Loser woman

Radleaning Febfem Bisexual ◇ Hater by design ◇ Vegan 4 Animals ◇ xVx

[anthropophagiie]

"people would like vegans more if-" i don't care if you like me <3

[hirsuteandcute]

I'm just going to say it - body hair (and beauty standards in general) is truly one of the final frontiers of women's issues in the West. Too many women just love their gilded cage too much. It shocks me how virulently women will defend it. I barely open my mouth and the "well I like how it feels. it just makes me feel cleaner. sensory issues. I do it for me. feminism is about choosing (to conform)." brigade come rushing in by the dozens.

Well I don't like how it feels. I don't feel cleaner without body hair. I don't prefer not having body hair. But who will advocate for women like me, but me? For women who do like hair removal, they are advocated for every time they step out of the house and see 99% of the female population also conforming to that standard, or when they watch a movie and see all the shaved actresses, or view an advertisment, or open a magazine, or watch a music video, or scroll through social media, or walk down the streets without receiving insults and glares for having a completely normal bodily feature.

You genuinely can't even point out that hairlessness is a man-made standard without women losing their shit and acting like they are totally immune to propaganda they've been exposed to from birth. I'm so tired.

[butchpeace]

One of the biggest problems I have with Radfems is when they call women who identify as trans “misogynistic”, or dismiss them as though they’re just being stupid.

Do you really think you’re helping anyone?

Story time…

When I was a teenager and first discovered radfem communities - this was before I transitioned - I felt just as alienated by them as I did by conservative women.

Because they didn’t understand me, they didn’t have any experience with how I felt, and they didn’t have any helpful advice for me.

At best, their advice was “learn to love yourself”. At worst, they were actively hateful towards women like me and called us names. Traitor, misogynist, etc.

No one gave me the empathy I needed. No one gave me any actionable steps I could take towards that vague goal of “loving myself”, which felt like an impossible thing to do at the time.

The feelings I was experiencing, and which I had been experiencing for my whole life, needed much more help than that. It needed people who cared and who wanted to understand me.

A big part of why I transitioned was because trans men were the first people who actually understood how I felt and had an answer for me as to how to cope with that.

The answer ended up being wrong of course, but I didn’t know that at the time. When you’re a kid and you’re just looking for someone who understands how you feel? And suddenly you meet all these women who live as men who understand you perfectly, because they’ve felt the same things…

Of course that’s the path you’re going to follow.

Radfems need to be doing better if they want to actually help women who are transitioning. My feeling is that many actually don’t want to help and don’t genuinely care about us.

But for those that do… in order to do better they have to listen to the experiences of women who have been through all of that.

We have to talk about the unique experiences of women who choose to transition in order to actually help the young women who are transitioning now.

If talking to trans identifying women makes you feel like you’re yelling at a wall, consider that maybe it’s not that the person on the other end is dumb - Maybe you’re speaking the wrong language. Maybe you should lower your voice. Maybe you should try to understand her.

Of course it’s not anyone’s job to be our therapists. But when young women are looking for community and empathy, we don’t deserve to be turned away at the door.

Sometimes it feels like masculine women, women who transition, are the only ones who don’t get included in female solidarity.

[honeyapplebutterfly]

Controversial and terrifying thought: I’m a butch lesbian but I like having boobs and have zero interest in getting rid of them :) we exist believe it or not

[honeyapplebutterfly]

​I really wish people, particular nonlesbian women, would stop telling me to get a binder or get top because “masc outfits would look better”

I’m not getting a major surgery just so shirts will “fit me like a frat boy” YOU are projecting that onto me. Men do not have a monopoly on masculinity. If having boobs makes me “less butch” to you then I fear you don’t fucking know what it means to be butch.

Yes this is real shit ppl say to me just because I am a woman with short hair and pants

“Masc shortage” the way y’all treat mascs:

[bushpropaganda]

no cause its actually so predatory to try to pressure masculine women—specifically masc lesbians—into a trans identity. i've had this shit said to me before too and i dont give a fuck how pure you think your intentions are, stop trying to convince masculine women that we're men. it's homophobic at best and literal conversion therapy at worst.

just because your lesbophobia is disguised as progressive politics does not mean you're any less culpable in trying to turn us straight (aka "transing the gay away"). leave lesbians the fuck alone.

[clarasunflowers]

[untitledorb]

i read the sentence “abusers groom their character witnesses as carefully as they groom their victims” (in a comment thread in response to a “but i know [the accused] and hes such a nice man!!”) and it’s blowing my mind a weird amount even though i guess i already knew that

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

[iz-robin]

Wish I could send this to the person in the comments of a post a few weeks ago that was telling me I needed to un-learn my colonial ideas because I think we shouldn't farm animals....

[ruinedchildhood]

[cada-dreamer-127-deactivated202]

[utenamity]

people on this app will be like "I loveeeeeee killjoy feministsss" and then add "TERFS DNI" 💥💥 YOU'RE ALL POSERS 💥💥

[vegansoc]

[champagnemoon]

body positivity has largely failed because people started arguing for attractiveness and romantic prospects instead of respect and dignity

[carewitchproject]

this is truly the best summary of what all of this SHOULD be about

[genderisareligion]

[girlnumbers]

love when someone is like in my culture we respect women. that has literally never been a thing in any culture ever lol

[gender-machine-broke]

“We respect women here”

>look inside

Women are treated as property and their suffering is romanticized as strength instead of alleviated

[5739e8-deactivated20260524]

Chat is it liberal to volunteer and actually help people instead of just larping online

I'm sorry it's just so funny to see Americans shitting on community efforts and making all kinds of excuses, when one of the largest factors that lead to the recent victory of Hungary over Orbán's hybrid regime was local communities organizing into so-called Tisza-islands

[unrespectability]

personally i find conversations about whether Global Majority Female Separatism is possible quite misguided and self-defeating. my big beautiful pipe dream is not even Global Majority Female Separatism, it's like... 15% of women worldwide having access to a womyn's land, an intentional community, a single-sex housing association and/or an explicitly feminist mutual aid network. and if we're shooting for the stars? i'd love to see a 30%. there are places i could go to find Russian diaspora in multiple countries in the world; why cannot women as a class and a politically conscious group have vocal, defined, physical presence in our own countries or even freaking continents?

those spaces are not going to spring from conversations in which we give up before we ever even start; they won't come from us tiptoeing around it and leading with the disclaimers. when we describe those spaces and networks, we need to sound SECURE. those ideas need to sound APPEALING. our rhetoric needs to be PROVOKING. we need to inspire bold political imagination in women around us if we want them to try and create - or participate in - something viable

single-sex changing rooms, bathrooms, shelters, hospital wards - all these spaces are incredibly important, but they are also liminal and transitional. we need something stable, grounded, continuous. without it, i truly believe we are missing out on a huge resource of female connection, consciousness, solidarity, resilience, re-skilling and organizing power; and we are missing out on a sense of strong, secure identity. we deserve better than what we have right now, and we do ourselves no favours by coming up with reasons why we cannot have it all. and if we cannot have it all? fine. let's talk about the incredible possible benefits of having a fraction of it, rather than all the countless drawbacks and obstacles we can think of

[queen-mayhem]

I ran across "white women naming their pets after asian foods" discourse and I do not want to jump in and argue with a bunch of room temperature IQs but I need to get the thoughts out or I'm gonna burst.

In english, pet names tend to be 1-2 syllables, typically with the stress on the first syllable. They tend to fall into a handful of thematic categories, and "food item" is one of the major categories (alongside "adjectives" and "pop culture reference"). Which is why you'll also see a lot of pets named tater, dumpling, gouda, taco, biscuit, poutine, muffin, butters, cupcake, pepper, peanut, nacho, noodle, pumpkin, etc.

A lot of asian foods that are popular in the west (miso/tofu/kimchi/sushi/sake/boba) therefore sound good as pet names. Yeah it's a little bit trendy. Asian food in general is trendy in the US right now (can't speak to other countries). During the 2010s bacon craze, there were a lot of pets named Bacon.

It's literally not that deep. Check out this list of dog names from 1460. This is barely recognizable as english, and the names trend a little longer, but I gently draw your attention to "Garlik," "Salmon," and "Lamprey."

[radfemme-rage]

i honestly don’t care who you are or how radically feminist your views are. the second people engage with my pro-vegan posts with anti-vegan sentiment, i’ll block.

i’m not interested in engaging with women who presumably would never torture or eat a dog or a cat, but somehow justify it when it’s a cow or a pig or a chicken. i think it’s morally abhorrent and ridiculous and that you don’t actually have any genuine interest in deconstructing a patriarchal capitalistic industry of terror as long as you can benefit from it.

also, how on earth you can champion for your own reproductive and sexual autonomy yet pay for the mass torture, milking, forced pregnancy of cows, etc. is absolutely fucking beyond me

the way you treat life forms who can’t fight back tells me everything i need to know about your morality and actual views of concepts like freedom, oppression and equality 🤷‍♀️

[lesbecofem]

literally its like

[radfemme-rage]

you cooked with this. thank you