noise dept.
"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"
❣ Chile in a Photography ❣
The Stonewall Inn
sheepfilms
todays bird
PUT YOUR BEARD IN MY MOUTH
he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
Keni
shark vs the universe
Cosmic Funnies
if i look back, i am lost
Lint Roller? I Barely Know Her
RMH
Mike Driver
bliss lane
Game Changer & Make Some Noise
Sweet Seals For You, Always
roma★
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@eyes-like-a-sunset
If I didn’t remember actually reading this in an actual Calvin and Hobbes book as a child I’d think it was ironically photoshopped like those comics where Mickey Mouse and Goofy talk about how reality is an illusion but this comic strip was actually just……. already………… like that……………
people are capable of beautiful things
i thought this was going in a bad direction
“I earned more money than I knew what to do with, and I didn’t want to forget my roots. So I paid back the people who helped me and my family.” He’s also giving elderly and low income people three free meals a day.
Past a certain point, extra money doesn’t really benefit you, so give it those that would benefit. Quit letting people hoard ludicrous amounts of money out of vanity when others need it so much more.
Imagine. Jeff Bezos can do this 400+ times a day for impoverished people but what is he doing with the money, may I ask? Hoarding it.
this meme made me realise that other people apparently know how to show empathy without personal anecdotes
… how…. please teach me
I’m pretty sure none of us will get answers but please…if someone knows the secrets to showing empathy without personal anecdotes please speak up. We need answers
(Me (adhd + autism) can show empathy, but not sympathy. For me, it’s like I do the exact same thing, but as well as showing empathy through anecdotes I show sympathy through empathy).
@decabus @some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat @messynogenderpotato
I have somethin I guess? I’ve been the Support Friend for most of my life so I managed to get it down to a formula. TW: dog death
1. Ask Questions
This is mainly to keep them talking, that way a) they feel like they have a confidante in you, and b) the pressure is less on you to Say Things. In fact it shouldn’t be about you Saying Things at all, it should be you figuring out where they’re at and trying to understand. E.g. “My dog died, I miss him.” Ask questions, and when they start talking, let them talk. “What was his name?” “How and when did he die?” “Tell me about him.” “What was he like?” “What’s your favourite memory of him?” “When did you first meet him?” “Did you teach him any tricks?” Again the point is to keep them talking, the questions are just to get them on a roll. If you’re worrying about what to say next, listen to what they’re saying and ask details of what they’re currently talking about, or mentally prepare your next question.
2. Listen
Let them talk. The more you listen to them talk, the more they feel like it’s okay to talk to you. If they dwindle off, ask them something else to get them talking again. Upset people usually have a lot to say.
Every now and again you can throw in little sentences like “Wow, what a bitch!” “Aw, so sad.” “What the fuck? Why?” just to prove you’re still listening and following, and haven’t wandered off into space.
3. When they’re done, give it back to them
It’s a technique called mirroring. Sum up whatever you heard in short form - if they’ve talked for half an hour about the little details of their deceased pet, say something like “It sounds like he was a very good boy/sounds like he meant a lot to you/sounds like you will miss him.” It’s been known to make people dissolve into a sobbing mess, because this is the part where you prove you’ve done your homework, you listened, you care, you get it.
4. If you really want to offer a solution, ask first. You can just skip this step altogether tbh.
Only when someone has finished talking about whatever is upsetting them, ask if you can help. “Can I offer some advice?” Now is the time for SHORT anecdotes. Short. It’s not about you sharing your story, it’s about them getting advice. Remember they don’t have to take your advice, again it’s about them and their emotions, and they know themselves best. “When my dog died, I did this. Would that help?” “I read somewhere about doing this. Maybe try that and see how it goes?”
Hope this helps y’all. The TL;DR of all this is basically listen, and prove you’re listening.
Thank you!!!
That explanation really is so good!
as someone with ADHD: this has saved me
Asking questions always feels like a dick move???? What??? Noted.
Modern art
THINGS TO ROMANTICIZE
- going 2 bed on time
- healthy romantic relationships
- eating without worrying about calories
- living alone
- non-traditional career paths
- loving yourself
- being old and happy
feel free to add on!!
“Ever loved someone so much you would do anything for them? Yeah, well, make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want.”
Harvey Specter, Suits
lovecraft and his cat n-…
nnnnn-…
ummm…his cat’s name was uhhhh…
this is a picture of HP lovecraft with his cat
what was his name
WHAT WAS HIS NAME?
OH NO!
What was the cats name?
Oh
Oh dear.
It can’t be that bad.
Okay it was that bad
This was legit one of the funniest posts on tumblr. Not child bearing hips funny but up there
Lovecraft cat is the second thing that comes up when you type Lovecraft into google. That tells you something.
hoyeon @ jacquemus ss19
Do me a favor.
Reblog this if a medical professional has ever treated you like shit or fucked up your diagnosis or was just generally wrong.
Stephanie Beatriz photographed for Kidd Bell
I was at a party last night and this weird nerd guy was screaming and punching the wall whenever he missed at beer pong and I cornered him later and I was like “Hey, can I give you some constructive criticism?” And he was like “Uhh ok.” And I was like “People would like you a lot more if you weren’t going around screaming and punching walls like a fucking creep.” And he got really scared and asked “Are you going to kill me?” And I literally dont understand how he got that from what I said. I think I’m scarier than I realize.
you shoulda killed him just as a power move
“Not this time.”
In 2019 we grow from sex positivity to sex responsibility, meaning we:
call out shitty people who are just abusers and using kink/polyamory to mask it and stop supporting them
recognize that sometimes hypersexuality can be a form a self-harm for some people
keep kinks and fetishes in appropriate spaces and not bringing them out into general public spaces and thereby involving people in scenes they aren’t consenting to
understand that some fetishes are inherently unhealthy and some illegal to actually engage in for good reason and ignoring that is irresponsible at best
teaching teenagers safe sex but not encouraging them to engage or seek out dangerous sexual situations or sex with a partner who doesn’t care about them in an attempt to be ‘sexually liberated’
no one:
business majors: I have to be as unethical as possible
no one:
business majors: death is a part of life.
no one:
business majors: it’s also a part of a healthy business model and sometimes we just gotta kill–
I took a business class last semester just to see what it was like and we had to read a short story titled, “The Parable of the Sadhu.” If you don’t know what a Sadhu is, they’re a Hindu Holy man. Basically, some company sent their managers on a trip climbing the Himalayas and they encountered a half frozen Sadhu. The story is how everyone kinda sorta helped the Sadhu but couldn’t be fucked to actually get him to safety and how it’s like a business or some shit. The fate of the Sadhu is unknown. When asked whether it was worth it, every single person in my class said yes, it was worth the Sadhu’s life if it meant the other people got to the trek on time and didn’t spoil their vacation. One girl even went out of her way saying it was selfish of the Sadhu to be dying publicly. I couldn’t believe my ears.
hmm. I think I know what we need to do to heal the world. I think I have an idea of what we should do
thank you, opportunity
