This is a selfship sideblog
This blog is mostly inactive because of my migraton to twitter.
My name is Lou. My main blog is @miinyya.
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I’m Louis, or just Lou, genderfluid (he/she/they) and 21+
More lil Trivia
+from germany
+taken
+not very active on here tbh
+twitter: shipwithmii
Read my carrd before following.
Quick bucket list
DO NOT FOLLOW OR INTERACT IF (this exludes interacting with the general imagines and positivity posts)
+you are a minor (under 18)
+you think aging up is pedophilia
+you are an anti
+you are only here for “f/o” material
+you are in any way racist/homophobic/”one true religion” aka hate other peoples religion/ableist/sexist/etc
It’s just my two cents but I really gotta speak it into the world.
This is gonna be LONG so here have a read more
You all are hypocritical cherry pickers that want fandoms and communities to cater to your interests and morals
And let me tell you honey, that is gonna ruin not only your own experience, but everyone elses.
Lemme adress some things
Why y’all so ready to cry wolf when someone ages up a character?
The discourse is probably as old as this fucking community. It happens every other month and I am sick of it. “If you age up characters you are a pedo uvu sorry I don’t make the rules.” yes you do. You literally made up your own fucking rules about this. “Well you are shipping with a minor!” they’re aged up. “But you still ship with a minor!!”
Okay by that logic, why are we allowing all these other shippers doing their thing? The people that ship with Sans from Undertale that is a skeleton? I mean he is still just a skeleton linking him strongly to the image of death so necrophilia much?
What about the people shipping with inanimate objects? The people shipping with transformers? Those are aliens and or vehicles? Yeah that is mechanophilia.
What about people who ship with f/os that have animalistic features? I mean they are mainly antropomorphic but they still are animals. Beastiality
“No wait that is all dif-”
How about the people shipping with villains and criminals? Clearly that means they endorse that shit irl.
What about the people that ship with people MUUUCH older than them? some millenia or hundreds of years? or just 20? clearly endorse predatory behavior
While we’re at it what’s up with people shipping with divine beings? Angels? Demons? Sounds like blatant blasphemy to me
Do I want you to double down so you can prove yourself right? NO! I want you to understand that you guys are cherry picking and not understanding correlation between topics! Are there legit pedos on tumblr? yes. is it a strangers job to care for all the minors out there? no? If I go into a park it is not my job to hold an eye out for all kids that there are. I am not their parent, guardian or otherwise a person with any responsibility towards them. Same for people on the internet. I will do my shit and keep to myself. and if I happen to enjoy stuff for myself that is my right. Do I halt at a red light bc I want to be a good example for kids so they don’t learn bad behavior? Can I stop every person that crosses a red light and hold them a long ass lecture about how they endorse dangers in the streets? No.
“But there are minors on the internet!” Yes, I am aware, they will always be, always have been, your point?
“We need to make a safe space for the kids!” No we don’t? people need to follow the Terms of Service of a platform and honestly most people that reblog nsfw stuff even clearly state that minors should not interact.
“No like, YOU need to be on your best behavior bc there could be a minor anywhere!”
Since when did I become these minors parent? Since when did someone push these kids into my lap and say “your responsibility now”?
You need to understand that you can’t always just get upset at stuff EXISTING
nsfw fics are usually tagged and marked accordingly, most people that engage in a lot of nsfw stuff usually have “minors don’t interact” on their blog somewhere. Some even BLOCK people that follow them and are clear minors, that’s some DEDICATION.
But I have seen posts catering to FUCKING WRITERS saying “pls keep nsfw out of ur imagines and reader fics :)))) for the minors, otherwise I cant reblog it.” If you want to cater to your minor audience sure, but I can not stress enough how you can not tell others how to run their shit. Yes, you can suggest that to the imagine writers or writers in general but it is their right to say “no I run it like I want to” and proceed with their shit. And there is nothing you can do about it. Besides if minors really want some nsfw, trust me they WILL find it. Should we therefore police everyone and stuck them into horny jail? No.
“haha look at this lame ass adult getting upset they can’t be predatory anymore bc they are being called out on their pedophilia”
Idk how to tell you that it’s none of your fucking buisness what my personal history is and that you have no claim outside of “aging up is pedophilia” but sure go off, bc I am “upset I can not be predatory” anymore and not just outraged people are throwing around unreasonable claims.
Why would I even age up a character if pedophilia is about being into MINORS? Why would I age a character up if the WHOLE THING about pedophilia is that they are kids????
“Okay but then it’s predatory!” There is a point that depictions of an adult dating someione who is “barely legal” normalizes predatory behavior, but honestly, why is that MY responsibility? And who says I age them up to be barely legal? My social media/tumblr/ selfship experience is a very private thing. It’s a very personal thing, so why tf do I need to cater it to people who are NOT ME? When I do that it’s because I want to do it, not because I need to fill some moral obligations. (and yet I can say that YES caring about lgbt, other religious, non white selfshippers and boosting them is something generally people should do)
Like there is a thing about fiction. It doesn’t age like normal people. When I started to love one of my f/os we were the same age. The series eventually ended, it didn’t progress in real time, so I grew up while they stayed their age. And guess what! none of this backstory is any of your god damn buisness!! I don’t OWE it to you as much as writers and others don’t owe their trauma to you just so you can “give them permission” to deal with their trauma through selfshipping or writing. Who do you think you fucking are?
Fiction is not reality. And I am sick being stuck in medevial dark ages europe where people believed everything on a stage to be real life. Where actors were not allowed to exist and the people that did act and depicted a bad guy were generally shunned and hated by everyone bc they didn’t distinguish between fiction and reality.
Does fiction have an effect on reality? Yes. Jaws had repurcussions. Even the german novella “Die Leiden des jungen Werthers” had about a dozen suicides following the lead of the main character. 50 shades had an effect. 13 reasons why had an effect. But that doesn’t mean what you believe it means.
In the end I can not take the role of these minors parents to educate them and look after them. It shouldn’t be my job. And yes there are a lot of scummy adults on the internet. Like a LOT. But you need to understand that the internet will NEVER be a child safe place. And most adults take precautions already!
But fics aren’t for morality lessons. Fics aren’t for sex education. Fics aren’t there to be a fucking HOLY BOOK. Fics are just creative writing. And selfshippers are just there to have a bad time. And if they act out SURE call them out but otherwise just leave them tf alone?
“No no, what you write is what you actively endorse uvu”
Then say good bye to Horror and thriller. Say good by to books involving cheating. Say good bye to books in which anyone ever gets harmed. Say good bye to books ever even mentioning any problematic topic that isn’t 100% uwu pure
“Wait no that is different-”
How is it? Is it only problematic when you get off of it? Is that your argument? Are we going the christian route of condemning being sexually free and enjoying something that is legit a very important thing to a lot of people? (yes to asexuals their LACK of sexual attraction can also be a very important topic bc they have the right to express that without being condemed for not wanting to BONE or not being able to get horny by looking at bodies.)
Yes the over fetishization of certain topics is problematic, yes there is a lot of toxicity when it comes to porn and that shit, but kinks are just kinks.
“So you say pedophilia is just a kink!”
No. Pedophilia is aweful and no child should ever suffer through that sort of exploitation.
“But you say rape is just a kink!”
No. Real life rape is aweful and whoever rapes another human being deserves death full stop.
“You just said-”
YES! I know what I said! A lot of people hate real life stuff that they endorse in fiction. Some people are into pissing and shitting into each other! Some people are into hardcore bondage! And they all have their own histories, their own lifes and it’s their fucking thing? Do I want death on all rapists? Yes. Do I sometimes have questionable fantasies that might involve non con or dubious consent? Yes, so? Do I have my reasons for that? Yes, it’s none of your gd buisness?
It all always boils down to entitlement. Y’all need to understand that you can’t just run around demanding everyone to cater to your bullshit. You can not run around accusing people of pedophilia just because they would like to see themselves date a fictional character, but in their age.
If it makes you uncomfortable then don’t follow and interact with those people but you don’t need to pretend to have some moral high ground so you are the better person. You can just... have dislikes?
Even so, as I make this post I can not speak in broad terms because each case, each person is individual. Maybe some get off on shit and endorse it, how should I know? Maybe someone out there is fighting for not policing and censoring stuff because they actively want more pedo content, I don’t know, I am not the CIA or FBI?
It’s also none of my buisness. Is it aweful that these people exist? yeah. Are they prone to be on tumblr? probably? Are they that selfshipper that ages up their f/o so they can smooch? Unlikely.
People have their reasons. Their backstories, and none of that should have to be layed open just to get a strangers “okay” for shipping with the fictional character that makes them happy.
so uuuh before I leave
tldr: y’all full of shit and aging up is not pedophilia, you are just trying to give yourself some moral highground. you sound like a flatearther lol.
I can not believe we're at this fucking point again. i can not fucking- just when i thought i can return to at least give some good back onto the world, back into the community, ya know foe the girls and the gays, when i thought we might turn on a new fucking leaf.
With the discussion of being more inclusive in our community, I’ve decided to create a masterpost of all the tags and tag suggestions I’ve seen floating around. Let’s make these official.
These tags are specifically for marginalized self shippers who want to find content made for them; this includes imagines, fanfiction, reader fics, resources, and visual media. Be mindful of your privileges, if any, when posting in these tags. Don’t forget to uplift and support your peers, too!
Feel free to reply, reblog, or send an ask to me with corrections, suggestions, and other feedback. I cannot always keep up with suggestions in tags and may miss them.
I will update this list accordingly based on said feedback. Thank you!
there’s a lot of focus among selfshippers about their ship being “canon” and i feel like it’s borne of this weird shift in fandom lately where ppl are obsessed with whatever they ship becoming canon, but i remember when that wasn’t the case and people just shipped characters together bc they thought they were cute together. so i’m here to say you absolutely don’t have to have your selfship be canon if you don’t feel like it! if you want your ship can exist outside of canon. you and your fave can just be cute together and kiss without any connection to the source they’re from.
this is not to invalidate people who do enjoy the concept of their selfships being canon of course!! i’m one of you! i love weaving my self inserts organically into the plot and making the romance evolve that way. but sometimes it’s also ok to just go “we’re cute together” without also saying “we’re canon together”. that’s all i’m saying!
Byleth: Yuri just made a group chat called ‘Yuri’s surprise birthday party’ invited all of us and then left the chat. I’m feeling a lot of emotions right now, but mostly respect.
since ppl are opening up a dialogue about lgbt+ self shippers, here is a friendly reminder:
self shippers, let’s do better for wlw!
love lesbians who self ship with men! my inbox and my messages are frequently visited from my fellow lesbians who feel ashamed, insecure, and less of a lesbian, and my heart breaks for them bevause one little blog can only do so much. reach out to your lesbian pals and remind them their male f/os adore them so much!
love mspec wlw! you are not any of the stereotypes, you are not “half gay half straight”, and your love is a beautiful and powerful thing! your f/os would never expect anything out of you except that you remember that they always love you!
love aro/ace wlw! being aro or ace along with another lgbt+ identity does not make you less lgbt+ or less wlw. your f/os would never cross any boundaries you don’t want them to, and it’s okay to want things in fiction you don’t want irl.
love trans wlw! i rarely see support for trans women in the community, so let’s bring it in for our girls! trans girls, you bring so much joy to your f/os every day and you light up their lives and the lives of your fellow selfshippers!
love wlw of color! your skin tone is stunning, your hair is heavenly, and your features are flawless! (and my alliteration is awesome.) your f/os adore and appreciate your culture, your language, and all the beautiful things that make you unique!
love disabled, neurodivergent, and mentally ill wlw! you are just as easy to care for as anyone else, and your f/os are always happy to do anything you need to keep you safe and comfortable! you are loved along with your differences, not despite them.
love wlw who are jewish, muslim, and part of any other less recognized religions! you deserve positivity and recognition on your special days too! your f/os will celebrate with you and would observe with you if you’re comfortable with that, and they fully respect your beliefs!
feel free to add on, but remember, this is for wlw!!! do not derail!
ok u know what i wasnt gonna add to this initially but then i realized im literally a trans lesbian and my experience as such in the community is just as valid as everyone else
ive been here for a year and a half and something rly pervasive ive noticed especially with imagines is that they always just kind of assume that the f/o is inherently bigger/taller than the shipper, inherently the dominant one in the relationship, and inherently masculine (to the point where a lot of imagines i see straight up use he/him pronouns for the f/o). and that’s cool and all bc there should be imagines & positivity posts for all sorts of people but when it’s at a 9 to 1 ratio that it’s just automatically assumed that f/os are men or at least have stereotypically masculine traits it gets. troublesome especially from my trans lesbian point of view. there are people in this community, especially wlw, who love women and feminine ppl and they shouldn’t feel othered for it.
another thing: i have predominantly female f/os so i don’t want to speak over mspec wlw on this but i’ve also seen some of my friends mention that they feel less inclined to talk about their female f/os bc they don’t get as much support on the posts they make about them, which is also an issue. the heteronormativity in this community is very noticeable and i think we should all work to eliminate it by (among other things) uplifting wlw shippers and supporting them when they talk about their attraction to women instead of sweeping it under the rug.
I want to remind the community that there’s still an anon (or a group of anons? either way pathetic) posing as other selfshippers and slinging slurs left and right, especially about “stealing” your f/o. I’ve gotten one or two every month when I’ve had anon turned on, been called slurs, had my f/o’s called slurs, and other selfshippers called slurs in almost all of them.
And as always, if you ever receive one from “me,” I beg of you to know it’s not me sending them. I do not send hate, and if I had an issue with someone, I’d message them myself, rather than send something anonymously.
and we are a blog dedicated to mlm and masc aligned nblm self shippers!
our blog was created to share all things mlm. we will create and share imagines, scenarios, prompts, ask games, etc specifically for mlm self shippers! we will also share art, writing, playlists, moodboards, etc made by and for mlm shippers throughout the community! we’ll even boost promos here!
we intend for this to be a safe and positive place for all mlm, because it’s so important that we have our space uninvaded and unspoken over by cis women. we’re so happy you’re here and we’ll be even happier to have you!
please feel free to read our about as well as our before you follow!
I’ve seen many of my self-shipping friends be affected by this particular issue, and since we’re having some important conversations right now, I figured it’s time to throw my hat into the ring.
Mspec/aspec/arospec women and nblm (regardless of pronouns, presentation, or anything else) deserve support when shipping with men. Our ships aren’t heteronormative, and they’re just as valid as other ships. We don’t deserve to be treated as straight or “straight lite”.
There’s a lot of conversation that I feel is focused on straight women with male f/os being the majority and other shippers being left out, which is well and good, but a lot of the discussion here is actually leaving us out as well when we are part of the LGBT+ community and have every right to be here. Referring to us as “straight” is not okay.
This applies to others as well! Mspec/aspec/arospec men and nblw (again, regardless of pronouns, presentation, or anything else) deserve support for shipping with women. These ships aren’t heteronormative, and they’re just as valid and deserving of support as other ships. They’re also not straight or “straight lite”.
And there’s more! Lesbians and gay men sometimes ship with characters of a gender they’re not attracted to in real life. This doesn’t make them any straighter or invalidate their sexualities. These ships are also deserving of love and support. And dear god, do not say these ships are heteronormative either, those are real people doing something fictionally for fun.
What’s more, all trans self ships are inherently going to be LGBT+, even when the trans self shippers in question are straight. They deserve love and support, always.
There’s an important conversation to be had here, but keep in mind that we’re here too. Be mindful of how you discuss these issues, and keep in mind there often isn’t a hard line between “gay” and “straight” ships.
With the discussion of being more inclusive in our community, I’ve decided to create a masterpost of all the tags and tag suggestions I’ve seen floating around. Let’s make these official.
These tags are specifically for marginalized self shippers who want to find content made for them; this includes imagines, fanfiction, reader fics, resources, and visual media. Be mindful of your privileges, if any, when posting in these tags. Don’t forget to uplift and support your peers, too!
Feel free to reply, reblog, or send an ask to me with corrections, suggestions, and other feedback. I cannot always keep up with suggestions in tags and may miss them.
I will update this list accordingly based on said feedback. Thank you!
The original version without the updated tags and list is still circulating, with comments/critique in tags. I’d like everyone to share and look at the updated version, to which I’ve made several corrections and additions, and am still doing so.
Please keep in mind that I am one person doing my best. I’m also under a lot of stress right now so I apologize that updates aren’t immediate.
hi! i’m making a promo post because i want to get more involved in the community!
⚰️ my name is lestat! i’m 23. i’m a gay trans guy (he/him only, thanks).
⚰️ i have a carrd here. please read it! i explain my byf in detail there. (don’t worry, i’m not a hardass! i just like being very clear, haha.)
⚰️ my only f/o is märchen von friedhof from sound horizon, but don’t worry if you haven’t heard of it or him! sanhora is not my only fandom!
⚰️ i am not comfortable sharing mär, but i doubt this will ever come up :P
⚰️ i like final fantasy (12 & 14), kingdom hearts, world of darkness tabletop, fate: grand order, dragon age, and a bunch of other stuff too! chances are i might know who your f/o is through dash osmosis at least.
