I think perhaps my hottest radfem take is that gay men are not our allies. Not wanting to have sex with women does not make them less dangerous than men who sexualize us, it makes them arguably worse.
Gay men use women’s bodies as “performance art” with drag. They colonize black women’s language as their own. They insidiously occupy our spaces under the guise of safety because they claim they have no interest in us sexually, and yet ignore our boundaries when we exclude men from certain activities or places. And they behave as if being gay absolves them of their role in oppressive systems, especially if they are white.
Gay men do not stand for women, even for lesbian women. They stand for themselves, because they are men, and as such will always value class solidarity with other men above women’s liberation.
My essential argument is that men will be men, regardless of their sexuality. Do not allow gay men to claim innocence when their interest in women is exploitative instead of predatory.