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Just sayin

What’s happened in Flint is a crime against humanity.

My friend has a purifier on her sink still just so she can wash dishes. Not to even drink from it. Her hair’s a different color from showering in it.

Flint STILL does NOT HAVE CLEAN WATER.

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Why is Most Activism for Male Abuse, Domestic Violence and Rape Victims Such Crap?

So many people’s activism is almost always just saying on every story of abuse of male people or anything that mentions male victims (especially with female perpetrators) that “no one will reblog this”. Commenting on how they never get support because it’s all given to women. They’re never believed unlike women who are always believed (no we aren’t. ) that finally someone says something about men. Blah, nothing about actual struggles men face, what they need, or the real reasons they are so often not believed.

All of that it just ends up as veiled misogyny. Some of it is obviously on purpose, but I also think some of it is trying to be “progressive” and equal. But even that is often very performative and shallow. Just a lot fo these stupid Tumblr ideas that just saying “no one cares about male victims” and guilt tripping.

And god some of the worst versions of this is when it’s just nakedly using the pain of is using any violence against men by females to totally obfuscate and lie about the rate of abuse perpetrated by females. Just straight up exploiting their pain to try and silence feminist activism and intentionally or unintentionally just pushing MRA conservative nonsense.

These statistics thrown around are all manipulated and fabricated. Here is a post that gives a 101 on manipulation of statistics if you’re interested. But this isn’t really about that.

Using the pain of men and boys to spew MRA nonsense is horrific. You can not use this tragedy to lie and hurt people. Not to mention this shit makes people more sceptic of claims and abuse and sexual violence across the boredom.

Like please look at what would actually do anything.

What Would Help Men and Boys Who Are Raped and Abused:

Specific Programs:

Access to housing and safety

Adequate, affordable, and accessible mental health care

Changes to laws that will centre victims and not perpetrators

Education in schools about consent

Education on what rape and abuse look like against man and boys in schools, psychology & psychiatry and police departments

Intervention programs that intervene with abuse that can stop the cycle of abuse in children

Programs that protect boys and like effective CPS programs and reporting programs in workplaces and colleges

Proper domestic violence shelters for men and children

Cultural Changes:

A cultural built on protecting victims and not the powerful

An end to abuse, rape and paedophilia culture

An end to homophobia so often wielded against them

A psychologically literate society

Deconstructing male violence

For child sexual assault/abuse to be wider understood

For porn culture confusing young men and normalizing violent sex

For rape and abuse of men to not be used as a punch line

Media (Movies, News, TV & True Crime) not pushing false information about the cycle of abuse and mental illness

The destruction of gender

Interpersonal Connections:

Compassion and understanding

People educating themselves

Showing a willingness to believe and care

Shut down anyone who dares to mock or undermine victims

Working to unlearn harmful ideals

Again Stop Exploiting Their Trauma

I just don’t understand how the hell you think snide Tumblr comments, MRA talking points, lying and dunking on female victims is helpful or healing. Or god helps you if you think it’s activism or functional support or help for victims.

I’m a radical feminist who believes male violence is a huge problem cares about sexual abuse and males struggling with mental health in any real way!

Helping organizing events that raise money for suicide prevention and education of people of all genders is activism. Working to run a program that educates people on giving mental health to care to Gay men and lesbians helps them. Helping programs exist to educate and advocate for better care is activism.

Running an outreach, education and peer support program for CSA survivors that supports men and women equally (also people who identify otherwise) is doing something. Helping them understand their trauma, educate on trauma, sharing coping skills and emotional support is actually helping. Connecting them with resources, helplines and care is actual support.

Making sure men and boys know they can be abused and raped by both men and women, including explaining how male survivors experience these in unique was is the good way to ensure male victims are recognized, I never make it more important than female victims, because how the hell does that helps?

What You Could Start to Do if You Want to Advocate for People:

Again educate yourself

Believe victims, listen to all victims

Lift up the men talking about violence, don’t speak over them

Push for better laws and education

Support all people opening up about abuse

Support the people pushing against culture hurting victims

Understanding that people forcing a competition of pain is damaging to them. And that this way of comparing them is being used by the same people making fun of Terry Cruise, shutting down #MeToo, mocking Monica Lewinsky, condemning homosexuality, anti-feminist ideals and enforcing and manipulating male power

Look I’m not hiding my beliefs here. My life, activism and work centre women. I do always prioritize deconstructing male violence and patriarchy. But I recognize that male CSA survivors have to be included in the work I do. Because no one, absolutely no one should ever be abused and must receive support.

If you actually care, like rethink what the hell you are doing.

goawfma

yikes…”wife material” sounds like a bad job opportunity

brunhiddensmusings

most statements i could have made have already been made, but i also gotta point out- you wanted rice…. for breakfast? nothing else, just rice….

vladtheunfollower

probablyaterf

……………i want to………kill him…….

argaliaofficial

“Your trauma after being raped is misguided and also illegal 👋 “

So I just want to get this out of the way and out of my mind.

My blogs followers are composed of mostly females. (Like, seriously, I have next to no male followers.) Do any of you feel that me, or men in general, calling ourselves “radical feminist allies” is good, or helpful? Many people have said that male allies to radical feminism are “useless”, “frauds”, “sad”, etc and most of these people have been men, honestly. I only ever really hear male opinions on this subject, which should lead me to believe that women don’t care either way (one woman did say that she simply doesn’t prioritize men at all, and doesn’t care what we do or what we call ourselves) - but I decided I should just make a post and actually ask, for once.

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Why are you a "radfem ally", do you not realize most of them hate you?

I don’t even call myself an ally at this point but I support radical feminism because patriarchy is indeed a thing, sex based oppression is real, gender hurts women, and as an oppressed class women deserve a movement to liberate them, pretty simple. Most radfems hate the majority of males because of the oppression and violence we commit, so it’s pretty warranted. Honestly I hate men too lmao. I know radfems hate men, it’s not fucking new to me lol, and even if every woman on earth hated me personally that wouldn’t change the fact I will always support women’s liberation

fagdaze

This is one of the most tired questions ever.

fagdaze

Another man just blocked me and I lost a few more male followers because I still stand by the fact (not the “idea”) that males cannot be witches. Honestly, I just want to settle this right; if you’re male, and you practice magick you cannot ever be described as a “witch”. Google the definition of the word witch.

You are either a sorcerer, wizard, or whatever. Whatever term you want to use (they all essentially mean the same thing, excluding a couple if you want to get technical) is fine, so long as it isn’t the female-specific term “witch”. Male witches do not exist. I honestly hope I make myself clear this time.

fagdaze

If you disagree with any of this please do not come to my inbox, or anything, take your annoying ass to my blog, tap “unfollow”, have a nice life and blessed be. 😊

Another man just blocked me and I lost a few more male followers because I still stand by the fact (not the “idea”) that males cannot be witches. Honestly, I just want to settle this right; if you’re male, and you practice magick you cannot ever be described as a “witch”. Google the definition of the word witch.

You are either a sorcerer, wizard, or whatever. Whatever term you want to use (they all essentially mean the same thing, excluding a couple if you want to get technical) is fine, so long as it isn’t the female-specific term “witch”. Male witches do not exist. I honestly hope I make myself clear this time.

#ending this discourse right now because honestly it’s gotten pretty old #no such thing as a male witch #male witches dont exist because the term witch literaly implies female #this post is mostly to offer clarity to my followers

buddhaprayerbeads

A simple mental health pain scale.

southernbitchface

I’m so thankful this exists. I think that many people with mental health issues (myself included) downplay what they’re going through.

I’m an 8 right now. If I hadn’t seen this chart tonight I’d keep denying my struggle. Now I have to face it.

itsnotjustpms

I never even thought of this. I hate that I didn’t think of this.

mxwormie

sleepy on main

cuntissimo

absolutely fatigued on main

alwayslively05

Fucking exhausted on main

banishedquasiroyal-deact

FUCK silverfish

daystxlker

if those are the little bug things that look like centipedes yeah fuck em omfg

banishedquasiroyal-deact

I HATE THEM SO MUCH

daystxlker

OH IN MINECRAFT I THOUGHT YOU MEANT. REAL ONES SLDKJFLSKDJLFSDF

banishedquasiroyal-deact

wait

WHAT DO YOU MEAN REAL ONES

booty-clappin-deactivated201807

where do you think the name came from

banishedquasiroyal-deact

i don’t know, tumblr user plump9000. i sort of thought they weren’t real, like endermen. or creepers.

timurmurtazin

>implying endermen aren’t real

banishedquasiroyal-deact

really not liking what you’re implying buddy

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blackqueerblog

straight men really are on something else

illegitimatetenenbaum

Does this guy think that…women don’t have knees?

tired-pascal

How is scraping your knee a comparison to bleeding out of your vagina for 7 days??

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