half-destroyed instruments

that once held to a course... detransitioning woman doing my best

[familiarfalling]

i miss twitter

[familiarfalling]

plume .... >>:(

[libraryofjoy]

Lady of shallot. Lady of onion. Lady of garlic. Lady of chives.

[familiarfalling]

i havne’t been on tumblr in a long time

but now i have like 15,500 followers on twitter

[frogconnoisseur-remade-deactiva]

[salemwitchtrials-deactivated202]

every morning i wake up & get my coffee & i recite in my head this excerpt from ‘invitation,’ by mary oliver:  “it is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in the broken world.” & i just say it over & over again until it sticks to my mind for the rest of the day. it is a serious thing. i am alive. i am so lucky. this fresh morning i get the chance to live again & again & again

[salemwitchtrials-deactivated202]

after a long day of fighting the cruel & broken world? “should anyone be surprised if sometimes, when the white moon rises, women want to lash out with a cutting edge?” mary oliver. mother of my heart. you knew all. 

[odykerain-deactivated20200609]

I’m sorry if the quality is shitty, but my PDF app on my phone wasn’t working properly. I’ll scan these as soon as I get the chance and create a downloadable PDF which I’ll edit into this post, but I wanted to get the images up quickly since I had so many requests for this, both publicly and privately.

If anyone is interested in the book itself, it’s called Healing the Trauma of Abuse: A Women’s Workbook by Mary Ellen Copeland and Maxine Harris. It’s a fabulous workbook overall, but this section may be really helpful to people who are suffering from dysphoria in any stage of their lives.

[familiarfalling]

salman rushdie is on to the trans movement

[errorschacha]

There’s no text so fiendish and manipulative that it’s too dangerous to read. Comparing works from opposing viewpoints is a standard scholastic practice. Critical readings and analyses of material one finds objectionable in whole or in part is kind of what academia is, you know? The slickest, most well-written propaganda can be dissected. “Know your enemy”? Anybody? Anybody?

[errorschacha]

If you find yourself around sentiments like, “Our enemy is too dangerous for you to ‘know.’ You might be contaminated by bad ideas; knowledge is therefore forbidden,” what you should do is leave, and quickly. Getting out is far easier before any border closings start.

[argumate]

hey what if we didn’t combine dozens of unrelated political positions into two color-coded options

[opticbread]

that sounds like something someone from the other color would say; get ‘em, boys

[detrans-identified]

Great project and def worth a watch! So happy these women are putting themselves out there for people to ask them questions. Personally looking forward to seeing more of their content!

[shock]

newsflash - trans men don’t suddenly become society’s elite for saying “i’m a guy, please respect that.” you know how many trans men are beaten, raped, abused, otherwise assaulted, harassed, and forced to suicide because they’re trans? i know this may be shocking to you as someone who lives and breathes for tumblr.com, but the entire world isn’t some liberal utopia where trans men are so universally loved and praised and revered and they sure as fuck aren’t respected on principle the way so many of you think they are, going so far as to pretend that certain marginalized groups, by virtue of existence, are living a separated life of luxury is beyond insulting.

[vulavola-deactivated20190711]

I’m trying to read this essay that deconstructs the cult-like mentality of the trans movement but I can’t because it’s triggering my actual cult trauma too much

[vulavola-deactivated20190711]

oh christ…….

[deputy-shayy]

Uh, not to trigger your cult trauma OP, you don’t have to answer this, someone else can. I just have some questions.

I 100% agree that the pro-trans movement acts exactly like a cult but what’s always bothered me is cults are usually led by one (1) charismatic leader. The trans movement doesn’t have that. I mean, do they even have leaders or is it just whoever speaks out for them and has a lot of money and/or power?

Does that still make them a cult even if they don’t meet every single bullet point?

[vulavola-deactivated20190711]

Having survived an actual cult, I have & will only ever go so far as to call the trans movement “cult-like.” The similarities are still striking, however.

[familiarfalling]

one of my posts is being passed around moms-with-ROGD-daughter-sphere.... a rite of passage

[kiefbowl]

if you want to hear women’s stories, you gotta be willing to let them have the language they know

[familiarfalling]

To tell a woman who has been sickened and mutilated that her major task is to regain ‘femininity and desirability’ is to distract her from her deep Self’s search, her final causality. It distracts her from re-membering her powers. In order to comprehend her breakdown and therefore be enabled to heal her Self, she would have to intuit what a woman can be.

Mary Daly, Pure Lust (via familiarfalling)

[shesgotwhatittakes]

While cleaning out my room I found a paper that my therapist gave me some time ago to deal with obsessive and intrusive thoughts. Sorry the paper is a little crinkled and stained, but I figured I’d post it in hopes that it will help someone like it helped me.

[shesgotwhatittakes]

Here it is again with text for anyone who can’t see the picture

That thought isn’t helpful right now.

Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later.

This is irrational. I’m going to let it go.

I won’t argue with an irrational thought.

This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need.

This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isn’t.

I don’t have to be perfect to be OK.

I don’t have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it.

It’s OK to make mistakes.

I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational.

I have to take risks in order to be free. I’m willing to take this risk.

It’s OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t have to pay attention to it.

I’m ready to move on now.

I can handle being wrong.

I don’t have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable.

That’s not my responsibility.

That’s not my problem.

I’ve done the best I can.

It’s good practice to let go of this worry. I want to practice.