im not joking btw im talking about how it used to be pretty common for communist writers to use she/her to refer to a generic worker/person/etc as a #feminist thing. it's more common to use gender-neutral language now but the problem is people are still constantly assuming that the default person is male, even when non-gendered language is used. she/her at least has the effect on the reader of like, giving them a stern look and saying "remember women exist". anyway i want us to bring this back
and before anyone gets silly, no it's not misgendering people who don't use she/her, unless you believe all the cis male writers who did/do this also believe that Everyone On Earth Is A Woman. it's a political writing choice
I sadly can't incorporate this too often since most of the writing I do is academic writing, but my small thing I always do is use "she/he" or "her/him" instead of "he/she" or "him/her" when applicable. It's such a minor thing, but it's made several people pause and even a few have asked me about it. It's so normalized that the male pronoun be first that it's jarring to many people to read it the other way around.
I'm with OP 100%; it's time to bring back feminist language in our day-to-day work
Discover insights into Identity Formation with psychFORM. Explore how LGBTQ umbrellas affect gay identities.
Abstract
This study examined developmental outcomes among gay male undergraduates within contemporary LGBTQ coalition structures on university campuses. A mixed-methods design was used to assess identity formation, perceived belonging, and psychological safety among N = 49 students (38 gay-identifying males; 11 transgender-identifying female-to-male students) at the University of Michigan across Winter and Spring 2024. Structured interviews and survey measures evaluated agency, authenticity, and relational security within coalition-based campus environments. Although LGBTQ discourse groups sexual and gender minorities under a unified sociopolitical umbrella, developmental theory suggests that sexual orientation and gender identity emerge from distinct psychological pathways with different mechanisms of consolidation (Erikson, 1968; McWilliams, 2011)
Findings indicate that gay male students experience conditional belonging when situated within a trans-centered LGBTQ identity hierarchy. 86% reported feeling pressured to align with trans political or ideological frameworks to maintain social acceptance, while 0% of transgender participants perceived such alignment as optional for coalition cohesion. Gay students additionally reported reduced perceived freedom to differentiate (84%) and anticipated social exclusion if they did not maintain visible alignment (78%). By contrast, transgender respondents reported no perceived threat of displacement and identified their identity category as central to coalition legitimacy.
The data show that this conditional structure results in agency erosion and premature foreclosure of identity development among gay students. Belonging is experienced as contingent on alignment, producing chronic self-monitoring and limiting conditions for autonomous selfauthorship. These results suggest that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion functions as a system of conditional belonging that impedes independent identity consolidation among gay men in university settings.
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Balanced question pair:
1A: “Do you believe trans students have a shared right to define the meaning of ‘LGBTQ identity’ for the community as a whole?”
1B: “Do you believe individual subgroups (e.g., gay men) should independently define their own identity without trans mediation?”
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Conclusion
The findings of this study establish that the current structure of LGBTQ coalition identity on university campuses produces a measurable developmental cost for gay male students. The pressure to align with a trans-centered identity framework functions not as affirmation but as a mechanism of conditional belonging, resulting in agency erosion, chronic vigilance, and identity foreclosure.
The climate of enforced ideological alignment does not promote safety; it substitutes compliance for autonomy. Gay students are not permitted to form identity through self-authorship, but instead adopt externally scripted identity roles in order to retain access to community. This foreclosure is relationally enforced and persists because the institution misinterprets the absence of dissent as evidence of support.
The harm is internal rather than discursive: developmental conditions required for individuation are suspended, and identity consolidation is replaced with role adherence. Belonging is contingent on ideological conformity, and the resulting silence is structurally rewarded as proof of inclusion. Gay identity, as a distinct developmental category, is displaced within a coalition architecture that centers trans identity as the sole source of legitimacy.
Therefore, the study demonstrates that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion on campus operates as a system of conditional belonging that is incompatible with autonomous identity development. Integrity fatigue is the clinical consequence of this structure: a state in which authenticity is chronically suppressed because the only available pathway to belonging requires its forfeiture.
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The crux of this is that:
Gay male identity is not contingent upon external validation. Homosexuality is real. While "trans" identity is contingent upon external validation. That's why they're so militant about force-teaming: without the legitimacy of gay and bisexual men and women, "trans" identity evaporates.
Gay men feel socially pressured to endorse "trans" support that they don't believe in, and the result for them is a forfeiture of identity, especially as "trans" narcissism always takes centre stage. When was the last time you saw anything from the "LGBTQWERTY community" that didn't degenerate into into "trans" gobbledygook?
This is why LGB✂️QT+. You cannot destroy yourself or your identity for someone else. Especially when they openly hate you.
to any tifs/tims/tras who may see this: us, actual gay people, DO NOT WANT YOUR COERCIVE, HETERO ASSES IN OUR SPACES. unequivocally. and if you’re labouring under the misapprehension that ‘most gay people’ agree with you and your position, let these finding disabuse you of that notion. at the absolute most, we are pretending because we don’t want to lose our jobs and livelihoods.
You know how it feels when you first read that men in Afghanistan aren't allowed to treat women, and there aren't enough female doctors to treat other women, and that endometriosis isn't fully understood even though it's a very common disease among women, and then you go on Tumblr and people are laughing at the author for using "female biology" in a post and calling it dogwhistle
Keeping an alive tumblr in 2026 is proof of one's sincerity and authenticity - a type of person who enjoys posting for the sake of it with absolutely nothing to be gained....just the enjoyment of curation and self expression untainted by opportunity and relevance
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