I can relate to, but I think I do understand, as best as i can as a cis man. We literally just held each other for a bit before we both realized she hadnāt seen the ring yet! Iām not a wealthy guy at all so I was afraid she would be disappointed in my grandmothers wedding ring as her engagement ring (I will buy her a new ring for the wedding) but I did want her to have it as my grandmother always told me she wanted my future wife to wear it. Luck was on my side though people because the ring made her cry all over again, happy tears, because she said it made her feel like the fairytale she told herself as a child has finally come true. I think there maybe was something affirming about the fact that this ring was left from my grandma for me to give to the woman I want to spend my life with.
Ok I donāt want to bore you all to death with the ins and outs but I havenāt stopped smiling since she said yes. The fiancee (I love saying that, so exciting) has been obsessively wedding planning which is mighty convenient for me considering I have no clue on how to organize a wedding. Itās like the child in her has come out to play and its very endearing. She missed out on all the typical girly activities as a child so sheās making up for lost time. She ALREADY has a scrapbook for the wedding and sheās already browsing dresses!
Iām sorry for being all cliche and cringey. I know its insufferable to many and I do understand. I just feel drunk in love, and i did want to update and not leave people hanging! Other than my mother, my family does not know she is trans, because frankly itās none of their business and my fiancee hasnāt wanted to open up to them about that part of her life. She confided in my mother because my mother knows a transgender boy and so it came up in conversation. As far as the rest of my family are concerned, itās totally irrelevant to them and they will only ever know if she chooses to tell them. So I was wondering if incorporating rainbows anywhere in the theme at all would be too obviously lgbt pride themed? Or can I get away with some rainbow tokens and such just as a discreet acknowledgement of how far sheās come? Obviously I donāt want people to think of this wedding as anything other than what it is, a straight marriage between a man and a woman, so are rainbows risky? Iām just so damn proud of her and want to show that in some way. I was thinking of wearing rainbow cufflinks or something? Anyway sorry for the damn essay but I hope the new year goes well for you lovely ladies and sorry for being a cringe lord. I just canāt believe Iāve found my queen
Third is another post, which reads:
Also we have decided that on the big day, I will wear pink cufflinks and she will wear either blue eye makeup or a flower, and then the theme will be that classic white sorta theme. The colours of the trans flag, thanks to your suggestions. Like so subtle that only me and her will know it means anything at all. Hopefully that will work out tastefully but we also like the pink/blue/white elements of the cake idea. I showed her some of these comments and god damn it you lok she is now exploring sooo many more ideas and concepts, I didnt think she would expand past the scrapbook, but we now have a wedding āmood boardā of all thingsā¦ takes up half the wall in our room. I proposed only 3 days ago! I love her enthusiasm but Iām finding it hard to rate all the dresses she shows me, when I cant tell the difference between any of themā¦ a white dress is a white dress, but she says thatās typical male bullshit and sheās probably right there. But she can wear a bin bag to our wedding and still look perfect so Iām not worried about which compliments her body more, but then I do want her to put a dress on and have that feeling of āthis is my dressā and I have the feeling that could be a long processā¦ anyway, the kindness means everything x. End ID]
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