Elly

I am mine. Before I am ever anyone else's.

[chrispineofficial]

one of the biggest things i believe to be true about relationships is that you must make it feel safe for the people you love to call you out on shit. like obviously don’t let anyone emotionally manipulate or terrorize you but in general, in healthy adult relationships, there is always a pattern of rupture/repair. someone does something (unintentionally!) that makes someone else feel not great, and it needs to be addressed. the best thing you can do to preserve and improve your interpersonal relationships is to be open to these conversations. you have to be able to hear how your words or actions have affected someone, even if it absolutely wasn’t your intention, and you have to be able to simply acknowledge and apologize. it doesn’t matter if you didn’t see it that way. someone you love did, and they care enough to tell you, and that’s a gift. be grateful for the opportunity to do better.

[vlindervin7]

feeling very normal about this

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva]

Why do people talk about climate change like there's an upcoming apocalypse when its effects HAVE BEEN and ARE detrimental? It's ongoing

[teethpastesss]

[midnight-spectrum-again]

Stay Safe Everyone

[riot-dog]

BOOST BOOST BOOST

[midnightsoliloquy]

could somebody please do a transcript of this?

[toiletpaperfandom]

The 3 tips are:

1) traffickers spread honey on top of your car, so that youll wonder what it is and stay outside longer while cleaning it up. If you see theres something strange/sticky on there: get in your car and drive away

2) sometimes a trafficker will hide under your car with a knife to cut your achilles heels so that you cant run away. Make sure theres no one under there, especially if its dark or remote. (Note from me: works super from a far while approaching)

3) traffickers also try to keep you outside longer by putting something under your windshield, that might be similar looking to a ticket, again, to keep you outside longer. Most times you can see what it is from inside the car, so make it a habit to check it out from inside the car.

[poeticallymindlesshippy]

I’m tired of having to fear for others as well as myself when I hear stuff like this. Ladies we need to invest in guns at this point

[azuldelalba]

Bessel Van Der Kolk, The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind And Body In The Healing Of Trauma.

[aidashakur]

[aus-yeezus]

[thefullestm00n]

[theweefreewomen]

[ID: a twitter thread by  Gon with the wind….like Ging @Satirony:

Marriage betweeen a man and woman was built in a way that benefits men far more than women. This is well studied.

If you’re a man marrying a woman, you need to be cognizant of this and make sure you *overcompensate* in order to make things as egalitarian as possible.

I emphasize overcompensating because there are aspects of relationships between men and women that far more often than not result in women doing more, because we live in a patriarchal and misogynistic society.

So you need to make sure you’re consciously doing more to compensate for the unseen things that she will most likely be doing.

And this is especially true in societies in which women also work outside of the home (so the past several decades in most Western societies).

And I refuse to have a dynamic that my parents, like a lot of late Baby Boomers, had.

One in which both the man and woman work outside the house, but the woman still does most of the child rearing and cleaning at home.

I know somebody is eventually gonna assume I’m saying this with ulterior motives and ask something stupid like “did she pick you?”

The answer is yes, she did. I’m married. Now go reflect on your inadequacies as a partner.

below is a shared gif of a woman taking a sip from a martini glass. end ID.]

[solarishashernoseinabook]

In practical terms this means:

know who the family doctor is (as well as dentist, optometrist, etc.) and when everyone had their last appointment so you can schedule the next. This goes for pets as well

know your kids shoe sizes. Seriously, I had a coworker complain that her husband got too-small boots for their kindergartener.

do grocery shopping

based off the above, be aware of everyone’s allergies/intolerances/diets/personal tastes

know how to cook and do your fair share

know how to do laundry, dishes, etc.

know when the bills are due and pay some of them

take an active role in planning holidays, vacations, etc. and budgeting for them

know your kids friends so you can arrange playdates

know their babysitter so you can arrange childcare

if your spouse does the cleaning most often, know when they tend to clean and help out. Do they sweep every day? Do they mop once a week or once a month? Help with that

know the location of everything in the house (cleaning supplies, kitchen utensils, tax forms, etc.) so that if your spouse is away, you can run the household solo without having to ask constantly where everything is

take an active interest in your spouse’s life and your kids lives

[vladtheunfollower]

[micahhangelo-deactivated2020112]

Uh idk who is cuter

[werethless-deactivated20190103]

Bruh.

[baker-p-i]

THE LIL BABY KISSED HIM WHEN HE WAS TALKING IN SLOTH TO HIM!!!!!

[melaninmedicine]

both of them are toooooooo fucking cute

[von-snow-deactivated20240101]

Men need to normalize having friendships with women without a sexual or romantic foundation. Some women are just really cool people to know, regardless of your attraction to them.

[theperksofbeingaperk]

[jinxfmrl]

https://archive.org/details/DontBeaS1947

Here’s the whole video. It’s called “Don’t Be A Sucker” and it’s 17 minutes long.

[republicansareahategroup]

don’t just scroll past this actually watch it, it’s only 2 minutes long. If you re-recorded this today word for word with modern actors and places, it wouldn’t even look out of place as a PSA

[serenata-your-neighborhood-lefty]

On this day, December 4th, 1969, Fred Hampton was assassinated in his bed during a predawn raid at his Chicago apartment by a tactical unit of the Cook County Office, in conjunction with the Chicago Police Department and the Federal Bureau of Investigation. He was 21. Another Panther, Mark Clark, was also killed and several others were seriously wounded.

Fred Hampton was an American activist and revolutionary socialist. He came to prominence as chairman of the Illinois chapter of the Black Panther Party. In this role he formed a multicultural organisation known as the "Rainbow Coalition", comprised of the BPP, Young Patriots, The Young Lords and an alliance amongst major Chicago street gangs to help them end infighting and work for social change. The Black Panther Party also organised mutual aid projects such as a breakfast program, which fed 20,000 children across 19 cities.

In 1967, Hampton was identified by the FBI as a "radical threat". The FBI tried to subvert his activities in Chicago, sowing disinformation among these groups and placing a counterintelligence operative in the local Panthers.

At a press conference the day after killing, the police announced the arrest team had been attacked by the "violent" and "extremely vicious" Panthers and had defended themselves accordingly. At another press conference, police leadership praised the assault team for their "remarkable restraint" and "professional discipline" in not killing all the Panthers present. It was later found that all but one of nearly 100 shots were fired by the police.

His death was ruled a justifiable homicide at the time, although a civil lawsuit filed on behalf of survivors and relatives won $1.85 million dollars in damages in 1982.

"You can jail the revolutionary, but you can't jail the revolution .. you might murder a freedom fighter like Bobby Hutton, but you can't murder freedom fighting." - Fred Hampton

[rbhvleo]

[nitewrighter]

I really take a lot of issue with jury selection. Like, I’ve been put off of juries in child molestation cases because I know people who have been sexually harassed and assaulted, and I’ve been put off of juries in cases where the defendant is black because I acknowledge the police as being statistically proven to be biased against black people. But like, you’d have to be living under a goddamn rock to not be aware of this shit, and yet it’s grounds to boot someone from a jury.  Like, yeah no one likes jury duty but I do think there’s something deeply inherently rotten about a selection process that sticks its head in the sand about very real widespread problems in our society for the sake of keeping the case itself ‘neutral.’ Like, when 1 in 5 women are getting sexually assaulted in their lifetime, and you’re kicking everyone off the jury for knowing someone who’s been sexually assaulted, who does that leave on the jury? People who don’t talk to women. People who don’t believe women when they talk about sexual assault. How the fuck is that a fair jury?

[neoyorzapoteca]

“I tell my students, ‘When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else. This is not just a grab-bag candy game.’”

— Toni Morrison (via liquidlightandrunningtrees)