Short-lived | Long Life

I want freedom for the full expression of my personality • Learning to live between effort & surrender • A work in progress • ☯

[is-this-fascism]

#1 thing you can do to be a better driver is to be at peace with going the wrong direction for a little while.

like it is not the end of the world if you miss your turn. all the roads are connected to all the other roads. you will find your way very quickly.

unless you're experiencing a genuine emergency, dont even think about making a sudden movement, ESPECIALLY across one or more lanes, just to avoid missing a turn

just relax. be at peace with the way the universe has led you. who knows you might discover something you never would have seen, like a nice restaraunt or a park you didn't know about. just. fucking relax

[peoplefolk]

The best driving advice I ever got was "you get there when you get there."

Miss a turn? It's okay. You get there when you get there.

Left the house late? Nothing you can do about it now. You get there when you get there.

Stopped by a train, or an accident on the highway? It's out of your hands. You get there when you get there.

I know all of these things can be anxiety-inducing. But by the time you're in the car experiencing them, no crazy maneuver will make a meaningful difference in the time it takes to get where you're going, and that maneuver will be at the cost of your safety and others.

Nothing is more important than your life.

You get there when you get there.

[triniwindowseat]

This also feels like sound life advice.

[nerudan]

remember the time 12 yr old fidel castro sent franklin d roosevelt a letter asking for 10 dollars bill green american

[desinteresse]

Talking to friends with inept parents is crazy. No wonder they’re like this if their parents kept fumbling

[desinteresse]

“I’m having trouble adapting to my adult responsibilities” well no wonder, nobody raised you 😭😭😭

[desinteresse]

Hot tip for future parents: you actually have to guide your kid to adulthood. Feeding them and waiting for them to grow up is not enough since they are not house plants. A little more thought and care is required.

[mosssreblogs]

for those lacking certain "adulting" skills, especially things around the house, check out:

mom, how do i...?

and dad, how do i...?

^ there are tons of other resources but these two will teach you some personal hygiene, home or apartment repairs, easy recipes and basic cleaning techniques, even how to schedule doctor's appointments

if youre a renter i cannot recommend the trans handyma'am enough, mercury is a lifesaver, and her channel and accounts are always accepting new questions

there are so many resources, a lot that you dont have to even ask for, just know how to look 🩷 much love

[tropic-havens]

Tomé-Açu, Pará, Brazil

[notthatdom]

Forget about fancy dates, i wanna flirt with you in kitchen while cooking for you

[ephemeralemotion]

LOL ~no comment~

[liones-s]

one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

[smsomah]

Saudi Arabia, 1951. Philby-Ryckmans-Lippens

[ctrlaltengineer]

02-24-2025 // 12 pm

Something that really pisses me off is how universities basically have no real control over how AI is used, or over what students actually know anymore. The biggest issue is that it only takes one person to start using it, and suddenly everyone else is forced into it too. Not because they’re lazy, but because the system pushes them there. The chain is pretty obvious: you don’t use AI → you get worse grades because everything takes more time and effort → more stress, less time → worse job opportunities → worse salary → and overall a worse quality of life. This is something professors and universities seriously underestimate. Not everyone who uses AI does it because they don’t want to work. A lot of people are just trying not to fall behind. At some point you start asking yourself whether it’s even worth not using it just on principle. Nobody is giving out medals for refusing AI. You’re just making your own life harder in a system that doesn’t reward that choice. A common response is: “Well, in job interviews it’s obvious who actually knows what they’re doing.” Sure, sometimes. But if you got worse grades because you refused to use AI and therefore had less time to finish assignments, you often don’t even make it to the interview stage. Your CV gets filtered out long before anyone can see what you actually know. That’s why I think companies need to adapt too. Academic records still matter, obviously, but they shouldn’t be the whole story. There need to be better ways to test actual reasoning and understanding, instead of asking people to write code or assignments that are incredibly easy to fake anyway. Right now, the system rewards optimization, not knowledge, and pretending otherwise is just denial.

Rant finished.

[vollzeitherz-deactivated2026012]

as you get older, you start realizing that you are not always right and there’s a lot of things you could have handled better and many situations where you could have been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.

[khazafi-deactivated20260131]

hi here is a condensed telling of the Sudanese genocide and the history behind it in video form since a lot of you seem to have no clue what’s going on and have just been saying ‘free sudan’ for a couple years. you can use it as a foundation and expand by researching further from there.

this Twitter thread explains in depth how the uae is directly complicit in Sudanese genocide.

here is a link to a page with gofundme campaigns of Sudanese individuals and families. this Twitter account does the same thing

this fundraiser helps to keep twelve community kitchens in the khartoum state area functional. this one keeps a community kitchen in omdurman functional

this initiative provides displaced people from el fasher who have arrived in tawila with food, clothing, medical supplies, menstrual products, etc. it is also funding a community kitchen in el fasher

you can donate here to help disabled Sudanese people in the nuba mountains

you can donate here to provide menstrual pads to Sudanese in displacement camps. one donation of $5 provides them to one person for an entire year.

this fundraiser is raising money to provide evacuation, healthcare and more for families in the gezira state.

this one is raising money to help families rebuild their homes

and darfur women’s action group is raising money to educated displaced children in Sudan and establish / maintain women’s centers

an estimated 25,000 children have been killed by the uae backed rsf [x]. tens of thousands are missing (kidnapped). hundreds of thousands in el fasher are at risk of starving to death in an engineered famine. Sudanese people are being massacred in hospitals, forced to bury themselves alive, raped, hung, starved, and tortured. the rsf are terrorists, the uae are masterminding the genocide of black people, and the absolute very least you can do is know what’s going on when you say ‘free Sudan’

[mizoguchi]

Additionally, for those who like to see long form video and a deep historical analysis I highly recommend Ahmed Kaballo, who is Sudanese and the founder of African Stream which was deplatformed by the US State Department. In the first video he interviewed his father Sidgi Kaballo "who is an economist, academic and Central Committee member of Sudan's Communist Party".

[emrayfo]

[fabforgottennobility]

FIRENZE

[depsidase]

[setdeco]

PIERRO PORTALUPPI, Casa Corbellini - Wassermann , Milano, Italy, 1934 - 36

[tropic-havens]

Honolulu, Hawai'i

[byjove]

So many Reddit relationship stories (where the relationship is not inherently fucked and the other person is not a threat to society) just come down to the person not realizing their feelings aren’t valid. Sometimes you think and feel things that are damaging to yourself and others and you have to learn to mitigate those bigggggg feelings. It is shit I thought we learned in kindergarten. Everybody is a little jealous of the birthday boy’s cool gifts but if you have a sobbing screaming jealous breakdown about it at the party, nobody is going to want to be your friend and it is not going to change anything in your favor.

There will be posts like “I feel angry at my wife because she hasn’t been as affectionate towards me because she’s been taking care of her dying mom.” like, okay. Grow the fuck up. That’s an inside thought. It’s normal to miss your S/O when stressful life events keep you from spending quality time with each other. Absolutely not normal to behave like your point of view is the most important part of this situation and to continue to develop resentment towards your spouse who is experiencing one of the worst things that can happen to a person.

Sometimes something someone does makes you uncomfortable and you realize it is your fault for feeling that way. Sometimes you will be jealous for no particular reason. Sometimes you’ll have an immature and selfish point of view on a situation. Sometimes you genuinely have to admit to yourself your feelings do not matter in a particular situation and swallow them.

[byjove]

I think if your friends don’t like your S/O, it’s important to have a candid and vulnerable conversation with them as to why. Not saying they’re always right (they often are) but if you have a nondefensive, private no judgement conversation with them about why then you can usually tell if it is a friend problem or a significant other problem or perhaps a bit of both. ‘My friend doesn’t like my boyfriend because she misses the amount of time we used to feel together and has felt lonely since I got with him.’ and ‘All of my friends hate my boyfriend because he is heinously disrespectful to them and creepy when I’m not in the room.’ are too totally different ballgames and you can’t just decide which way the situation leans without asking pointed questions.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Me when someone else has a heavy accent when speaking English: That accent is charming and I can tell they put in a lot of effort to learn English.

Me when I have a heavy accent speaking another language: They are going to shoot me the second I open my mouth aren’t they