fight the stigma

We are here to provide a source of information, true information, about various topics to end the stigma against them. There is such a stigma in the rpc against people of color and the various amounts of cultures and religions, the lbgtqia+ community, people with mental health issues, those with disabilities etc. If you have questions, this is the place for you.

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Hello!! Do you know any "doe eyed" poc women over 23? Thank you love~

I’m not sure where you want to cap the age, so this will include quite a variety. 

Tina Desai, 30 (Indian)

Kiersey Clemons, 24 (African-American, Caucasian)

Adria Arjona, 25 (Puerto Rican)

Ashley Moore, 24 (I can only find one source where she states that she is “Black, White, and Cherokee”) 

Odette Annable, 32 (Colombian, Cuban)

Kerry Washington, 40 (African-American, Afro-Jamaican)

Jessica Parker Kennedy, 33 (Italian, Russian, African)

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heya, i was wondering if you could lend me a bit of fc help?? i'm trying to find a fc that looks like a younger laz alonso, around 30-years-old, hopefully?? If you could offer any suggestions that'd be great!

Oooh this was difficult. Laz Alonso is Afro-Cuban. The ethnicities of these may not be 100% matching, but they are Afro-Latino. I could only think of two, but I hope this helps!

Tristan Wilds, 28 (African-American, Afro-Dominican)

Kid Cudi, 33 (African-American, Mexican-American)

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Hi! I was wondering if any of you would be willing to make RP icons of Shyrley Rodriguez?

I’ll do this for you!

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So you’ve seen a roleplay that you don’t like... The road to calling out RPs... Dangerous but helpful if done right.

So, you’ve seen a roleplay.  Whether it be an indie roleplay or a group roleplay, you’ve seen it. The page is set up whichever way, and the roleplay group/indie has its rules and information splayed out for all to see.

But what’s that?  You’ve seen something you don’t like. Here’s where our guide kicks in.

Ask yourself these questions before you callout...

Is it offensive to you? (if you’re mad enough to think about a callout post, then the answer is always yes to this)

Is it offensive to a marginalized group of people? (i.e. is it racist, sexist, transphobic, homophobic, etc.?)

Have you spoken to the offending party? (this is the most  important!!; if you answer no,keep going. If you answered, yes, skip this next part)

Talking to the offending party!

When someone does something offensive in their roleplay, you have a right to talk to them about it. You also have the right to not talk to them about it. If you’re part of the marginalized group, you don’t have to educate that group. But not educating can cause unneeded drama. If it was done out of ignorance, usually the RP will change whatever it was that was problematic. Or, they will go about rectifying the situation. If it was done out of ignorance, but the knowledge of their problematic behavior doesn’t encourage  them to change, then that’s time for a callout post.

Making your callout post!

Write out all your rage in a separate draft/document/whatever. You need to get that visceral anger out, so write down everything you’re pissed about. Call them names, curse, yell, insult their family, whatever. But don’t publish this. It’s no good. It’s too much anger.

Then, you look over the anger post. Look over it and pick out the arguments that aren’t based on your personal opinions. Focus on why the content is problematic and not why you think it’s problematic.

Ex. OK. Very extreme example. A non black MUN uses the n-word while playing a black muse. They think it’s fine because they’re playing a black muse.

You say it’s not fine because that word is not for them to use, no matter who they’re playing. Non-black muns shouldn’t use that word.

You may think they’re garbage trash forever and a lot of other things, but the focus of a callout post should be to educate.

So, they didn’t like your post

Okay, so there are some people who respond to callout posts with a lot of HATE.  The usually “f you I can do what I want this is my indie/roleplay/whatever”. Grab those receipts and attach them to the callout post. The decent people of the roleplay world will sort out the rest.

Recently, a smut roleplay had some really shitty stuff on their blog, and they were called out for it. Quite appropriately too. They were contacted first, and when they didn’t change what was problematic and offensive, a post was made about them.

Essentially, the RPC shut them out. There were still people who applied for that roleplay, but eventually the roleplay died because most people in the RPC don’t want to be involved with that kind of stuff.  There are certain things the RPC can agree on, and RPHs and RPT blogs will support your callout if it’s informed and written without the rage meter on high.

Sure, those posts get picked up too, but your more likely to be listened to if you’re calm and informed since most of the RPC is also afraid of getting screamed at online without being contacted before hand.

TL;DR: Contact the people with their problematic behaviors first and only if it’s problematic. If it just makes you mad, block and move on. Don’t be confrontational. And only call them out if they don’t change their problematic behavior. Above all, realize that you actually can’t force people to be decent. You really can’t, and that sucks. It sucks out loud, but that’s the way the world is. And spewing vitriol isn’t helping anyone.

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hey! I was just wondering if you got my request for daveed diggs gif icons? no rush, I was just wondering.

hey lovely ! we did, hopefully someone will pick them up soon. i love daveed, but my tdl is just too long at the moment !

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you must identify as bisexual AND male. it will look at the mental health of bisexual males and how they cope with the quality of their mental health.

Hey guys! i’m desperate, i need participants or i can’t do my study so if you’re bisexual AND male and would be interested in helping me out, please take this quick survey to register your interest. i only need between 10-15 people, i have 2 so far. the study will most likely just be another survey, or an audio only (non-video) interview on a platform such as skype / discord / facetime.

please feel free to reblog! 

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Do you guys do shout outs?

hey lovely ! only if your rpg is say for instance an lgbtq+ rpg, or 25+ rpg etc !

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Hi! I’ve created a survey for the roleplaying community! If you would,  please fill this out. This is an open complaint box for people who may have qualms over certain things in the RPC.

This is an attempt to fix some issues that may be hurting the community. Please reblog this post and spread this survey. Thank you so much!

Happy Roleplay!

RPC SURVEY LINK

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i’d love to have some things to answer, so send in any questions / requests that you may have ! i’m in a writing mood !

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OPEN FOR REQUESTS / QUESTIONS !

we have recently gained four lovely members, which takes the number up to five people here just waiting to fulfill any of your requests and answer your questions ! 

we make resources for those who are part of any minority here in the rpc, because minorities seem to have stigmas against them and we want to stop this from happening ! we are here to educate and to help, any questions you have about anything we can help you with. we have people here who specialise in a lot of things from mental health issues + physical health, ethnicity + religion, gender + sexuality and so much more.

for more information you can look HERE or at our independent pages which you can find at /helpersname e.g. /nox, /bo, /cait, /natalie, /dan

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have you noticed that every demi lovato fc struggles with eating disorders / self harm / bipolar, and it's like the character is built around that and the fact that she will obviously relapse. whatever rp i'm in, if there's a demi that ALWAYS happens. what are your thoughts on it?

to be honest, nonnie, it is a trend i’ve noticed but not every demi fc i’ve seen has had these issues, because some people can look past her mental health issues and not use them as major character plot points. i think if you’re going to pick a character and have them have mental health issues, it should be because of the characters background, because of them, not because the fc you have has mental health issues and you want to use them in your plots because that just doesn’t sit right with me ? it’s sorta the reason i hate interacting with demi lovato fcs because you can just tell when the player is going to go in that direction with their character. 

tl;dr: feel free to write characters with mental health issues, but do it correctly and not just because your faceclaim has those mental health issues.

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affiliates has finally been updated, and i’ll be around all day to take any requests or questions you have ! i’m in the mood to do a guide, so come tell me what you want to know more about !

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mental illnesses aren’t adjectives

❖ PART 2/2 : Changing the language (Link to PART 1 /2: Why it’s harmful)

I have noticed that many find difficulty with finding the appropriate words to describe a character and will often misuse a mental health diagnosis in place of an adjective. This perpetuates stigma and spreads ignorance. These alternative terms are NOT synonymous with the mental illness, but rather what many are trying to say when they use a diagnosis as a casual adjective.

This list can be used to inform your writing, but I also hope that it helps writers to see what people with mental illness are hearing when you use their serious diagnosis as a casual descriptor. Each “full-term” is linked to the legitimate diagnostic criteria.

“BIPOLAR" or “SCHIZO”

• Full-term: Bipolar Disorder or Schizophrenia (two VERY different words, that are often used to describe the same types of traits in uninformed writings)

• What you are trying to say: unpredictable, volatile, labile, impulsive, moody, erratic, capricious, fickle, variable, fitful, spasmodic, mercurial, temperamental, protean, mutable, flighty, inconsistent, unpredictable, whimsical, ever-changing, fluctuating, unstable

“OCD”

• Full-term: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

• What you are trying to say: organized, finicky, fastidious, precise, obsessive (it may be part of the diagnosis, but it is also a work all on its own), compulsive (same thing), particular, scrupulous, conscientious, persnickety, meticulous, punctilious, picky, detailed, detail-oriented

“ADD/ADHD”

• Full-term: Attention Deficit-Hyperactivity Disorder

• What you are trying to say: fidgety, distracted, preoccupied, hyperactive, vague, inattentive, absentminded, faraway, bemused, restless, antsy, jumpy, wired, hyper, adrenalized, tense, energetic, overactive, active

“PSYCHO(PATH)”

• Full-term: Antisocial Personality Disorder

• What you are trying to say: manipulative, indifferent, antipathetic, solipsistic, sadistic, misanthropic, reclusive, disruptive, volatile, withdrawn, unfriendly, reclusive, uncongenial, cynical, jaundiced, evil, twisted, ruthless, heartless, barbarous, vicious, brutal, cruel, callous, fiendish

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mental illnesses aren’t adjectives

❖ PART 1 /2 : Why it’s harmful (Link to PART 2/2: Changing the language)

Something I’ve noticed is the way that many writers will use specific mental health diagnoses in place of certain character traits. I’ve also noticed that in day-to-day life, people often use the name of a diagnosis as an insult or even as an uninformed description. This way of perpetuating stigma is often fueled by a lack of knowledge on the subject.

1. It classifies very real illnesses into the categories of acceptable and unacceptable

“Can you believe your father broke my lamp? He’s so bipolar!” bipolar = violent and angry = negative

“Omg isn’t Linda’s house just so clearn? She’s so OCD.” OCD = hardworking and organized = positive

2. It desensitizes us to the serious nature of mental illness by diluting the meaning of the words

“Last time I ordered the chicken, there was a hair in it, so now I have like total PTSD.” I know this isn’t an adjective, but the disorder is being used in a way that makes light of a disorder stemming from very serious circumstances with very serious symptoms. The overuse of the word “trigger” for things that someone may simply dislike has a similar impact.

3. It perpetuates stigma related to mental illness

“Yeah, Steve hates sugar. What a diabetic.” When we use a mental illness in place of a simple adjective, it validates the claim that mental illnesses are just inside your head.

HERE is a full article on the subject of mental illness metaphors and much of this post was based on ideas presented here.

HERE is a video that may help you understand the importance of this information.

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hey guys ! i’m back after a weekend away, and i’ll soon be adding affiliates to the page, but feel free to send in some requests / any questions you have ! i’ll be here all day !

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can i get some alternates for jack falahee please? someone who gives off the same vibe but is poc?

My suggestions are below. I’d love to see Alex around more, for sure, but I think all of these guys work well for an alternate for Jack Falahee.

Ryan Guzman (Mexican, white)

Jesse Williams (African American, Seminole, white)

Alex Meraz (Purepecha)

John Boyega (Nigerian)

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Hey! I wanted to take a second to let you know that requests are open! I’m Dan and my page is here. I’m here for graphics help as well as general help. My specialties, in a sense, here are Judaism, Islam (and the cultures respective to both), as well as mental health and sexuality. Go ahead and send some requests and questions in! If you see Ricky Whittle lurking on dash, that’s me!