The Orgasm Loop
The Orgasm loop is a revolutionary mind- body technique for reaching orgasm every time, any time. The orgasm loop taps your arousal potential and teaches you how to use your body to your own best orgasm advantage.
Getting Started
The first few times you use the Orgasm Loop, you’ll have to think about what you’re doing. You will need to focus more on achieving arousal and getting your own pleasure rather than on your partner. (He won’t mind. The results will be worth it for both of you—because a man’s number-one desire is (or should be) to “give” his partner an orgasm, and from my experience, women share the same desire if she is confident in her actions.) After that, the technique comes naturally—as will your orgasms during intercourse, masturbation, or other kinds of sex play.
What Is the Orgasm Loop?
The Orgasm Loop (or O Loop), is a revolutionary mind—body technique, in response to that question we hear from thousands of women over the past two decades: “How can I have an orgasm during intercourse?” This is the number-one sex concern among women. Everyone who deals with female sexuality for a living hears the question. And we all know the simple answer: Touch yourself during intercourse.
Perhaps a better question is, “Why don’t women feel comfortable touching themselves during intercourse?” This is a more complex issue.
Here are the facts: Women of varying ages and levels of sexual expertise have difficulty reaching orgasm with their partners, and sometimes alone. At least a third of women are reluctant to masturbate, or they do masturbate without touching themselves. (Straddling towels is surprisingly common. Yet no one writes about the problem of chafing.)
While vibrators are increasingly popular sex toys, many women don’t know how to get the most out of them. And they complain that they either have trouble becoming aroused or sustaining arousal during lovemaking, typically citing distractions like worrying about work or domestic chores when they want to be abandoning themselves to pleasure. That arousal problem compounds their orgasm difficulties.
Here’s the bottom line: The Orgasm Loop taps into a woman’s arousal potential and teaches her how to use her body to her own best orgasmic advantage. Here’s how to do it.
STEP #1: Visualize Arousal Before You Begin Lovemaking
For women, sex definitely does begin in the mind. Like most women, you may not even know your body is aroused when it is because you won’t allow yourself the time to think about sex. Give yourself that time before the foreplay begins. Slip into the bathroom, if necessary. Close your eyes, clear your mind, and visualize arousal as an image, perhaps a color like red or a flower like an orchid or a scene such as the beach at sunset. Better yet, tap into whatever fetish you have hidden deeply inside of your mind. You know what I am talking about… the fantasy that makes your pussy leak at the mere thought of its reality. The one that satisfies the desires you are afraid to admit our loud. The secret lies in keeping the image simple, clean, and constant, so that every time you see it in your mind, you think: I am aroused, I am horny. The more you use the image, the more you - condition yourself to be aroused and horny.
And by the way, a mental image of your husband, partner, or lover won’t work: You need to tap into arousal as a pure force of its own volition—a force inside you—not a complicated emotion dependent on your feelings at the moment for your partner. Love is complex.
Arousal is simple. You must get inside your own sexual moment before you can be a good partner to him (or her).
An important note: If you are using this step (visualizing arousal) during foreplay with your partner rather than alone, keep your eyes closed as s/he kisses, caresses, and strokes you, and focus on your mental arousal image. Making love with your eyes open is great—once you are fully aroused. But in this beginning state, you need to focus on your own arousal, not your intense, intimate connection with your partner.
STEP #2: Focus Energy During Foreplay
Imagine that all the energy in your body is focused in two places: one, a spot slightly below your navel, called the “inner chi” by devotees of Eastern erotic arts because of its proximity to the genitals, and two, the spot at the base of your spine, considered the site of sexual energy by practitioners of Kundalini yoga.
Imagine you are holding energy in those two places until they feel alive with sexual desire. Visualize the energy there. (Just as you can hold your leg or arm out from your body by willing those muscles to perform, you can hold your energy in place.) When you focus on the energy, you feel your body growing hotter and more desirous.
STEP #3: Move Your Body During Intercourse
Flex your PC muscles in time with your fire breathing (a breathing exercise practiced in Kundalini yoga, I will talk about this more in the future as well). (Not sure what your PC muscles are? I will explain that at the end.) During intercourse, position yourself to make the hot—spot connection (between your clitoris and/or G—spot and the head of his penis), and use your hand for extra stimulation, if necessary. As in rub your clit with wet fingers while being penetrated. That hot-spot connection triggers orgasm, so use whatever position or leverage you need to get it. Because you have been concentrating so intensely on arousal and sexual energy, you will be more sensitive to erotic touch now than you usually are.
You will reach orgasm quickly.
…and Don’t Stop
That’s right if you want another orgasm, don’t stop. Just don’t let yourself relax into the post orgasmic state. Stay in the Orgasm Loop by closing your eyes and going back to visualizing arousal, followed by energy focusing and fire breathing. The next orgasm—and the one after that—will follow.
How TO LOCATE (AND FLEX!) YOUR PC MUSCLES
The PC muscle, also known as the pubococcygeal muscle, runs from the pubic bone to the tailbone. The PC is located on the pelvic floor and are involved in the contractions experienced during orgasm. Strengthening PC and gaining voluntary control over the muscle can dramatically improve your sex life.
Identify the PC muscle by stopping and starting the flow of urine. Knowing how to use it to your advantage- can help you orgasm more easily and enjoy stronger orgasms.
Another way to locate your PC muscle, ask your partner to insert a lubricated finger inside your vagina then squeeze as if you were going to stop the flow of urine. Your lover will feel a tightening around his finger while you squeeze Exercise the PC muscle by doing Kegel. I have mentioned Kegel exercise in previous posts and will talk more of them in the future.
