Selita

Muttaqīn, choosing taqwa in a world that taught me to hide.

[eskarova]

Buying a house? Zip it.

New job? Zip it.

Going on vacation? Zip it.

Getting married? Zip it.

Not every blessing needs an audience.

Envy is real, and privacy is protection. Share your good news with people you trust, thank Allāh quietly, and let your results speak louder than your announcements.

[eskarova]

When we’re talking, put your phone away. Don’t leave it on the table or keep checking the screen. If your attention is on your phone, I feel disconnected. If we’re spending time together, I’d like us to be fully present with each other.

❞

[eskarova]

Why do we have to pray if Allāh doesn’t need it?

Because Allāh does not need our prayers, we do. Allāh does not need our worship; we need to worship Him. Every act of worship benefits us, not Him. Prayer strengthens our faith, purifies our hearts, reminds us of our purpose, and brings us closer to Allāh. The commands of Allāh are for our own good, both in this life and the next.

[eskarova]

Why do you want children?

Because you’re getting older?

Because your parents expect grandchildren?

Because society says it’s time?

Or have you actually thought about their purpose?

Hannah, the mother of Maryam (عليها السلام), didn’t think in terms of status or dunyā. She wanted her child to be devoted to Allāh Subḥānahu wa Taʿālā.

She made du’a:

“My Lord, I have vowed to You what is in my womb, dedicated [to Your service]…” (Qur’an 3:35)

We plan schools, careers, and futures in this world, but ignore their ākhirah.

She expected a son, yet Allāh blessed her with Maryam, a woman whose name would be remembered and honored for generations.

You are not just raising a child for yourself or for society. You are raising a soul you will be questioned about.

So stop treating children as a life milestone.

Ask the only question that matters:

What are you preparing them for, this world, or the meeting with Allāh?

[eskarova]

Islam is not asking you to destroy yourself or stay in things that are breaking your mental, emotional, or physical wellbeing.

Sabr isn’t about silently tolerating harm or calling it faith. It’s about staying grounded in your deen while dealing with difficulty in a wise and healthy way.

Sometimes sabr means enduring something for the sake of Allāh. But sometimes it also means taking action, setting boundaries, or walking away from what’s harming you when you can.

Islam doesn’t tell you to ignore damage. It tells you not to harm yourself and to act with wisdom and responsibility.

So staying in something that constantly drains you, disrespects you, or breaks your peace isn’t automatically “strong sabr.” Strength can also be knowing when something needs to change.

Faith is meant to protect you, not erase you.

[eskarova]

You don’t struggle to balance deen and dunya because you’re weak.

You struggle because you’re trying to do everything at once.

You tell yourself:

“If I fix my deen, my life will fall into place.”

But life doesn’t pause.

Deadlines still come.

Bills still need to be paid.

Exams don’t disappear.

And salah still needs to be prayed—no matter what.

So you feel stuck between two worlds.

But here’s the truth:

You were never meant to “balance it all.”

You were meant to prioritize the akhirah within your dunya.

Not separate lives.

One life—with one direction.

The cycle you’re stuck in looks like this:

Motivation → all-in → burnout → guilt → restart.

That’s not inconsistency.

That’s an unsustainable approach.

Islam was never meant to be lived in extremes.

It’s built on consistency.

Small deeds.

Clear intentions.

Showing up—even when it’s hard.

Your studies can be worship.

Your job can be worship.

Your struggles can bring you closer to Allāh.

Dunya isn’t blocking your deen.

It’s where your deen is tested, lived, and proven.

So stop trying to become perfect overnight.

Instead, become someone who doesn’t let go of:

her prayers,

her intentions,

her connection to Allāh,

even on her hardest days.

You’re not far from Allāh.

You’re just exhausted from trying to reach Him all at once.

[eskarova]

From what I’ve learned, Islam doesn’t require Arabic names, what matters is that a name has a good meaning and doesn’t go against the faith. While Arabic names are beautiful and meaningful, they are not required but instead a tradition that many Muslims follow.

[eskarova]

When I talk to people online, it never really feels like I’m talking to the real them. It’s like I’m interacting with a flattened, NPC version, not the full person.

No facial expressions. No tone. No presence. Just text on a screen.

I don’t think it’s about any specific person. I just connect better in real life. I like seeing people’s reactions, hearing their voice, feeling their energy. Online conversations feel distant to me, even with people I care about.

Maybe I’m just someone who prefers real presence over digital connection.

❞

[eskarova]

Я учусь меньше реагировать, потому что мне не нужно терять своё спокойствие только ради того, чтобы меня поняли.

[eskarova]

Жизнь даётся лишь одна — живи искренне, расти осмысленно и не растрачивай её, стараясь быть тем, кем ты не являешься.

[eskarova]

Чтобы обрести покой, не позволяй страху перед будущим управлять тобой и не позволяй прошлому определять тебя.

[eskarova]

Истинная честь исходит из хорошего характера, а не из происхождения.

[eskarova]

Одного предательства достаточно — не нужно всего моря, чтобы ощутить вкус соли.

[eskarova]

Maryam عليها السلام reminds us that strength can be quiet and that trust in Allāh can carry you through what others do not understand. She faced isolation, slander, and the pain of childbirth alone, yet Allāh supported her and honoured her truth. Her story teaches that dignity comes from faithfulness to Allāh, not from people’s opinions. Even in the hardest trials, Allāh sees every moment of patience and sends relief from places we never expect.

[eskarova]

Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) said:

"Take my advice with regard to women:

Act kindly towards women,

for they were created from a rib,

and the most crooked part of a rib is its uppermost.

If you attempt to straighten it; you will break it,

and if you leave it alone, it will remain crooked;

so act kindly toward women."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

[eskarova]

Самые прекрасные душой люди — те, кто радуется благословениям других, терпеливо ожидая своих.

[eskarova]

То, что тебя миновало, не было тебе предназначено.

А то, что предназначено тебе, никогда тебя не минует.

Поэтому будь спокоен.