learning to grow

emma. 16. she/her. previously sunnydyke.

[emotionalfemme]

Now at @lesbiannovelist

Hey guys! I’m leaving the general tumblr scene and made a writeblr! Please follow me there bc im nkt using this blog anymore !

[trueshredguitar]

i love BI GIRLS who use HE/HIM PRONOUNS!! i love BI GIRLS who are GENDER NONCONFORMING!! i love BI GIRLS who dress in MEN’S CLOTHING!! i love BI GIRLS who are MASCULINE!! i love BI GIRLS who have a COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIP WITH WOMANHOOD!!

[postmarxed-deactivated20190429]

Hey so this story about the Trump administration “defining transgender out of existence” or whatever seems like a really panic inducing headline that’s probably meant to make you so anxious you feel like you have to click the link and read the article. I’m seeing it passed around on here talking about protections for trans people being removed from the civil rights act and info on moving to Canada and Ireland as a refugee and like.

First of all there is no federal civil rights legislation protecting trans people. Maybe in some states? Def not mine but idk. Federally it’s entirely legal rn for people to deny you housing or a job or healthcare or whatever for being trans. That’s just how it’s always been. There’s no protection from that, no laws against it. If you’re a transgender adult and you’re worried about this affecting you it isn’t.

Transgender students tho is who this is gonna hit bc this is regarding title IX of the education ammendments of 1972. Title IX is supposed to protect against discrimination based on sex in educational institutions that receive money from the federal government. That pretty much covers any school, private and public colleges, high schools, all the way down to kindergarten. The interpretation of title IX is left up to the president and Obama kind of extended these protections originally intended for cis women to cover LGBT students as well bc “sex based discrimination” is vague enough that he could get away with including gender and orientation based discrimination.

That’s very likely about to go back to just covering cis women. Which is a big setback and it is a big deal, not having any federal assistance when this kind of discrimination happens. But I know a lot of us have seen the stories of transgender students being forced to move to different school districts again and again and one student who was not even allowed to take shelter during an active shooter drill and for the most part I think we know that help from the feds was already not available any longer. This just puts it in writing that Trumps DOJ isn’t gonna interpret title XI likes Obama’s DOJ did but we already knew that.

That doesn’t mean progress can’t be made on this it just means you can’t depend on the federal government to help anymore but you can still agitate locally and getting these protections from school boards, from municipal and county ordinances, and from state laws is probably the best thing to demand right now to keep this policy from flipping every time the white house flips.

[postmarxed-deactivated20190429]

All of y'all reblogging this talking about trans people having other rights stripped from them outside of the education system are missing the point that we didn’t have any established rights to begin with

[pancakeke]

yall would live much happier lives if you would stop to think “is this about me?” before starting pointless shit.

you don’t need to accuse a post about safe sex of being aphobic. someone talking about the struggles of being bi doesn’t need you saying they should be a lesbian instead. if someone talks about a nice thing their dad did they don’t need you replying about shitty men are

so many people around here are so rude and bitter that it almost seems like they’re trolling but they’re not! they’re just horribly self centered

[emotionalfemme]

Lorde really was right when she sang those lyrics “and I never felt more alone” like me too girl the fuck

[dietjuvederm-deactivated2018112]

hot bitches still use their hands to determine right from left

[keithharingdaily]

Happy National Coming Out Day!

National Coming Out Day, 1988 Keith Haring

[emotionalfemme]

[neonprotagonist]

tahani: why have i never felt any attraction to any men. ever. in my life.  tahani, after meeting jason: i understand now. i have never met a man with an iq below 160 tahani: tahani: i must be morosexual

[neonprotagonist]

tahani, skipping rocks with eleanor: im not a morosexual. i’m simply a lesbian eleanor, to herself as she punts a rock into the water: take that your forking lake tahani: hm. maybe both

[kuromilesbian-deactivated202205]

it’s 9pm …. you know what that means

[dankmemeuniversity]

[xoxoxogossipgirlll]

there’s such a complete lack of compassion when people talk about girls in abusive relationships and it’s like unless you’ve been manipulated and had your self esteem been ruined to pieces by a boy who consistently gaslights you and makes you feel like you’re wrong all the time then please watch ya tone all right, is not something that’s easy to see until you get out and when you’re being abused, you’re not in the optimum state of mind to realise that you need to get out. It’s not easy at all and I don’t think messages like “girls allow themselves to be treated badly by guys” help, bcs no girl is *allowing* themselves to be abused

They’ve been broken down to the point where they don’t see his behaviour as abuse, they see it as love and they romanticise everything he does bcs they don’t know any better and if they do know better, they’re too fucking scared to leave so maybe just relax with the self righteous tone when talking about girls staying in shitty relationships yah

[mailbox-arson]

god I wish I was decomposing in the mountains

[mandasjournal]

[flipphonegoth]

[transbisexuals]

if you’re lgbt reblog this and tag your identity, height, and whether you walk slow or fast

[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

Why do you hate cishet people so much

whats not to hate

[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

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[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

what in the goddamn world