Faggot Boi In Training

I am just a 18 year old boi just beginning my sexual journey. This is my first blog and I wish to use it to Express my thoughts, feelings, and spiritual connection to my sexuality as well as the sexuality of other men. I believe there is otherworldly beauty in the masculine form worthy of worship. I believe that while Idetify biologically and emotionally as a Male, inside my being is a goddess like spirit that wishes to serve the Gods that walk among us. I believe that there is great power in submission, freedom in bondage, pleasure in pain, and glory in the act of worship. I look forward to serving you, Sir.

[albertothechihuahua]

this is the money dog, repost in the next 24 hours and money will come your way!!

[jaxblade]

ehh what the hell

[jaxblade]

OH MY GOD SO NO FUCKIN BULLSHIT I SWEAR To GOD. I reblogged this an hour ago and IM NOT Lying My Tax Refund which I did in late march popped into my Bank Account, and it was a Decent sized amount……

WHAT THE FUCK Is THIS MAGIC!??!?!?! Im trying this again IM NOT BSing hahahaha thats actually pretty cool xD

[jaxblade]

yooooo

yoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

FUCKIN YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

no BULLSHIT I KID YOU NOT! Look what I found while walking Home…..

OH MY GOD

OH MY F*CKIN GOD

THIS POST FUCKIN WORKS?!?!?! THIS IS PAST A COINCIDENCE NO WAY!??! NO FRIGGIN WAY!!! 

Im Going to reblog this every day to test this, its MAGIC ITS FRIGGIN MAGIC 

[que-pasadena]

I need to believe in the heart of the post…

[perlexnoire-deactivated20150716]

Oh? Well… *reblag*

[zer0will2live]

i reblogged this and now my uncle is giving me 250 to dye my hair nani the fucko

[qslay]

I have nothing to lose

[stoicdaydreamer]

my palm was itchin today not riskin it

[astripperstory]

I always reblog the money posts cause I can’t afford not too lol

[brownsugarempress]

It works. I just got $300 for no reason.

[thecrybabbles-deactivated201605]

Money dog is my friend

[yeaimcoollikethat-deactivated20]

Money dog is the shit

[anttom2016-blog]

I believe in the money dog😀

[princedhunglow-deactivated20181]

I believe in the money 🐶

[cosmic-noir]

Bless me pls money pup 🙏🐕

[crip-jesus-deactivated20190301]

Just woke up 🙌🏿

[totheonedegree]

Pplease😭🙏🏽

[marvelismylife]

Doing this again because last time I reblogged this I got $50

[roses-likethis-blog]

can’t not reblog the money dog

[mxtomituck]

I just got word that my tuition reimbursement from work has been approved :D

Thank you, Money Dog!

[the-substitute]

Please work!

[fhabhotdamncobs]

YOU?  W♂♂F     (WARNING!   No “Pretty Boys” here.)

[sorrento69]

Please I need $

[fhabhotdamncobs]

& you gave…  

  W♂♂F     (WARNING!   No “Pretty Boys” here.)

[bohe64]

Please money dog , please

[fhabhotdamncobs]

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE!!! LET ME LOOK INTO YOUR EYES!!!

W♂♂F     (WARNING!   No “Pretty Boys” here.)

[stylishjunkdrawer]

has this been done yet

[breederofbetas]

When I finally realized my big cock didn't mean I'm not a pussyboy was actually when I stopped feeling oppressed. It takes a lot of energy to impersonate an alpha when it's not your nature. I don't feel oppressed submitting to dominant males and getting my holes used. I feel free. The first time I let a guy call me his bitch and didn't object I knew I'd turned a corner. Just so much easier to be his bitch than all the bullshit vigilance required to act like an equal. I'm a hung cuntboy.

I really must commend this reader for having the courage to embrace his submission. The feeling of freedom mentioned above is exactly what you’re looking for when trying to identify yourself between dom sub and switch. A sub should feel freed, even if he’s a bit nervous. He should feel a need and a desire to submit to the man before him. And I hope that other submissives take your words to heart and give in to give submission a try. After all, vanilla folks don’t have kinky thoughts. If you’re having them they’re not likely to go away.

It takes a lot of energy to dominate even when it is your nature. You end up highly focused on the sub, you’re monitoring his condition through body language and vocal tone, and thinking the next step ahead while. It’s very hard work being a dom. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth it or gratifying.

I would also like to point out the idea that shaming submissives for being submissives (outside of play and a mutually fun humiliation session) is shooting fellow dominants in the foot. There is no shame in submission. None. A boy who knows what he wants, who willingly pursues it, and puts a great deal of trust and faith in the men he submits to deserves to be made safe and enjoy the scene. And yes. Submissives deserve to walk away from a scene enjoying the experience as much as the dominant has. Power isn’t the only thing exchanged in an encounter. Trust, respect, and enjoyment should all be mutual.

Lastly, thank you for writing in and helping reinforce my point. I am a fan of hung guys so feel free to reach out to me via messenger with your large cock pussyboy. I’d love to see you.

New to kink? Curious where fantasy ends and actual BDSM begins? Ask me anything.

[neswpnw]

Another great post by @thegayboybible. Follow him. Seriously. Key points:

“The first time I let a guy call me his bitch and didn’t object I knew I’d turned a corner. Just so much easier to be his bitch than all the bullshit vigilance required to act like an equal.”

“The feeling of freedom mentioned above is exactly what you’re looking for when trying to identify yourself between dom sub”

“There is no shame in submission. None.”

“Submissives deserve to walk away from a scene enjoying the experience as much as the dominant has. Power isn’t the only thing exchanged in an encounter. Trust, respect, and enjoyment should all be mutual.”

[hadriantemple-deactivated201812]

Excellent points!

[athenbax]

[natural-hung-bull]

This is what I will miss most about Tumblr. The service of faggots. Other men who make me feel Superior. It’s an ego trip. But it sure makes me feel great. Life is complicated for men. For anyone really. So to have my ego stroked like this on a daily basis by any one of my thousands of followers. It’s just a great thing, for me.

And I’m going to miss it. Thank you, all of you. Knowing that my words have made you not only get hard but spray splooge, shoot your load, get off, and even motivated some to get fucked, or to pursue something sexual, taking that risk on makes me get hard. It takes courage and confidence to be a sexual being.

I appreciate each and everyone of you. Even the haters. You’ve made me smirk and smile. Dimples and all.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

Yes Sir, you inspired me to start offering massages to the local men in my area. Thank you.

[latinotopadventures]

What's the dumbest thing any of your faggots has told you?

Here are the dumbest things faggots have said.

1. “You are a lazy bum that needs to get a job.”

I have a county job working in the social service sector along with experience working in education, hence, why I don’t show my face. I’ve been self-sufficient and use faggots because I can and not because I need to.

2. “I’m not an idiot with a mental disorder like the cash faggots on your blog.”

Shaming someone because of what they’re into makes you look like an idiot and I will not tolerate it. I allow my faggots to embrace who they are. They get enough judgment from the world around them. Consenting to being my cash faggot is just a step in the journey to a better life.

3. “I can’t be your faggot anymore.”

You’re my faggot for life. I wish you the best, but trust me, you’ll be back. Faggots always CRAWL back to me.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

Spoken like a true alpha.

[latinotopadventures]

Are there any foot lovers out there? ;)

[faggot-boi-in-training]

🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻

[latinotopadventures]

When you date someone, do you tell them about your collection of faggots?

Funny enough, I haven’t encountered anyone who is interested in dating me. My dating life is nonexistent while my sex life is thriving, so there is no need to disclose my collection of faggots.

If I ever find someone to date, I will tell them about my faggots because they are important to me. They can attest to how well and kind I treat them. 

The person I choose to date will need to be understanding and support my online presence.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

It's very good that his faggots mean so much for them that he would never sacrifice them in for the sake of a romantic relationship.

[masculinecopenhagen]

[wyomingmountainman]

This is the good stuff

[papapipe]

All hugged up safe and sound

[faggot-boi-in-training]

When all is said in done, at the end of the day, most fags would prefer to find a Dom who will allow them to rest their head on his chest and fall asleep to the beat of his heartbeat, and assured that the Man lying next to him will still be there in the morning.

[desires-of-a-dominant-man-deact]

BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

[papatonyinsandiego]

Yes, it IS a very heterosexually-biased list, but any list that includes the wisdom of Jack Rinella is good with me.

[pleasurewhore-deactivated201802]

Dominant, or Domineering?

I was scrolling back through my archives and I came across an ask from another blog where someone was inquiring about signs that a man was not a Dominant, but simply domineering. I think it’s a really important, and very interesting question, and so I thought I’d like to take a stab at answering. There are a lot of posts out there about how to spot a real Dominant, but so long as there are subs out there struggling to tell the difference I think there can’t be too many.

To be domineering is to assert your will over another person in an aggressive or arrogant way. To be a Dominant is to be a caregiver. Someone who thrives on leading by gaining the trust and devotion of someone who wishes to follow. It sounds simple to tell them apart on paper, but reality isn’t always that black and white, and some people talk a really good game, so how can you tell the difference?

A domineering man will only make his rules all about his pleasure. They may read as a list of fetishes. He’s concerned about how often you shave your cunt, but not how often you see the doctor. A Dominant man will make rules for his pleasure, and your betterment. He cares about which panties you wear, but also how much sleep you get each night. He encourages you to have goals and helps you accomplish them through his rules.

A domineering man will not go out of his way to let you know that you are loved and cherished. His praise comes in the form of “you’re so hot when you do that”, and  “I love when you gag on me”. A Dominant man will make sure you know he respects you as a person and supports your accomplishments. “I’m so proud of you for interviewing for the promotion at work”, and “I appreciate that you tried, I know that was hard for you”.

A domineering man will not want to explain his decisions, or discuss his reasoning. He may become angry when you question him, and tell you that it’s not your place. A Dominant man is open to meta-talks. He will not allow you to question every tiny decision, but it’s important to him to address your concerns. He’s not afraid to share his thinking because he has your best interest at heart.

A domineering man doesn’t show interest in making decision that don’t affect him. He’ll choose your panties, but doesn’t really care when you ask him what you should do about that friend who is feeling neglected.  A Dominant man wants to help calm your mind, and is happy to help you make even mundane decisions. He has no problem choosing where to eat tonight, or telling you if you should accept the invite to that party.

A domineering man will be concentrated on making you the ‘perfect sub’. He may be overly concerned with your ability to deep throat and unreasonably strict with your diet and exercise program. A Dominant man accept and loves the person you are, and wants to help you meet your goals. He helps you with your diet because he wants for you to be healthy, not skinny, or because YOU expressed a desire for change.

A domineering man will limit your contact with others, especially others in the BDSM community. He’s scared you’ll find out that there’s more out there than what he’s offering. He’s jealous, and resents the time you spend with friends and family. A Dominant man know he can not be your everything and encourages you to learn. He recognizes the value of other relationship and only limits them when there are red flags, or past problems. He encourages you to learn and grow in your understanding of D/s relationships.

A domineering man demands. He raises his voice, doesn’t say please, and doesn’t thank you for the things you do. A Dominant man leads by making you want to follow. He knows that trust is earned and isn’t put off by the effort.

A domineering man gives his time only when it is convenient for him to do so. Domineering man isn’t concerned with calming you before a medical procedure or exam. He cancels plans with you when something better to do comes up. A Dominant man makes you a priority. He sets aside his plans to care for you when you are in need. That doesn’t mean he drops everything because you want company, but when you’re genuinely having a hard time you don’t have to question if he’ll be there for you.

Do all domineering men do all of the things I stated? No, it’s not that simple, but they’re good reference points. It’s about intent. A domineering man is out to fulfill his own desires, and a Dominant man gains his pleasure from successfully providing for the needs and desires of both parties. Will Dominant men sometimes say the things domineering men do? Yes! But domineering men will not also behave as Dominant men do, because Dominant men have broader goals. A Dominant man will but his desires above yours, but he will never put his desires above your needs.

[betahorseman]

Very interesting and worthwhile post.

[slanslanslan]

All this good stuff xx

[hadriantemple-deactivated201812]

A good set of guidelines

[hadriantemple-deactivated201812]

Misogyny in Tumblr Porn

I’m a hardcore feminist and have been for my entire adult life (my lesbian feminist mother saw to that). One of the things that bothers me the most about the gay community is the amount of misogyny that circulates in it. We adore drag queens but we make lots of little mean jokes about lesbians and women in general. They’re ‘fishy’ and ‘gross’. But that’s not what I want to talk about right now. 

What’s bugging me right now is the equation of women with submission. This turns up in Tumblr porn a LOT. The place you see it most is with the idea that submitting to a man is an emasculating act and therefore a sub must be feminine. It’s not hard to find this stuff–as a matter of fact, my own feed offered my 8 examples of it in row this morning (which was the trigger for this post). The sub is referred to as ‘she’, ‘princess’, ‘baby girl’, and so on. His dick is called a ‘clitty’. He’s shown in lacy underwear that we normally associate with women. And so on.  Here’s why this bugs me: It implies that being a woman is automatically to be submissive, to be less than male. It assumes that gender functions as a hierarchy with men above and women below. So if you’re below a man, you must therefore be a woman. It denies the possibility of equality between men and women, and it denies the possibility of female dominants. It also positions male submission as being inherently unmanly, as a loss of masculinity. And it also denigrates transwomen, because they’ve moved from the inherently superior position to the inherently inferior one in terms of sex and gender. There’s also a whiff of internalized homophobia in doms who think this way–”I’m a man, and real men only fuck women, so when I fuck a guy, he must be the woman.” It also denigrates gay men whose gender presentation is less than fully masculine (and we all know how many Grindr guys insist on ‘no fems’–it;s right up there with ‘no fats’ in terms of stigma). And when you uncritically accept this binary thinking, it quickly starts to feel ‘natural’ that men should be in charge and women should just obey.  This stigma of gay men as ‘failed men’, as ‘sissies’, ‘nellies’ ‘pansies’, and ‘limp-wrists’ was something gay men had to fight against in the 60s and 70s and 80s and 90s, so I find it sad to see how many gay kinksters seem to have embraced this idea in their erotic lives today. What’s going on here is a whole lot of rigidly binary thinking. We kinksters are used to thinking about the dom/sub binary and the Sir/boy binary and the top/bottom binary. Those three broadly line up: dom/Sir/top vs sub/boy/bottom. (Let’s leave aside the fact that there are switches and dominant bottoms and service tops.) What’s happening is that we’re grafting on a fourth binary, the male/female binary and assuming that the male part naturally goes with the dom/Sir/top end of the scale and the female part naturally goes with the sub/boy/bottom end of the scale. Ergo, if you are a boy, you must be feminine in some essential way.  But that’s a false parallel. Submitting to a man doesn’t make you a woman, any more than a private submitting to a sergeant becomes a woman. When King Arthur’s knights swore homage to him, they didn’t become Gueneviere, they became Lancelot. When Robin teamed up with Batman, he didn’t become a girl, he became a junior Batman (and yeah, we all know they were fucking…).  You don’t become a woman just because another man hires you to work for him. A cock locked in chastity doesn’t become a vagina any more than a man locked in prison becomes a woman. There are literally dozens of examples of social hierarchies that we accept as entirely masculine activities. But somehow, when it comes to sex, we assume that the person a man fucks has to be a woman.  When I fuck, I don’t want to fuck a woman. I want to fuck a man. He might be a man who is accepting his subordinate status to me, and I may reinforce that status with verbal abuse, pain play, and so on, but I still want him to be a man. I want to feel his muscles under me when I’m making out with him, and I want to admire the masculine lines of his body as I sink my dick into his ass. When I torture a boy, I want to see that masculine struggle to manage the pain. I want to feel like I’ve conquered another guy when I use him.  Obviously, everyone has their kinks. If your kink is getting off on feeling like your dom is feminizing you, more power to you. We don’t get to choose what gets our dicks hard, and I don’t want to kink-shame you if your kink involves being sissified. And maybe your gender identity is less than fully male and you like it that way and it lines up with your submission. If so, great! You be you. But I encourage you to take a deep look at the assumptions you’re making about submission and the place of women in society and see if there aren’t other ways you can conceptualize your power exchange. Don’t be one of those gay guys who builds his identity on denigrating women. 

[faggot-boi-in-training]

There is nothing hotter then when two masculine men fight over dominance for each other.

This post is really great. I've said before that there so many harmful messages and stereotypes shoved In our faces during the early stages of our sexual development. While I certainly do not conform to traditional masuclinty, I cant say that I really identify as a woman.

What I try to have people understand is that there is a beauty to servitude. Giving up one self is honorable and should be honored.

Femintiy is just as beautiful as masculinty and can Express itself in so many different ways. Inside of me is a goddess channeling its will through a Male body and seeking to worship the masculine energy channeling itself itself through a Male body.

Feminty is evrything masculinty is- power, life, creation, love- just different aspects of those natures and expressed in different forms.

No one should shame feminty.

[hadriantemple-deactivated201812]

Asia Argento, Jimmy Bennett and Why We Don’t Believe Male Survivors

As the #MeToo movement moves forward, male victims need to be included

My first partner was raped as a young boy. My first slave was raped as a young man. In both cases, their rapes cast a long dark shadow across their adult lives. Both of them struggled with addiction. My partner was unable to be honest and open with people, while my slave was so weighted down with pain that he couldn’t cope in healthy ways. 

This is why I place such a high emphasis on consent. Non-consensual sex tears deep jagged holes in people’s psyches, leaving wounds that rarely heal on their own. BDSM gives some rape survivors an opportunity to heal in some measure, to confront their suffering, by allowing them to consent or withdraw consent as they need. Physical pain can bring emotional pain to the surface where it can be dealt with through catharsis. The vulnerability that BDSM creates can enable bonding between dom and sub and show a rape victim how to trust and be open. These things enable them to speak their truth in ways that others can hear.  But when a dom fails in his duty to do no true harm by violating a sub’s consent, he perverts these tools of healing into weapons that wound not just the sub’s body but his soul. To me, that is truly evil. 

I’ve done rape scenes. I get why people find the power of such play arousing. I understand why so much Tumblr porn performs non-consent for its audience. But we need to remind people that consent matters. For a sub, it’s a matter of life and (spiritual) death. Never cross that bright line. 

And when someone, dom or sub, tells their story, listen to them and believe them. When a rape survivor speaks, it’s an act of courage and trust. Disbelieving them furthers the pain and injury of their rape. 

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Trump’s Anti-Trans Efforts

I try to keep the focus of my blog to porn, but occasionally, I have to get political when there’s something that directly affects the LGBT community. And this is one of those times. I know, you’re here for the hot kinky stuff, but we don’t jack off in a vacuum (well, some of us do…). Our ability to live our lives and enjoy our sex and our porn  without being bothered are dependent on politics. So the porn and the politics are connected.  Here’s an important point about Trump’s shitty attempt to unperson trans people: Trump is in a position similar to Obama, unable to actually get legislation through because Congress is basically deadlocked on legislative issues. So he’s doing what Obama did–he’s trying to get around that obstacle by using purely executive branch powers, in this case directing the DoJ and other departments to adopt a novel view of how to define male and female.

This is going to run into the same problems that Obama’s executive branch efforts did–the courts. It’s going to get tied up in lawsuits. While the courts are certainly tilting more conservative thanks to Mitch McConnell’s dickery, long-term victory is going to require a lot of judges to overturn long-established precedents, and conservative judges are generally hesitant to do that. More importantly, overturning Trump’s order can be done easily by the next president.

None of that is to say that this isn’t an awful and shitty thing that he’s done. It most certainly is. It hurts trans people on many levels, and trans people are part of our community. In fact, they helped build it, and fought for our rights, so it’s time we return the favor. So protest this. Call your elected representatives. Talk to people about why this matters. VOTE. My point is, don’t fall into despair as if this is the GOP getting the last word in and definitively destroying trans rights forever. It’s not. It’s another salvo in the war we’ve been fighting since Nov 2016.

Don’t lose hope. LGBT people have been fighting this war since the 1950s, and we’ve made staggering progress despite numerous setbacks. If the LGBT community could endure despite being flat-out illegal and could survive the AIDS crisis, we can certainly overcome Lord Dampnut’s petty viciousness. And this time, we’ve got a shitload more allies to help us, including everyone who’s reading this.

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Questions Answered

A fellow dom messaged me with a question: “I want obedience and control but it seems like every sub wants to be disobedient and punished, tortured, belittled. Are there subs that want to be obedient and where do I find them?”

Absolutely! What you’re encountering are ‘bratty subs’ or pushy bottoms. There are definitely boys for whom obedience, service, and the dom’s pleasure are driving principles.

Part of the problem is that a lot of subs really enjoy pain play and things related to it. Being spanked, for example, arouses them. Some boys like the feeling of “being conquered” by their dom, so they become bratty as a way to elicit the aggression that turns them on. The porn encourages us to view pain play as ‘punishment’, because corporal punishment is a fairly common tool for disciplining children. There’s a lot of porn that shows the dom being angry and the sub begging for forgiveness. This is a place where the porn produces a lot of confusion. A novice boy may genuinely think this is what he’s supposed to be doing and that you want him to misbehave so you can punish him. 

But if we view pain play as punishment for a sub’s misbehavior, it winds up incentivizing the boy to misbehave in order to get the play he wants. It encourages the boy to take control of the dynamic by acting out. Some doms enjoy bratty subs, because it gives them a chance to assert their dominance or to roughhouse knowing that they’re going to win in the end. So bratty subs aren’t automatically a bad thing. But you don’t like that. I don’t like it either. It undermines my sense of authority. 

There’s not a specific place to look for more obedient subs. Instead it’s more a question of how you approach finding guys to play with. If you use dating profiles, make it clear in your profile that you want obedient boys, not bratty ones. During negotiation, make it clear that willfully misbehaving will end the scene because you don’t like it. Or establish a code phrase that tells the boy you’ve had enough brattiness for the moment (“boy, it’s time for obedience now”).

If you’re in a relationship and you and your boy feel that punishment needs to be a part of your dynamic, use a non-sexual punishment (no tv for week, for example) or a pain punishment he dislikes and wants to avoid. Or don’t use punishment at all—completely ignore his misbehavior to show him that brattiness won’t get the desired play, but immediately respond to the desired behavior with praise and a promise of play. The goal here is to teach him that good behavior brings pleasure and bad behavior either doesn’t get a response or brings him genuine discomfort. 

If the boy you’re with really wants play punishment, negotiate the boundaries on that. Script a scene where he ‘misbehaves’ and you play the angry dom and torture him. Scenes like that can be a lot of fun because you’re getting to release some aggression without actually being upset. But make it clear that a scene like that is an occasional treat, not the basis for your dynamic, because for you, obedience is the baseline. If you and the boy can’t find a happy medium, you’re not right for each other. 

Sometimes subs are like children and doms have to act like parents.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

This is very well put, there are lot of mixed signals when it comes to untmaixy between doms and subs. We feel there are strict rules and expectations for our roles and assume that is what we have to be to fulfill them. But just like in any relationship, communication between a Dom and sub is crucial to creating a great relationship.

I would never misbehave on purpose to get attention, unless that was a scene agreed with by my Dom.

[chicagocigardad-deactivated2018]

Ima get this boy pregnant if it kills me.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

The idea of being impregnated is such an intoxicating thought. I wish I a real man could give life into me.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

Fantasy vs. Reality

Know the difference

I am young and I live in work in which young men are give so many confusing signals when it comes to sexuality. Sex is not discussed as openly as it should be, it is almost a forbidden subject even though are sence of sexuality begins developing well into our early childhood.

Our cultures taboos regarding sexuality creates much confusion when some us grow into our aldult bodies and realize our nature as faga or Alphas.

Ever since I was a child I have had fantasies of being dominated, servitude, bondage, and even masochism and now as an Aldult, I have the oppurntuity to embrace these desires and seek a willing partner to partake. Many other fellow fags have this desire and so many Alpha have the counter desire to dominate, to control, to take.

I sincerely believe this to be true human nature among men. A divine dichotomy that we find ourselves a part of. The desire to love, be loved, and Express this love in different forms. However, the forces that be in our society despises human nature. They wish to oppress it, to banish it, to destroy it.

That is why there is so much confusion about the roles we have to play. And it corrupts the beautiful act of sex from an act of creation to one of destruction.

I have been hurt by false alphas, as have many fags. And alphas have been hurt by false fags. This is why we must understand that some things-

FAGS REMEMBER

Fags are NOT powerless. We willingly give up our power to man we entrust to use it.

Powr can NOT be stolen. True alphas do not steal power, that is rape. And while I have fantasies of forceful intercourse, "rape" should never exist more than a scene. Alphas do not wish to steal power. A fag gives his power willingly to a true Alpha accepts it and molds into something beautiful.

ALPHAS REMEMBER-

True fags understand the beauty in selfishness. They want to forget themselves and be lost In your dominance. They want to please you and evry desire.

When in doubt, connect with your inner nature and follow your instincts.

[cocksuckingfaggotsydneyau]

20 ways to be a better cocksucker

#1 – Be able to host

#2 – Break your gag reflex by practicing with a banana or a dildo.

#3 – Never use your hands, unless told to

#4 – Look him in the eyes when his cock is down your throat. 

#5 – Learn to listen and observe non-verbal cues that tell you how to suck him better

#6 – Pay attention to his balls as well.

#7 – Buy some knees pads so you don’t need to take a break

#8 – When he is cumming, keep sucking him all the way through until his orgasm ends.

#9 – Always swallow, unless he decides to blow it some other way, in which case, let him.

#10 – Keep his cock in your mouth after he has come, and let it get soft while he comes down from his orgasm. He might fall asleep with his cock in your mouth, let him.

#11 – When he is done cumming, your are done. Never expect him to reciprocate in any way.

#12 – Strive to make your mouth a replacement for masturbation. Many guys would much rather cum down your throat than jerk off.

#13 – Try to make note of when he usually contacts you. And the frequency of when he does, so you can make sure you are available when he wants to use you. When his balls are full, he’s not interested in what else you have going on in your life.

#14 – If he touches his nipples while you are sucking him, you should reach up and offer to work them with your hands for him.

#15 – If he lifts his legs back while you are sucking him, that often means he would like to get rimmed as well, and your should do that for him.

#16 – When you are rimming him, don’t stop until he is finished enjoying it, which can be over an hour sometimes. Get used to that.

#17 – Never touch your cock when you are sucking him, unless he tells you to.

#18 – Always provide amyl (poppers) if they enjoy using them. Allow him to use the poppers as much as he likes, and never use them yourself unless he puts the bottle under your nose. Never reach for them and never ask for them. There is nothing worse than a cock sucker that constantly stops sucking to sniff more poppers. Let him decide how much you get, and when.

#19 – Always provide porn from him to enjoy, and get the kind of porn he likes to watch.

#20 – When he is not using you, do not hassle him or bug him. At the very most, you can periodically let him know your availability, but never expect him to respond unless he wants to, when he wants to. And when he doesn’t feel like using your mouth, leave him alone to enjoy the rest of his life.

[alphalosophy]

Learn it, faggots. Zero reciprocation service is what Men demand and deserve. Hierarchy is reality.

[velasmonet]

Perfection in what was written, and in Mr Alphalosophy’s teaching of The Law. Hmmm, i need to visit His Blog! Thank You, Sir.

[francodt]

Concise and true.

[alphamalenyc]

Excellent read for u faggots. Spot on.

[youngslave4daddy]

Want to learn it 😍😍😍

[tndaddybear-deactivated20190826]

Read it and live it fags.

[faggot-boi-in-training]

Being a good cocksucker requires so much more than a hollow mouth. It is a beautiful form of connection between a Man and a boi. To swallow the sweet nectar is truly a privlage, but it is merely a bonus of the actual act of servitude.