evictedSaint's stuff and things or whatever. @evictedsaint - Tumblr Blog

respawnstory

Keep reading

nochannels-deactivated20211223

evictedsaint

#sunny in philadelphia

st-pam

kateordie

Yeah c'mon

red-valentine-deactivated201902

applying for some jobs today aaaaaaaaaa

otaku-ninja-academy

This is inevitably what everyone would do…

Fever Yellow mucus Sore throat Hypersensitive to touch Fatigue Sick.

The Littlest Cheesemaker.

Read it here!

#TLCM #Bay12Games #Dwarf Fortress

The Littlest Cheesemaker.

Read it here!

#TLCM #Bay12Games #Dwarf Fortress

thatdiabolicalfeminist

I feel like almost all of the guys who’ve had an unreciprocated thing for me developed it because I listened to them and was emotionally supportive, etc., but they themselves never thought to do the same for me. Which ended up with this weird situation where I knew them super well but they literally had zero idea about who I was as a person other than “listens really well and is emotionally supportive.”

Like, they didn’t know the first thing about what was important to me, my beliefs, my family, my work, how I spent my time when I wasn’t with them. Because not a single one of them wanted to know. They would just… never ask, or they’d ask politely and when I started to answer they’d show extreme disinterest and change the subject back to themselves.

But they still thought they loved me, because to them that’s all love is - being emotionally supported by someone. It did not even occur to them that the support could ever go both ways, and they were always bewildered about why I never loved them “back” - even though all they gave me to love was a person so self-obsessed that he couldn’t see me at all.

Emotional labour is so, so important to be aware of in relationships. It has to have some kind of balance, or the person performing it will just burn out. And a relationship consisting only of one person demanding and demanding and never giving back is not love. Love is not a demand. It can accept, and it can ask, but love listens, love cares about how its requests affect the beloved. Love wants to give back.

evictedsaint

This perfectly describes the last girl who developed a crush on me and in hindsight gives words to the awkward, painful fumbling I did when I had to explain exactly why I didn't feel the same attraction to her that she did to me.

#Reblog #delete later #text